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MadRabbit -> RE: Got the cash to buy ONE book... (6/12/2007 4:42:11 AM)
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Master/Slave.
The abbreviation for Masochist and Sadism is almost always S/M and Master and Slave is almost always M/S. (Excluding the few jackasses who just HAVE to be different [:D])
Some books will deal with relationships on a power and authority exchange level.
Other books view solely D/S as being about fulfillment of erotic sexual fantasies.
Its important to not just read one book in my opinion but a variety of books, because each book will present a different perspective on things.
I would say Screw the Roses, Give Me the Thorns is a great techinque book, but I have serious disagreements with the writers views on the nature of D/S and M/S in relationships, definitions, the purpose of limits, punishment, etc (Theres quite a long list of what I disagree with [:D]).
The Topping and Bottimg books I would say, will provide a huge wealth of information for "sceneing", but their perspectives on relationships that go outside of this, I dont agree with. They are a lot easier to swallow them the very non biast opinions in Screw the Roses, Give Me the Thorns.
Now...you take a book like the Master's Manual by Jack Rinella, it has a wealth of information on having a relationship that is a lifestyle and not just a relationship that is simply extended erotic roles and fantsies as the two books above might lead you to beleiving.
Of course, at the same time, a lot of what Jack Rinella writes about is from the perspective of a Leatherman and the homosexual communtie so some of his concepts and terminology would be very foreign to the average hetrosexual couple into BDSM.
Books can also be very detrimental to someone new, because without all the variety of opinions and perspectives present in them, it can leave someone very confused when they are still trying to "figure it out". Especially if you are looking for "THE" answers as opposed to "YOUR" answers.
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