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LarTric -> Anal Worship (6/11/2007 11:42:29 AM)
As a submissive male, one of my strongest fantasies revolves around anal worship, using it as a reward, queening, etc. I am thinking of suggesting to my girlfriend a "new house rule" where I would be expected to beg her each morning for the privilege of orally worshiping her anus soon after we woke up and would have to continue doing so until ordered to stop. Is this something that would appeal to a Dominant female or would it be more of a nuisance?

MsBearlee -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 11:48:22 AM)
Oddly, this smells less like asshole and more like troll...

LarTric -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 11:50:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsBearlee Oddly, this smells less like asshole and more like troll... With all due respect, that was a pathetic response. If the subject doesn't interest you, just ignore it.

MsBearlee -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 12:03:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LarTric quote: ORIGINAL: MsBearlee Oddly, this smells less like asshole and more like troll... With all due respect, that was a pathetic response. If the subject doesn't interest you, just ignore it. You missed my point: I looked at your profile...it is almost nonexistent; I looked at your question and believe you to be more interested in topping from the bottom (getting to be nasty as often as possible) than looking for ways to actually BE submissive. As it happens, I do like such behavior; but like all things 'rote' the lack of spontaneity ruins it for me. Besides, I am the one to make the rules. This is less about sincerity and willingness to please than it is about: can I start a tread that will aid me in wanking today? But...I'm quite sure you will ignore what it is I have to say... LOL

AAkasha -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 12:06:23 PM)
It all really depends on whether or not your girlfriend is honestly interested in using your fetishes as a way to manipulate me. If it were me, I'd find a way to use it as both a torture and a rewarding, depending on my mood. Akasha

earthycouple -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 12:21:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsBearlee You missed my point: I looked at your profile...it is almost nonexistent; I looked at your question and believe you to be more interested in topping from the bottom (getting to be nasty as often as possible) than looking for ways to actually BE submissive. As it happens, I do like such behavior; but like all things 'rote' the lack of spontaneity ruins it for me. Besides, I am the one to make the rules. This is less about sincerity and willingness to please than it is about: can I start a tread that will aid me in wanking today? But...I'm quite sure you will ignore what it is I have to say... LOL Ditto.

MHOO314 -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 12:57:07 PM)
*Ok, honey (A) I'm lost on you setting house rules, subs don't SET them, they honor them...(B) I'm thinking you are looking for wanking fodder.*

LarTric -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 1:15:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha It all really depends on whether or not your girlfriend is honestly interested in using your fetishes as a way to manipulate me. If it were me, I'd find a way to use it as both a torture and a rewarding, depending on my mood. Akasha Thank you for response (the only honest response so far). However, I don't understand the point of "manipulating" you. Considering you would be on the receiving end of something relaxing, something that feels good, something that asserts your dominance, etc, why wouldn't you want this in place? What is the downside?

MissyRane -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 1:29:05 PM)
oh lordy would I be grossed out for YEARS if I would get a wet tongue up my ass omfg seriously..so my domme side would say it was a nuisance[:D] (im such a big bad domme cough) but each to their own anyway i just couldn't ever kiss somebody that loved keeping their tongues up a persons butt.. and I wonder why she should adhere to your fetishes daily...unless she's into them too of course..I'd say your fetishes would be adhered to as a reward or use them in a nasty way but expecting it on a daily basis and (instructing)telling her to instruct you to do it?????????? me not understanding this anyhow perhaps this's just me

AAkasha -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 1:32:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LarTric quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha It all really depends on whether or not your girlfriend is honestly interested in using your fetishes as a way to manipulate me. If it were me, I'd find a way to use it as both a torture and a rewarding, depending on my mood. Akasha Thank you for response (the only honest response so far). However, I don't understand the point of "manipulating" you. Considering you would be on the receiving end of something relaxing, something that feels good, something that asserts your dominance, etc, why wouldn't you want this in place? What is the downside? Even pussy worship or a back massage can be an unrewarding, unenjoyable experience for a woman when it is clear that the man is totally self indulgent or won't leave her alone about it. Hell, even orgasms can get old when a guy won't shut up about it and just wants to keep giving them; dominance is about pleasure on the lady's terms. It's clear you get off on anal worship. It's so clear that for a woman it might be like you have a one track mind and won't leave her alone about it. I've been with men that were like this with pussy worship. They could not understand why on earth I would not be over the moon to be with a guy that had a one-track-pussy-mind. The truth is, it was so much about HIM all the time that he made that act even one sided. If I was not in the mood to have him go down on me, he'd pout and be in a bad mood. I mean come on, seriously, how selfish is that? I will also add that the men who have been the most "focussed" on an act, whether it be foot massages or oral service, were more often BAD at the act than those that did it for my pleasure and could take it or leave it. Akasha

MsBearlee -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 1:41:03 PM)
I dunno why... but I have this idea these two posters could be related: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1073024/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#1075012 but, that's just me, I guess. AAkasha, you must have the patience of a saint! B

marieToo -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 1:46:08 PM)
I would suggest just being honest with her and telling her that this would turn you on and you would like to do it. Then ask her how she feels about it.

thetammyjo -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 1:48:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LarTric As a submissive male, one of my strongest fantasies revolves around anal worship, using it as a reward, queening, etc. I am thinking of suggesting to my girlfriend a "new house rule" where I would be expected to beg her each morning for the privilege of orally worshiping her anus soon after we woke up and would have to continue doing so until ordered to stop. Is this something that would appeal to a Dominant female or would it be more of a nuisance? Anything that I have to do becomes a burden to me as the dominant. It also shifts the authority and power dynamic. I would simply let her know that you are interested in this type of sexual interaction. If she decides to use that information be certain you should her how much you like it and that you value her greatly for allowing her to be this close to her. That will increase her likelihood to do it again and again.

