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Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 5:13:11 PM

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Have you ever tempted or initiated a practioner of vanilla sex into the world of consensual BDSM?
What gave them reason to agree to your offer?

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 5:24:22 PM

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Have you ever tempted or initiated a practioner of vanilla sex into the world of consensual BDSM?
What gave them reason to agree to your offer?

I introduced Hubby to the lifestyle. When He found out about my affair He wanted to learn to be my Dom. It has worked out very well.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 5:29:32 PM

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Congrats!!

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 5:48:27 PM

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We dipped a toe into the world of swinging, and met another couple through it. We made it clear that we were into BDSM, but that we did not expect it in that context. The couple we met had never had anything to do with BDSM, but were intrigued, and asked us to demonstrate a few things for them. They did it because they trusted us, after getting to know us and learning about where we were coming from, our values etc. We showed them our toys, and they asked us to let them experience some of the sensations. We have gone our separate ways, but they are going to explore further. I guess there must have been a buried kink there they had never had the opportunity to explore, because they didn't contact us with the intention of looking into BDSM.
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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 5:52:31 PM

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I've always been completely open with being in the BDSM lifestyle... so pretty much anyone who knows me for more than a day will learn all about the lifestyle... and I can only think of about two people that I've ever ran across who never sparked in interest in the lifestyle... and quite a few BDSM is just a part of their lives now.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 6:20:45 PM

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Only online, so I doubt that counts. If I ever meet a local girl, I honestly don't know how I would approach the subject with her. I suppose it depends, obviously, on building up a level of trust over time.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 7:08:18 PM

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My husband had very little knowledge before meeting me. I am up front and honest about who I am and was with him long before we ever went on a first date. While he is not "active" himself, now...he supports my activity fully and is dipping his toes in ever so slowly for himself.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 7:12:59 PM

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Have you ever tempted or initiated a practioner of vanilla sex into the world of consensual BDSM?

yes

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What gave them reason to agree to your offer?

they wanted to get laid

the thing is... they were so eager they didn't bother to ask what the indoctrination was going to be... I decided it should be "denial"

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 7:17:46 PM

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Have you ever tempted or initiated a practioner of vanilla sex into the world of consensual BDSM?
What gave them reason to agree to your offer?

I became interested in BDSM, after a lot of reading and talking online. I brought the subject up to my husband, and after some researching, we both became active with a local group, for learning.

We'd been poly in the past, but vanilla for the past 15 years while childraising. I think he was just so delighted that the vanilla spell was showing signs of ending, he was ready to embrace BDSM with open arms. *smiles*

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 7:56:59 PM

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I was at a swingers party where the host let us get into some BDSM. I was caught off guard by someone spanking me that i squealed as i always do. We didn't know it but htere was one guy not into BDSM. After watching a couple of us, he was full of questions.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 8:01:19 PM

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My man is a vanilla conversion. It turns out that he is nicely and most competently sadistic and ruthless. Yum.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 8:53:05 PM

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Have I ever converted someone? No... but I'm a recent convert, myself. I didn't know a thing about BDSM until I met Aqua... and six months into our relationship I was only slowly beginning to embrace my dominant side. Now, after a year and a half, I'm much more comfortable in the lifestyle, and I honestly don't know if I could go back.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 8:56:23 PM

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I was the conversion. My husband and Master had been involved in the lifestyle on and off for 12 years when we met. I was mildly curious, having read various books, but I was, in reality, a very innocent English lass.

He corrupted me.

*le sigh*

And I've enjoyed that corruption.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/8/2007 9:01:11 PM

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Have you ever tempted or initiated a practioner of vanilla sex into the world of consensual BDSM?

Why as a matter I have!

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What gave them reason to agree to your offer?

Gave them a little taste of good old fashioned Ass Spanking, Hair Pulling, Light Name Calling Sex. They were blown away and enjoyed it. I then said there was more things we could do, and let the BDSM cat out of the bag. They were again blown away, and were like a little kid in a candy store wanting to experience it again, and more.

Hit them up with BDSM having giving them a taste of Killer Sex! LOL... sneaky I know...

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/9/2007 5:31:22 AM

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Of course I've been tempted to convert women I've met in the past, although I always decide against it, unfortunately I've only met women through friends or work in the past and I'm still in the closet about my kinky interests, so I've been worried my interests might create problems if they came out to work collegues or friends.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/9/2007 6:32:09 AM

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It has been my experience that a lot of "normal" people are a lot more kinky than you would think. It's just that they are brought up that you don't talk about that kind of stuff. Once there is a connection, and there is trust in a vanilla relationship, more times than not adding some mild bdsm (bondage, light spanking, etc.) into your sex life is a very natural progression. You don't call it fetish, just being kinky, and they don't give it a second thought.

It becomes quickly obvious which ones are okay with it, and which ones really get into it. The tricky part, I have found, is the dominant/submissive part of the lifestyle. So far, even though you have been getting heavier and heavier into hot, steamy, kinky sex; played the Dominant and have them love it. But to them it is still two equals playing. It's not that you haven't been the Dominant one in the relationship all along, just that they have not acknowledged it to themselves on a conscious level. And that is the interesting make or break point. Some, even though they have been submissive the whole time, when it is suggested that that is what they are, they bolt. Others realize this is exactly what they want, what they have been yearning for all their life, without even knowing it. Bingo. A fetish relationship is born.

This, at least, has been my experience.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/9/2007 6:48:17 AM

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Have you ever tempted or initiated a practioner of vanilla sex into the world of consensual BDSM?
What gave them reason to agree to your offer?

My current grrl actually told me at one point:
"There is no way in hell I would ever let a man spank me or call him Sir"

A few months later she was at my knee in collar and leash while I read some of my poetry concerning her submission at a local performance art venue.

What made her change her mind? Trust and intrigue into what folks like it. Her history is one of severe abuse and she has found that through BDSM she can simply be in her body and can work through these issues in a safe and loving manner.

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RE: Vanilla conversions - 6/9/2007 6:53:24 AM

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Have you ever tempted or initiated a practioner of vanilla sex into the world of consensual BDSM?
No, but i have several "swinger" friends who have become intrigued by BDSM and D/s thru my experiences.

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