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Kiaban -> OOPS (5/31/2005 9:00:20 AM)
Nothing more fun than accidently "comming out" at work to your boss and co-workers with a misplaced "well my slave is bi" comment and thinking " did I just say that out loud? Funny thing is being guys most of them missed the 'slave" part and went right for the "she's bi?" Anyone else ever accidently come out at work or other places you didnt intend?

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: OOPS (5/31/2005 9:25:53 AM)
LOL why would you be talking about bisexuality at work to begin with? Frankly I'm towards the "anti-social" end of the spectrum when it comes to work. I can talk and laugh and be friendly to all of my co-workers, but since I can't comfortably be "out" at work, since I find I'm smarter than most of them, we really just don't have much to talk about. I find more than a 2 minute discussion on one's kids boring, and they wouldn't find most of my hobbies very interesting. I also don't drink alcohol and their social venue of choice is a smoky bar to drink weak beer, which I just wouldn't enjoy. So having conversations like bisexuality just wouldn't likely occur at all. However, occasional questions have popped up and I will be careful in saying things- such as "one of my boyfriends" or the like. However, I've never had an accidental slipping. I find I have to be more careful around my mother, the moment I start saying "we" she will jump all over that and think it's some huge announcement of commitment.

Kiaban -> RE: OOPS (5/31/2005 9:32:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2 LOL why would you be talking about bisexuality at work to begin with? Well we were out having lunch , one of the bosses and some of the sales force and a couple of girls walked by and someone said 'you are married so you can look but not touch" ....so naturally I opened mouth before engaging brain. heh

SirKenin -> RE: OOPS (5/31/2005 9:39:07 AM)
lol. Funny story. When I have come out, it has been quite intentional. I have come out to all My friends and My parents. W/we have not come out to her parents intentionally and thankfully have not let it slip yet. They like Me right now. W/we do not want to see that change. In My business no such opportunities ever present themselves, so that has yet to become an issue.

sub4hire -> RE: OOPS (5/31/2005 10:32:50 AM)
Since all they heard is "bi" how did you come out?

SweetDommes -> RE: OOPS (5/31/2005 10:43:29 AM)
We were talking at work about one of the other nurses who is dating a guy who leaves bite marks on her. Since she doesn't like it, the general consensus was that she needs to ditch him (that whole, non-consent thing, you know) ... then they started talking about how he's a "sick fuck" and so on and so forth. They asked me something along those lines and I said "if she enjoys it there is no problem with it, if she doesn't there is a huge problem with it, but that's only because it is non-consensual. I am staying out of this conversation about his mental status" ... They started asking me questions (which I flat out refused to answer, of course) but I'm thinking they know.

perverseangelic -> RE: OOPS (5/31/2005 11:36:08 AM)
Come out unitentionally? Lord yes. We were talking about body mods at work, and I mentioned that I had another tatoo I'd like and was sad I couldn't get it. Someone asked me why not, and of course I answered "My partner won't let me" They did a double take and asked what that meant. I admit, I kinda fudged and said 'well, he doesn't like tattoos....he let me get this one 'cause it was important to me" I got some odd looks, but it did flush out another kinky person at work. Though, the fact that her nametag says "Miss X" and she prefers people to call her that tipped me off. :)

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: OOPS (5/31/2005 11:42:50 AM)
It's actually something I practice with all of my partners (since, as the Owner tells me, I like to collect newbies). I practice with them how to maneuver interesting questions or situations they might find themselves in and help them see the situation from all angles and what the best response is. It gets better with time and practice- better to be prepared.

silkNsatin -> RE: OOPS (5/31/2005 12:54:50 PM)
I don't know if people at work know about my "kinks" but i did make an oops one time. Someone had done a job wrong and said "what are we gonna do with her?" and I casually said without thinking "Stick her in the corner and let her think about it while you go get the paddle" lol. Didn't get any weird looks just a lot of laughs...maybe they have "kinks" too.

MzBerlin -> RE: OOPS (6/1/2005 4:52:31 AM)
I'm very lucky in that I have always worked in sex-positive and open environments, so I've never had that particular situation come up. But I do go out with co-workers occasionally from my current day job (you have to have SOMETHING to do while you're working on being famous, you know [8D]) and we always get into interesting conversations. The other day I was at Starbucks with a coworker and we were discussing the enema products at work and he asked a question regarding the usage of one of the sets and I went into great detail, not realizing that the tables around us were paying attention. (I tend to talk rather loudly.) Believe you me- saying ENEMA in a public place is bound to get some attention at any volume. I was also out to dinner with someone I met on this site and he asked about the videos I've done.We discussed a few and then he asked the inevitable- "So, B, what is the most hardcore or crazy thing you've done?" I did one rather hardcore fetish film with another actress and in the end scene I was all tied up with a shoe-gag in, but instead of a shoe it was holding an inflatable dildo, reversed. (Usually a shoe gag holds the shoe so the toe is in the wearers mouth and the rest of the shoe is out. In the video the end of the dildo connected to the pump was in my mouth) I described the scene to my date, and used the colorful phrase "and then I face fucked her with one of those huge inflatable dildos" just as the music went off. (of course!!) There was a group of Hollywood hipsters next to us, and a quiet Asian on his iMac. The hipsters looked over and checked me out, then gave each other strange looks. The Asian gave me a thumbs up and said "Right on!!" If that was too much info for y'all, I apologize, but I never get to tell my funny stories. B

