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jthaddeus -> schedule and service? (6/14/2007 12:33:06 AM)

Hello,

I was wondering how many subs also work fulltime jobs, and if this causes complications with your Master and your service. If so, how do you work around it, and how have your Masters chosen to make this work?

Thank you very much.:)

-- j



moose -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 12:44:43 AM)

My Owner and I both work full-time for the same company, and are out of the house from break of day until about 6 in the evening. Does it cause complications with my service? I don't know, we've never been in a position to try it any other way :) It does mean that the house usually has to wait for me to have a 'flexi' day before it gets a thorough clean, then I go at it hammer and tongs.

I'm fortunate enough to have an Owner who is not only an excellent cook, but enjoys it as well; so he does that and I do everything else.

As for other forms of service, there will always be nights when one or both of us is just too tired or stressed from the day. We have lots of vanilla time, but not through choice; it's the only way to make it work.

The things that keep it going for us are routines, having a small number of manageable rules, and lotsalotsalotsa communication.



Lordandmaster -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 2:52:36 AM)

A slave is permitted to work outside the house if she brings me her wages.



jssubc -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 4:57:14 AM)

Not only do i have a full time job but Mistress actually owns the company and including myself has 8 employees. (nothing like sleeping my way to the top) ) *G*
i work a full day and come home to prepare dinner do housework etc. What i have noticed is that Mistress tends to observe how tired i am and allots time accordingly. If i am dragging She will pitch in to help get things done and if not then She expects me to do everything on my own. Mistress prefers to be served sexually in the mornings so i set my alarm 30 mins before Her so that i can take of my personal jobs and when i serv Her coffee She decides whether She wants me to please Her or not. Evenings tend to be more for reading and relxing once the chores are done. i am sure that if i didnt work outside the house then there would be more energy available for calisthentics at night *G* but life isnt that simple.
In terms of focus it would be easier if i stayed home but i do believe that one of the things that helps our relationship is that my working gives us common interests to discuss things and actually talk to each other.




DiurnalVampire -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 5:05:27 AM)

I work full time day shifts.  Angel is a student and works full time evening shifts. I barely see him, but our priorities are in place and school comes first without a doubt. When he ca get away from school, work and homework and assignments without hurting any of the above, we have time together. It isnt easy, but staying in comunication during the stretches of time that we cant see one another is important. If we have managed this long, I cam cope though another few years of school.
Kitten also works full time, though his schedule with work is slightly closer to mine.  He is more available and is here to serve a bit more often. There are times when I either do not want them here, or I warn them that even if one of them comes over I am just too tired for playtime. Vanilla time, time for them to do a few things around my apartment and just time to unwind together makes a big difference.

DV



berrysurprise -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 5:27:57 AM)

i would love to be available 24/7 for Sir, but in O/our reality having a good balance is the key to O/our happiness. W/we both lead full lives and i find my submissivness is something that i always carry with me, it is reflected in everything i do... Whether i am with Sir in person or not. i dont think it has affected our D/s relationship at all. In fact i think it has enabled U/us to build a very strong relationship.



slaveish -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 6:56:20 AM)

My relationship with Master is based on our own realities first. I have to work, and while at work I act in a manner that reflects well on Master and on me. I would do this even if I did not have a Master.

My career does not hamper my service to him. He knows what I can give and asks for me to give what I can, which I do happily. He does not give me impossible tasks, or tasks which would adversely affect my ability to earn a living. Other Masters / Doms might but it is up to the individual sub or slave to determine if the Man is a good match before she commits herself to him.



Archer -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 7:00:49 AM)

From going to work to taking the um's to school and sports etc, to housework to sexual matters and everything in between is "service to me". They are actions that move towards the goals I have set for my household.
There is a passage in Emily Post books on ettiquete that speaks diretly to knowing that even the most dedicated service person still only gets 24 hrs in a day.



viperess -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 7:55:28 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Archer

From going to work to taking the um's to school and sports etc, to housework to sexual matters and everything in between is "service to me". They are actions that move towards the goals I have set for my household.
There is a passage in Emily Post books on ettiquete that speaks diretly to knowing that even the most dedicated service person still only gets 24 hrs in a day.


Master Archer,
Thank You so much for this wonderful reply. That is also how my Master sees it, be it my working, cleaning, dealing with the UM's, each and everything i do is part of my service to Him. Before being injured i worked to help out Masters home and happily and willingly gave all to Him, while on workmans comp the same is true. It just now means while financially right now i am not as much help i do have more times to do other things in my service to Him. No matter if i am working or not working all i do is for Him.
Respectfully,



MissPriss88 -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 8:01:01 AM)

If you consider taking nineteen hours as a student, practicing four hours a day on horn for my major, and working part time as a server a full time job then I guess I can be counted in this.

I find that having a list of assignments tends to be helpful. Such and such must be done by [insert time here] But give the list a week ahead of time. That way one has time to prioritize and make time for said assignments.




allurette.



Shantra -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 8:22:10 AM)

Whilst I was in discussion with another slave recently who does not work, Master commented that his ideal would be that I do not work but focus upon him.  However, until circumstances change I work a 40 hour week  The only reason I have luxury time now is that I am still in recovery from surgery.