LarTric -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 2:53:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissyRane oh lordy would I be grossed out for YEARS if I would get a wet tongue up my ass omfg seriously..so my domme side would say it was a nuisance[:D] (im such a big bad domme cough) but each to their own anyway i just couldn't ever kiss somebody that loved keeping their tongues up a persons butt.. and I wonder why she should adhere to your fetishes daily...unless she's into them too of course..I'd say your fetishes would be adhered to as a reward or use them in a nasty way but expecting it on a daily basis and (instructing)telling her to instruct you to do it?????????? me not understanding this anyhow perhaps this's just me Thanks for the response. I must say I am a bit surprised. Yes, I suppose you could argue that this would be "adhereing my fetishes" but, like everything else, it revolves around service and submission to her.

LiveToPamper -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 3:04:12 PM)
Er...I think he should ask questions but dont demand things.

domiguy -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 3:10:09 PM)
I'm thinking about establishing a brand new church and religion here in Chicago...It will be similiar to Christianity...accept in lieu of praying to Christ...You will all be worshipping my asshole.

LarTric -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 3:24:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha quote: ORIGINAL: LarTric quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha It all really depends on whether or not your girlfriend is honestly interested in using your fetishes as a way to manipulate me. If it were me, I'd find a way to use it as both a torture and a rewarding, depending on my mood. Akasha Thank you for response (the only honest response so far). However, I don't understand the point of "manipulating" you. Considering you would be on the receiving end of something relaxing, something that feels good, something that asserts your dominance, etc, why wouldn't you want this in place? What is the downside? Even pussy worship or a back massage can be an unrewarding, unenjoyable experience for a woman when it is clear that the man is totally self indulgent or won't leave her alone about it. Hell, even orgasms can get old when a guy won't shut up about it and just wants to keep giving them; dominance is about pleasure on the lady's terms. It's clear you get off on anal worship. It's so clear that for a woman it might be like you have a one track mind and won't leave her alone about it. I've been with men that were like this with pussy worship. They could not understand why on earth I would not be over the moon to be with a guy that had a one-track-pussy-mind. The truth is, it was so much about HIM all the time that he made that act even one sided. If I was not in the mood to have him go down on me, he'd pout and be in a bad mood. I mean come on, seriously, how selfish is that? I will also add that the men who have been the most "focussed" on an act, whether it be foot massages or oral service, were more often BAD at the act than those that did it for my pleasure and could take it or leave it. Akasha Keep in mind too that the idea would be to beg each morning... not to do the actual act. Whether I went through with it (like everything else) would be up to her. I honestly didn't think this would be met with such opposition.

Politesub53 -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 4:51:58 PM)
Its not the idea of the act thats met with opposition. Its with telling Her this is what you think the two of you should do. If you are submissive that should be Her choice. Maybe chatting about what you would like to do with Her would help. [;)]

AAkasha -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 5:06:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LarTric Keep in mind too that the idea would be to beg each morning... not to do the actual act. Whether I went through with it (like everything else) would be up to her. I honestly didn't think this would be met with such opposition. Keep in mind, for many femdoms, begging is only hot in certain contexts. If she is not femdom in orientation, then begging simply may seem annoying in general, so be careful of that assumption. Unless your mate has confessed to you that she's on for 24/7 anal worship and wants it all the time, any time, then you might find she would far more appreciate a different morning routine. Why not ask her? For me, the non sexual things are heaven, and then when I want my morning oral sex or an orgasm to get me going, I know that's always an option and I won't be bothered by requests or begging but need only ask. Nice morning treats would be things like having her coffee ready before she is up, letting out the dogs or animals if you have them, preparing the morning newspaper for her, having her slippers or robe by the bed (added bonus I love - towels right out of the dryer for the shower, so warm and cozy), and being at the ready for her breakfast desires. Akasha

pixelslave -> RE: Anal Worship (6/11/2007 5:35:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LarTric Keep in mind too that the idea would be to beg each morning... not to do the actual act. Whether I went through with it (like everything else) would be up to her. I honestly didn't think this would be met with such opposition. Welcome to the "Ask a Mistress" Forum LarTric, consider yourself as just having been "initiated". [:D] Anything you post will always likely be subject to controversy and opposing viepoints, some of which will be very different from your own. After all, isn't that why you posted your question to begin with; to learn how others might feel if approached with a question such as yours? There are many variations to this lifestyle and none will be in precise alignment with yours, mine, or the kinkster that lives next door. That's a fact of life on *any* of the Forums here on CM and I suggest you try to get used to it, especially if you wish to post without being offended when you don't get the response or assistance that you expected would occur. [&:] The most important thing to remember is that the relationship you and your girlfriend/Domme have will be unique to the two of you. It's my opinion there's nothing wrong with that as long as it continues to work for the both of you. No two relationships are the same and don't expect yours to fit some "ideal" of what a D/s relationship with a woman "should" be. I suggest you pursue this through honest communication by openly discussing your desires and needs with her according to the dynamic to which the two of you have agreed. In that manner, you've made your desires known and can allow the dynamic of your relationship to work things through as intended from there. [:)] If you don't tell her of your desires, how will she ever know? If they match hers and push her buttons too, so much the better and a happier couple you both may discover that you'll suddenly be. If it doesn't resonate with her, then at least she'll know of your desires, and you'll know where she stands on the issue too! In communicating your desires, I don't see where anything is lost from either side of the D/s coin. Will your desires be met? That's a question you'll never know the answer to until you discuss it with your Domme! [;)] - pixel

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