Manawyddan -> RE: OOPS (6/1/2005 6:59:01 AM)
I live in California, so unfortunately it israther difficult to shock people out here, even the staunch Republicans. I'm out to everyone at work and almost all my friends as poly. I am not out to my family, but I will be once my fiancee and I are married (so they on't think my relationship with my fiancee is undermined). I am not out at synagogue. As far as bdsm, that's a 'preferred sexual positions' thing and not of general interest as far as I'm concerned. Any friend or co-worker whom I feel comfortable enough to have discussions about sex with, gets the 'leather and chains' info.

perverseangelic -> RE: OOPS (6/1/2005 8:24:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Manawyddan I live in California, so unfortunately it israther difficult to shock people out here, even the staunch Republicans. I'm out to everyone at work and almost all my friends as poly. I am not out to my family, but I will be once my fiancee and I are married (so they on't think my relationship with my fiancee is undermined). I am not out at synagogue. So says you :) I'm in Cali too.

sub4hire -> RE: OOPS (6/1/2005 8:50:10 AM)
quote: I live in California, so unfortunately it israther difficult to shock people out here I have to disagree with that statement as well. It is quite easy to shock people here. Of course we have transexuals walking down Hollywood Blvd day and night. Although we all don't live in Hollywood. The majority of people who live in California live elsewhere. It is no different than anywhere else on the shock scale. Everyone knows who I am but that is because of who I am. Brutally honest. I have no desire to hide who I really am to anyone. If I were an attorney I'd be a fetish attorney. Just depends on how you live your life.

proudsub -> RE: OOPS (6/1/2005 9:15:02 PM)
Just yesterday after golf some of us ladies were chatting and it got on the subject of reading porn, something about a book written by a group of housewives. Anyway, at that point i mentioned that i had written a porn story with two others online. I think that shocked a few of them who think i'm probably a real prude LOL. I didn't dare mention that it was a bdsm story.[:)]

mnottertail -> RE: OOPS (6/1/2005 10:19:18 PM)
This whole thread kills me.......... so how do you explain children? do you feel you have to? how do you explain two? "Well, we figured out what we did and know how to do it again".........I don't apologize for being a man and don't apoligize for being kinky (if that's what it is) and I don't apologize for being so not caring about being christian.............who even cares...............is it the guilty pleasure? Oh, Gawwwwwwwwwwd, I got those. I have speeding tickets in my past, DUIs (not many but plural) I am a computer geek, I crapped on the street when I was real little cause I had to (tradition be damned). Thats the end of the joke.............................people in this world have sex, there is a world full of people that have to attest to that fact, implicitly, hand your kids rubbers............they will have sex (whether you legislate this or not), if you live it is a certainty you will die........... at what point did this become even a reason to find something interesting to discuss? Be well, be whole.............If Bill Clinton gets a blowjob we gotta talk about it. Guess what, if I am your garbage man, and you will give me a blowjob.....we're on..........Does that make me President? There is nothing unique in the world besides the inside of a duck. So, the real problem is, as I see it (MHO) that it would seem like in a world of billions and billions of people it should be easy to find One. Well, it ain't. There lies the struggle, the infirmity in our souls, the desire, the ....................... Rant over, Ron

MadameDahlia -> RE: OOPS (6/1/2005 10:49:49 PM)
I'm out to parents... sibling... friends... the security guard who patrols the area near my work... but not my boss, and not many of the people who frequent the gym I work at. It's just not something I want to deal with from my boss.

brightspot -> RE: OOPS (6/2/2005 2:23:48 AM)
This isn't work related, but I was at the Dentist getting my teeth cleaned. I have a Triskilian(s?) tattoo on my right wrist. I had a long sleeve shirt on but I was feeling kind of warm and automatically just pushed up my sleeves. At the end of my appt. the Hygentist said she had noticed my tattoo and was it a symbol of some sort, I answered by saying "Yes it is a symbol, something special between myself and my partner. Then she pulled up the bottom of her pants and showed me an ankle braclet tattoo on her right ankle..... A slave braclet perhaps?[;)] *Brightspot

MzBerlin -> RE: OOPS (6/2/2005 2:41:08 AM)
mnottertail- why the rant? I thought this was a funny story thread. b

mnottertail -> RE: OOPS (6/2/2005 4:51:22 AM)
Dearest MzBerlin, I also think it hilarious. However, I probably don't come across right, because I think I leave a lot of holes when writing (and talking). As for ranting, I just am somewhat ....uhh (no word in this void of no coffee this morning on top of my shoulders) just can't fathom outness or inness since I am neither exhibitional nor timid. Ron

SweetDommes -> RE: OOPS (6/2/2005 11:38:10 AM)
Being "out" or "in" is not always determined by being an exhibitionist or timid. I am not open about it because of my job. First, it brings up way too many stereotypes, second, someone could very well use it against me at work. I am not timid, and 90% of the time will answer any questions that are asked honestly, but I also have a habit of saying "this is not the place for those discussions" or (as in my example) "I prefer to not participate in this discussion" because there are some things that I just CAN'T be out about and still keep my job. Let them think what they want, but I have said nothing that will incriminate me and I intend to keep it that way.

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