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What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/15/2007 1:34:42 PM   
MasterHXB


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Status: offline 		There is no true master or slave.
There should be love and respect between the people in that bdsm relationship.
Newbies make better  than subs with exp.
Limits   must be respected.
No master should take complete control over his or her slave's lifes specially when money and children involved

more to come in time.
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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/15/2007 4:31:55 PM   
szobras


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ORIGINAL: MasterHXB
My thoughts on this MasterHXB, relevant to me only.
There is no true master or slave.
If, and, or until there is universal agreement on this one. I don't know. I think "true" anything is seldom defined.
There should be love and respect between the people in that bdsm relationship.
Respect, always in my opinion. Love, that depends on the nature of the relationship, and the understanding of love by each involved. I would certainly think that having love for another will come from shared experience, though not always being "in Love" with another.
Limits   must be respected.
No question in my mind, always.
No master should take complete control over his or her slave's lifes specially when money and children involved.
Another one for each unique relationship. Personally, these are two things that I do NOT choose to have control over. I parent my own, though am open to exchanging ideas as a parent. Finances may be discussed to help in management skills if agreed, or financial goals.



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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/15/2007 8:58:40 PM   
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There is no true master or slave.   Sure there is, and "true," like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.

There should be love and respect between the people in that bdsm relationship.  I don't think love is a requirement.  In fact, love is often detrimental to the D/s dynamic of a relationship.  I do, however, think that mutual respect is essential.

Newbies make better  than subs with exp.  Better what?  Canoli?

Limits   must be respected.  Depends on the limit.  Under certain situations, some limits need to be stretched and pushed.  I've got a couple dark gray areas that are pseudo-hard limits that, under the right circumstances, the Kaptin could successfully push.

No master should take complete control over his or her slave's lifes specially when money and children involved.  I don't agree with this 100%.  What if he earns the money and the kids are his?  I believe that whichever partner is the more highly skilled in a particular area is the one who should have control over that area, regardless of what it is.


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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/15/2007 10:05:23 PM   
aldompdx


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Status: offline 		There is no absolute true or false person.
Without love in one's own heart, there is no relationship.
Those who seek innocence should not look to those with experience. Those who seek wisdom should not pursue the naive.
People must be respected, including their limits.
No person should abdicate personal responsibility to another. If they make a free choice to relinquish authority to another, at all times they remain responsible for their choice.

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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 12:00:51 AM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: MasterHXB

There is no true master or slave.
There should be love and respect between the people in that bdsm relationship.
Newbies make better  than subs with exp.
Limits   must be respected.
No master should take complete control over his or her slave's lifes specially when money and children involved

more to come in time.

And let's not forget peace on Earth and goodwill to all men blah blah - or have I just spoilt that next instalment?
 
Focus. 

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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 12:08:10 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Hey...we're still waiting for you to answer all of our questions in your "ask me anything" thread.

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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 5:08:45 AM   
MadRabbit


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Status: offline 		I beleive there is some kind of connection between bald heads and dark "Bad Ass" shades.

I keep meeting all these male Doms with both appearance features.

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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 7:30:13 AM   
Stephann


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ORIGINAL: MasterHXB

There is no true master or slave.
There should be love and respect between the people in that bdsm relationship.
Newbies make better  than subs with exp.
Limits   must be respected.
No master should take complete control over his or her slave's lifes specially when money and children involved

more to come in time.


Hrm...I am truely me.  Master would be something my girl would call me, and that would be true for her.  Calling her slave would be true for me.

BDSM does not equate with love, any more than raquetball equates with love.  I can  play raquetball with someone who I don't love; I can play it with someone I do love (or I can find a cooler hobby, like spelunking.)  Not everyone who is looking to tie/be tied is looking for romance or love from it.  Indeed, BDSM is one of the few realms where not having a loving relationship isn't cause for immediate stigma.

Newbies might make better subs for you, because they often come with less baggage and are easier to mold into your expectations.  I'll take experience over naivete any day.

Limits?  When a girl (I'm committed to, involved with, etc etc) says 'no' she doesn't always mean (or want) it.  If I respect her no all the time, she's could end up pretty irritable.

And finally, back to the love thing, people willingly and happily surrender the control of their life to lots of folks.  "Should" means you wouldn't want that kind of responsibility.  Good for you.  Should, for me, means I take on whatever responsibility I think is best in my relationship.

Take care,

Stephan


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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 10:50:15 AM   
Celeste43


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ORIGINAL: Evanesce




Newbies make better  than subs with exp.  Better what?  Canoli?

No master should take complete control over his or her slave's lifes specially when money and children involved.  I don't agree with this 100%.  What if he earns the money and the kids are his?  I believe that whichever partner is the more highly skilled in a particular area is the one who should have control over that area, regardless of what it is.



Cannoli should be made by people with experience making them. Not something for a newbie to attempt and expect to have turn out great.

And you're spot on about men having a voice in raising their own children.

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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 11:00:29 AM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: MasterHXB

There is no true master or slave.

There isn't only one kind of master/dominant or slave/submissive
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There should be love and respect between the people in that bdsm relationship.

I agree with it but not everyone needs or desires love.
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Newbies make better  than subs with exp.

Is that because they don't know themselves well enough to tell you no? Sorry but other than "I can train them however I want", that doesn't make sense to me.
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Limits   must be respected.

Yup
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No master should take complete control over his or her slave's lifes specially when money and children involved

Unless the mother is unfit.
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more to come in time.

Valyraen and I will wait anxiously.  Don't mind the whole "going about our lives" thing... we *always* do that when waiting anxiously.


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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 11:02:25 AM   
KatyLied


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Newbies make better  than subs with exp.


I think for men who are inferior doms, yes, newbies are better because they probably will be more willing to believe anything he says.

I'm thinking you won't have a huge fan base with your thoughts though.


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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 11:37:14 AM   
lovingdomwanted


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Status: offline 		No truer word spoken........Trust and planning is everything and that can only be created between the two people involved......

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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 2:25:33 PM   
domiguy


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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 3:31:02 PM   
Faramir


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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 4:53:09 PM   
Sinergy


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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

I beleive there is some kind of connection between bald heads and dark "Bad Ass" shades.

I keep meeting all these male Doms with both appearance features.


A lot of the people I work with do the whole bald head / dark shade thing.  The thing I have been able to figure out about it is that they want to give everybody else the impression that they are bad ass.

I am always reminded of what Peyton Quinn said.  This is a general paraphrase.

"I have met many of The Most Dangerous people in my time here.  If you go through life picking fights and you pick a fight with one of them, and you will NEVER know it by appearances or manners, and you do not give them the opportunity to get away gracefully and you force them to fight, you are headed for a painful trip to the Emergency Room or a one-way trip to the Morgue."

Being me, I just smile and play along with their game.

But that is just me and I could be wrong.

Sinergy

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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 8:57:02 PM   
MzMia


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ORIGINAL: Focus50

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterHXB

There is no true master or slave.
There should be love and respect between the people in that bdsm relationship.
Newbies make better  than subs with exp.
Limits   must be respected.
No master should take complete control over his or her slave's lifes specially when money and children involved

more to come in time.

And let's not forget peace on Earth and goodwill to all men blah blah - or have I just spoilt that next instalment?
 
Focus. 


Come here Focus, I almost always love what you say.
There is no beginning and there is no end.
Reality is also an illusion.


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RE: What I believe and your thoughts. - 6/16/2007 9:02:37 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: MasterHXB

more to come in time.


Forgive me if I don't wait for the sequel..... they are rarely as good as the first... and frankly the first didn't even rate a B movie

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