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Profile advice - 6/14/2007 6:59:04 PM   
Pandamonum


Posts: 78
Joined: 6/11/2007
Status: offline 		I have nothing written on my profile because I wanted to wait until I felt confident enough to write one.  Someone was able to contact me and inform me of deal breakers that were not on there, because I have no profile. 

What I would like are some guidelines on profiles.  If there are exceptional ones that anyone has encountered, regardless if it has turned out exceptional, I would like to see them or to get an idea of what I am posting.  I'm getting ready to get ready, if that makes sense. 

It feels just as flaky as it sounds.
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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 7:23:18 PM   
santalia


Posts: 142
Joined: 1/10/2007
Status: offline 		Greetings

The best advice i can give is to be yourself...if you include anything very negative, be certain it is very little, and especially not at the beginning of your profile. Start out pleasantly, stating what you're looking for, and tell the reader a little about you.

i hope this helps and wish you well.

-santalia{JR}

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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 7:25:32 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline 		Say who you are, what you'd like to find, what you can offer, and DO NOT BADMOUTH FORMER LOVERS.

Good luck.

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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 7:30:07 PM   
octavia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Say who you are, what you'd like to find, what you can offer, and DO NOT BADMOUTH FORMER LOVERS.

Good luck.



Awww come on, what are you afraid she's gonna say?

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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 7:32:55 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline 		Whenever I read those bitter profiles about how this person betrayed them and that person is a lowlife scum...but I will survive...I will surviiiiiiiiiiiiiive...I just hit the "Hide User" button automatically.  Way to tell me you're not Lam material!

Edited to add: Do you bellydance?

< Message edited by Lordandmaster -- 6/14/2007 7:34:21 PM >

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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 7:36:46 PM   
octavia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Whenever I read those bitter profiles about how this person betrayed them and that person is a lowlife scum...but I will survive...I will surviiiiiiiiiiiiiive...I just hit the "Hide User" button automatically.  Way to tell me you're not Lam material!

Edited to add: Do you bellydance?


LOL!!!  I was teasing.. meaning
what are you afraid she is gonna say ABOUT YOU... 
you know... previous lover..... ha. ha. 
oh well.  it was funny in my mind. 

yes i do dance.

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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 7:38:21 PM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		I agree with LAM, dont badmouth anyone else... baggage right from the get go is unappealing. Dont make your profile a laundry list of what you will and wont do, but make it readable and interesting. What are your interests, in and out of the lifestyle since most people want a partner than can be at the very least enjoyable outside. Dont tell someone everything there is to know about you, though, leave something to the imagination, and invite people to write to you to find out more about what they want to know.

Hope that helps.
DV


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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 7:40:13 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline 		I got that feeling.

(And yes, I knew what you meant, but I see these bitter vindictive profiles all the time now, and I'm in my random-act-of-kindness mood tonight, so I thought I'd do my part to help rid the earth of this new affliction.  Let's call them "My former dom was an asshole and guess what I'm going to say about YOU after we break up" profiles.)

quote:

ORIGINAL: octavia

yes i do dance.

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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 8:19:07 PM   
Pandamonum


Posts: 78
Joined: 6/11/2007
Status: offline 		*snicker*  I don't have that type of experience. 

I'm in the hopeful stage, hence, my asking.

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RE: Profile advice - 6/14/2007 10:05:32 PM   
jthaddeus


Posts: 30
Joined: 6/11/2007
Status: offline 		I was really hesitant to put anything up at first, and simply put a few lines about how I was new, and wanted to learn. Then in a fit of sleeplessness, I decided to put up everything I had thought about, wanted to try, thought I wanted to try, and the disclaimer that because I was new, I wasn't entirely sure if any of it was real or not, but simply that I was trying to learn, and these were some thoughts I've had.

I've actually been really pleasently suprised by the positive feedback I've gotten from this method, and am happy to say that I am talking to and learning from a few very nice people right now who contacted me because of it.

Your milage may vary, and I'm certainly not an expert on anything, but this is just my experience. I hope it  helps you.

- j.

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RE: Profile advice - 6/15/2007 12:27:02 AM   
LadyHeart


Posts: 561
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		I have one suggestion. Put up a pic. It doesn't have to show anything much. A back view or a silhouette or even a picture of your feet can be very effective. But people always pay more attention to profiles with pictures, and many set their Search options that way. I was talking to a sub friend just yesterday who said she'd been on CollarMe two years with little interest being given to her profile. This week she put up a picture and her mail box is full (She'll probably have to delete 99% of the emails, but there you go, lol.)

Try to strike a balance between saying too little and saying too much. You don't want to give away information that a skilled manipulator can use against you, so keep your deepest fantasies to yourself.

(Sneaks back to the Mistress's Forum and pretends she was never peeking in here...)

:))
LH

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RE: Profile advice - 6/15/2007 6:52:41 AM   
Pandamonum


Posts: 78
Joined: 6/11/2007
Status: offline 		Thank you very much for your advice.   I really appreciate it.

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RE: Profile advice - 6/15/2007 9:31:09 PM   
Sinergy


Posts: 9383
Joined: 4/26/2004
Status: offline 		 
I would like to add that people who put things like the following...
 
Will not put out on the first date!!!!!
 
Dont PM me unless you are REAL!!!
 
YOU WILL WORSHIP MY TOES, SLAVE!
 
I am so sick of people refusing to read my profile.

Make me go, in the words of Tyler Durden, a big wet rubbery one. 

These words seem to indicate from the get-go that the person is a complete drama queen.  Accept the fact that 99.9999% of the people reading your profile or contacting you will probably not be worth the powder to blow them to hell, and the .00001% who might find you interesting may get turned off by words like that.

Just me, etc.

Sinergy


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RE: Profile advice - 6/16/2007 9:07:58 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Well....come from a positive place...spell correctly....say something that is special about you......Tempting

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