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MHOO314 -> RE: need advice (6/13/2007 11:37:37 AM)

Now Now My esteemed colleagues, he is new so let's cut some slack here and I am sure cyber is new to him as well--
 
I believe what he asked was this" While they are chatting She does not want him doing homework or attending class."
 
 Now the class part. if She is any decent Domina, gets that people have lives, and therefore shame on Her--if however it is a time thay they have set to chat, then does She not have the right to ask for that time undisturbed?
 
It is all in the communication----of She is that narrow minded, then you know your own mind.



KaramelGoddess -> RE: need advice (6/13/2007 2:51:32 PM)

cari,
 
It already sounds like you don't trust this lady, so I wouldn't give her anything you aren't comfortable giving.  As a submissive you make the choice to submit, so make the choice here and let this "Domme" know that giving up passwords, etc. is a limit for you and that you will not do it.  You really have to respect and protect your own privacy nowadays.
 
Having said that, if she is really demanding all of your time online and leaving you little time to study then that says a lot about her character and you should probably step away.
 
Good luck to you.
~Kara



Trampler -> RE: need advice (6/13/2007 5:20:00 PM)

I am confused about the Domme too. cari didn't mention her profile name anywhere in this thread, or in her profile.



Politesub53 -> RE: need advice (6/13/2007 5:24:40 PM)

Hi Trampler, maybe the Dommes name was in the profile but isnt now ? i didnt look so i cant say, but thats the only way i can see others knowing it.
[;)]



MamaDomme -> RE: need advice (6/13/2007 6:39:21 PM)

Run, cari, Run!

Run fast and hard away from this type of situation!

You should never give your passwords to anyone for any reason.  Keep up with you educational studies by all means, and don't let any online influences get in your way of bettering yourself.

Good luck, hun!



SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: need advice (6/13/2007 7:19:33 PM)

I don't see anything wrong with this arrangement. The domme just wants her to be attentive to her needs and availible, perfectly reasonable to me.

Just kidding, it makes me sad that you would even have to ask if this is acceptable. Of course it isn't. It wouldn't be okay in any relationship, domme/sub, husband/wife, parent/child. Have a spine, tell this 'domme' to take a hike and get your learn on.

Next semester see if they have something like How to Detect Bullshit 101, or Delusion: A study in online domination and how retarded it is sometimes. They didn't offer either at my school, but yours may be different.



Laura -> RE: need advice (6/13/2007 8:33:50 PM)

I was married and never asked for his passwords for anything. That just doesn't feel right to me. You have to trust your sub (and you are not her sub) to want to be with you as your sub. If you have to get his/ her passwords and micromanage/ spy on them I don't see the point in continuing on with that person. I can get paid to babysit and I do not want to babysit an adult. (That is not the same as ageplay for those who will think it). lol 



tulipgoose -> RE: need advice (6/13/2007 8:45:21 PM)

In time it could be appropriate to lend such personal information. I have been in situations where I had passwords of my partners and they had my own... and it can be a great form of control for One to randomly change an email password so that you can be punished by not being able to use your accounts a day or so. BUTTTTTT!!! BUT BUT BUT! So soon in a relationship, that is just silly, unless you are THAT CLOSE.... and I believe in love at first sight, truly I do, and have experienced it, but I don't really see anything near that in your situation. ~ Secondly, do you truly want a Domme who will hinder your progress and growth as a human being? As a Domme myself, my main concern is for my pet's over all growth and well being. If something is important to him, I will do all in my power to help him reach that goal. It just seems highly un-true-Domme-like to desire to stop a subs growth and learning. There is a difference between a Domme saying "I want part of our time to be un-distracted from outside situation" and them saying you must skip classes and such. ~ Your Domme just sounds silly! ~ To me......

Tulip



MistressNoName -> RE: need advice (6/14/2007 8:12:40 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Trampler

I am confused about the Domme too. cari didn't mention her profile name anywhere in this thread, or in her profile.


The domme in question was named in her profile...emphasis on was, as cari has changed her profile statement...which I am glad to see. Previous she had written that she was under consideration by this domme, now it reads that she is still looking. But I won't mention the domme's name here.

MNN



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