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i"m not a transvestite - 6/1/2005 4:11:19 PM

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But have always had this secret desire to be forcefully dressed up by a strong demanding older lady. WHY i honestly don"t know !!!

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RE: i"m not a transvestite - 6/1/2005 6:21:27 PM

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Dear lexigan,

I am not a Mistress, but I have no doubt if you asked the right one nicely after decently chatting them up, as you say across the pond, they know why you do and will gladly demonstrate such knowledge.

Sincerely,
Ron

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RE: i"m not a transvestite - 6/1/2005 6:23:58 PM

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I can only guess that it may be the 'taboo' of dressing in a way that is not 'normal' to the straight, vanilla world. In my group of friends this act IS normal and I know many cross dressers aka men that enjoy dressing in female attire (wigs, nails, heels, etc...). I and my friends encourage then to enjoy their kink/choice and help with makeup tips, walking, etc... and of course then we enjoy going out to the local female impersonator restaurant here in Long Beach with our 'girlfriends' in complete drag. What I am told is that it's very liberating to be able to 'be' themselves and accepted as they choose to dress. Personally, it does nothing for me, but if my friends enjoy it, I will support them.

Enjoy, live your life and seek those of like minds. Water seeks its own level,
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RE: i"m not a transvestite - 6/1/2005 7:18:12 PM

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There are MANY reasons why you may have this desire...

I can't comment about you personally because I do not know you but I can offer many examples as to why a man may have desires to be dressed.

Oh, BTW... my partner is a transsexual, so I can even answer many of those questions as well.

Men have no real release in fashion. The color choices are basic, so are the cuts & styles available in male wardrobe. I have found that many men enjoy an occasional dress-up just for pure pleasure of enjoying a variety of textures & colors.

Others have certain triggers that are set off by wearing women's clothing. It could be from very erotic in a sexually stimulating way to erotic in a humiliating way.

There are many many levels of intensity in the realm of being transgendered (which is a polically correct word that lumps all facets & intesities of gender dysphoria together) From part time to full time cross dressers... to persons who plan to fully transition from a male gender to a female one... way too much to discuss in one post. I would be happy to post more if there is an interest.

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RE: i"m not a transvestite - 6/8/2005 10:16:26 AM

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If this is a turn-on for you, then perhaps you are a transvestite. It's not a bad thing.

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RE: i"m not a transvestite - 6/9/2005 5:48:55 PM

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But have always had this secret desire to be forcefully dressed up by a strong demanding older lady. WHY i honestly don"t know !!!

I am a Pro Domme and this is one of the most frequent requests that I get. I have spent some time interviewing several of My crossdressing clients and there is a very similar theme to what many say:

For some, the tighter the article of clothing, the better. The girdle crowd, I call them. They like the use of clothing to get a very restrictive/bondage feeling from the experience.

For others, they have been sneaking into lingerie drawers since they were about 8 years old when they did it with their mother or sister's underwear and there is an imprint. The frilly, soft lingerie feels good to them and many prefer to masturbate while wearing these articles of clothing.

I also agree with another poster that its also about fashion and getting to wear things that are not normally found in the male wardrobe.

Most of My crosddressers identify as strictly Hetero Males so it does not seem to have anything to do with sexual orientation or gender identity. I am only speaking strictly of crossdressers, not drag queens or trans folks.

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RE: i"m not a transvestite - 6/10/2005 6:04:08 AM

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I agree MistressMarry

The cross dressing does not equal homosexual.

As to the OP not knowing why, not much any of us can do to help resolve that mystery.

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RE: i"m not a transvestite - 6/10/2005 7:51:29 AM

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But have always had this secret desire to be forcefully dressed up by a strong demanding older lady. WHY i honestly don"t know !!!

I know that many men who X-dress feel a sense of uncomfortability with it because of the false idea that it makes them less hetero.

It might help to think about it in these terms- Take your above statement, but then take out the cross dressing part and insert any other fetish. Most of us who have a kink/fetish of one kind or another have a) felt a desire for it for a long time and b) don't know why.

Here's an example: I've always had this secret desire to be forcefully tied up by a strong demanding older man. Why, I honestly don't know!

See, it's interchangeable. It just so happens that I like rope and you like women's clothes. Neither really needs to have a judgement call placed on it. It simply is a desire.

Lily

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