On top of my 40 hour week I see to all of Masters needs when I am home.  I do all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry and a lot of other tasks.  My weekday normally starts at 5:30 a.m. so that I can have Masters breakfast cooked, his coffee thermoses made and his lunch packed on top of taking care of my needs and showering and getting myself ready for work so that I am ready to leave by 7:30 a.m. 

It has been said that what I do is too much, but on the other hand Master works anything from a 50 hour to an 80 hour week and anything from a normal 8:00 - 5:00 day to a full 48 hours without sleep depending.  He brings in the bulk of our income and works hard for it.

Working does affect things particularly with other people in the home underfoot when I need to be doing things in the evening.  With Masters work hours it would be lovely to be a lot more flexible and sometimes it is difficult to get extra tasks done he asks me for.



Littlepita -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 9:45:58 AM)

I go to school full time and I parent an unmentionable. We lead very busy lives, but we never lose sight of the importance of each other and keeping our relationship centered on us. My Dom, is terrific at taking care of me through control, friendship, and mentoring. He also doesn't mind doing the grocery shopping or mopping the floors. What needs to be done and who is able to do it does it.

I have the next three weeks off from school and the UM is out of town. I plan to take that time to show my Sir exactly how much I appreciate all he does for us. [:)]



littleone35 -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 10:26:17 AM)

I go to school no \ob here yet but i arrange my school schedual so i will be free when Master is here i am lucky i can do that .  Of course Master expects me to get an 80 at least on my tests so i have to alloct time to study also.

Matt's littleone



MissyRane -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 10:35:48 AM)

I haaaaaaaaaaave a question eh you have a job....but your Master chooses how to make the relationship work...
would you change your job for your dominant?
My viewpoint is that if the dominant doesn't approve of my job then it's the dominant that goes, if the D can't be in a relationship with who and all of what I am then they can simply find someone else.

Is this anything different to vanilla relationships today? I don't think so. A relationship is a work and if you want to stay in that relationship you make it work .



Archer -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 10:45:56 AM)

Accepting control of employment situation requires that you trust the person to make decissions based on mutually agreed upon values. I make employment decissions for Elegant, I base the decissions on the same ethical values she found to give her a security and structure base to build the relationship on.

Capricious decissions are a luxury that fe people can afford to make.

She would get and keep or leave a job at my direction,because she would know that the decission was based on what I thought was best for the relationship not what is best for me as an individual.



sleazybutterfly -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 10:53:06 AM)

I work outside of the home as does M.  I did make my schedule so that I would be home in the evenings with him.  He didn't require me to, I chose to do it so that we could have that time together.

Nothing is different for me.  I still take care of the home and things like that.  I don't feel guilty asking for help if I need it though, and M is pretty good about giving it.  I do worry that I may not serve him as well, but for right now in our lives this is something I need to do. 



ready4srvce4all -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 11:45:27 AM)

I just relocated, and will be working full time once certain paperwork arrives.  Mistress has covered this when the time comes I am not around the entire day to provide service.  Quite simply, everyone else will just have to pitch in where they can.  My working full time contributes service in other ways, e.g. I contribute to the household expenses, and Mistress can continue with Her schooling and be with Her UM's during the day. 



Wildfleurs -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 1:23:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: jthaddeus

Hello,

I was wondering how many subs also work fulltime jobs, and if this causes complications with your Master and your service. If so, how do you work around it, and how have your Masters chosen to make this work?

Thank you very much.:)

-- j



Sometimes it does cause complications - somehow my work (as well as consleazing and general volunteerism) flow schedule and his are just never in sync, so my down times come in his busy times and vice versa.  What we try to do is isolate out particular days to spend together no matter what and I try to be very good about making the most of my work time to get things done.  Sometimes I fail and I get told to turn my cell phone off.

I also try to stay as organized as possible, which is why I love my palm life drive - it helps in terms of being more efficient with my time so I have more time with him.

C~



Mercnbeth -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 2:12:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: jthaddeus

Hello,

I was wondering how many subs also work fulltime jobs, and if this causes complications with your Master and your service. If so, how do you work around it, and how have your Masters chosen to make this work?

Thank you very much.:)

-- j



we agreed to make this slave's service to Master her full-time job.  it was a definite salary-reduction, but the Perks and Fringe benefits ROCK.[:)]



kyraofMists -> RE: schedule and service? (6/14/2007 3:29:09 PM)

I work fulltime as a manager of a loss prevention department.  It doesn't complicate things because he doesn't allow it to.  By working I am serving him and our family.  Without the benefit of my job we would not be able to take some of the trips that we have made, attend the conventions that we have or meet the people.

Recently, I am having to deal with the disappointment of not being able to spend more time on the tasks that he wants me to complete.  His expectations are a lot lower than what I want to be able to achieve for him.  But I do not serve at my pleasure, I serve at his.  It serves him to go to work and do my job well.  The other tasks that I would rather spend my time on have to be worked around my job.

Knight's Kyra



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