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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/8/2005 5:46:29 AM

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Young lady,

What you are seeking is the most powerful turn-on for a true sub/slave. What is the thing that most women crave...Security.

Most men crave this too.

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I never forget that even though I have total control over her life, I give her "free-time" everyday to express her thoughts, fears, concerns or need for clairification of anything. It may or may not get me to change my mind, but I do take it into account.

Ruffneck

I never have "free time" in that I am always expected to be acting within the Owners guidelines and principles. We don't have a specific "lets sit and talk time" more in that when there's something to talk about, I bring it up when it feels right. I've learned over time what's good and what's not.

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/8/2005 1:54:08 PM

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Young Lady,

The thing that most "real" men crave is power. They can get it through fame, fortune or political. I see these so-called men today that can not even go to the video stoe without calling home to see if what they want to get is ok with their woman's ok. How very sad.

As far as free-time goes. I like to have a time set aside so that if ,and I stress if, she needs to let me know her concerns, fears or further explinations, then it does not fester and she can have the comfort of knowing that she can come to me in a safe and less restrictive environment with it.

Ruffneck

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/9/2005 6:06:02 AM

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Young Lady,

The thing that most "real" men crave is power.

That's because they think power will give them security.

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They can get it through fame, fortune or political. I see these so-called men today that can not even go to the video stoe without calling home to see if what they want to get is ok with their woman's ok. How very sad.

Considering the number of submissives on this site who have to do that and are happy with it, both male and female, I think you're treading on thin ice.

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As far as free-time goes. I like to have a time set aside so that if ,and I stress if, she needs to let me know her concerns, fears or further explinations, then it does not fester and she can have the comfort of knowing that she can come to me in a safe and less restrictive environment with it.

Ruffneck

So no other times are safe?

Why not make ALL time safe and open to discussion?

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/9/2005 8:41:24 AM

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So no other times are safe?

Why not make ALL time safe and open to discussion?

Emeraldslave2

All times are "safe" but not all times are appropriate....there's the difference.

i'm always safe with my Master, and i feel more comfortable speaking to Him than with anyone else in my life, but i am His slave first and foremost and as His slave i have certain rules and restrictions i live by, there are times when i am to get things done which are required of me, or when He simply wants me to be quiet, but i can always count on my free time at the end of the day to express any concerns, questions etc... there's a time and a place for everything.

just my .02 worth : )

Ruffneck's babygirl

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/9/2005 9:33:11 AM

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I think I'm more confused by the "free time" concept because to me that implies that it's a time where you aren't the slave, that you are "free."

Calling it "disclosure time" would be more appropriate for me, and while it would be exactly the same thing that you're already doing, the implications of how it's labeled would have a deep psychological difference.

I understand the concept of appropriateness, but if there's something to talk about and we've got a half hour free, I bring it up, not only because we're not into ritualizing anything, but because I never have any idea when the next open space might be. Might be all night, might not be for a week or so. And even during that time, it's not "free" talk.

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/9/2005 9:35:24 AM

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As an aside, does Ruffneck REALLY believe that people who feel the need to ask permission for things, whether explicitly part of the relationship or not, are sad? Or not "real"? Specially in the case of males?

That would just seem so odd for someone who is part of Ds- which is all about getting into relationships where one person has authority over the other.

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/9/2005 9:49:48 AM

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I think I'm more confused by the "free time" concept because to me that implies that it's a time where you aren't the slave, that you are "free."

"free time", in our relationship doesn't mean that i am not a "slave" during that time...i'm always His slave, i am always submissive to Him because it is who i am, it's not a role i play.

Calling it "disclosure time" would be more appropriate for me, and while it would be exactly the same thing that you're already doing, the implications of how it's labeled would have a deep psychological difference.

no matter what Master decides to call that time in our day it really doesn't make an ounce of difference to me because it's not about what you call it it's simply what we do.

I understand the concept of appropriateness, but if there's something to talk about and we've got a half hour free, I bring it up, not only because we're not into ritualizing anything, but because I never have any idea when the next open space might be. Might be all night, might not be for a week or so. And even during that time, it's not "free" talk.

"free time" does not mean i throw respect out the window, or that i forget i am His slave...respect is always present, no matter what ... we both have busy schedules so we don't have the luxury to just hang out all day together and discuss everything that pops into our heads at that very moment....that's where free time comes to play, during that time i am able to get whatever thoughts i've had during the day and express them to my Master, rather than just trying to contact Him through out the day each time i have a question or comment about something.

It works for us.

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/14/2005 1:57:31 PM

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What ever happend to (master may I speak openly) on any subject at any time, its called open communication, waiting for free time I could lose valuble imput on a time sensitive situation, Knowingly holding back the input of information that would cause me to lose face and humiliation or even worse money, would be cause to severely lash her breast and punish her impudent uncaring bald cunt.

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RE: Powerplay is my favorite. - 6/15/2005 6:38:53 PM

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the mental aspect for me, just has to be there or its just kinky sex for me. Nice, but not wholesome enough.

I was eating cashews the other day, i tend to ritualise how i do this, and its fast. Peel eat whilst you peel the next. I was made to peel 2 dozen, and not eat one, it was bloody hard. But eating nuts, suddenly got very hot indeedy.

Only now im in a requited loving D/s relationship, can the power play really begin, before was so superficial. With love and trust in our relationship, the power exchange has increased immensly. The pleasure from physical play is great, and probably the best sex ive had, but add to that a really significant power exchange, and the pleasure increases ten fold.

But sex is only part of a relationship. Power play can happen anywhere, anytime. In front of the kids, mates, and its all so secret and lovely. I am as you can see, a great fan, more of this than any other play aspect. without it, its just kink to me.

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