stella40
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
Yes it is. The situation that I described did escalate to violence. He ripped the cell phone from her hand, smashed it on the ground and was shoving her around. She was crying and screaming for help. The camera panned out to show dozens of people walking by...none of them did a thing. Yes, that is apathetic.
In that case I agree with you. In fact I'd even go further and say those people were inhuman.
I would have intervened, but then again I see myself as a lady with balls.
I would not intervene personally other than to call the cops. I see no reason for two women to get the shit beat out of them, and yes i am a pussy when it comes to getting hit nonconsensually by people with anger management issues. I would also advise my son not to involve himself other than to call 9-11 with his cell phone. It is one thing to help someone, it is another thing to become a victim for someone... I am not about to become a victim for anyone (except my UM).
She was crying and screaming for help - therefore I would intervene without even considering it. Just like a road traffic accident or a heart attack you don't stop and weigh up the pros and cons, you react and get straight in there.
How so?
Firstly I grew up in a rough neighbourhood where you learned to talk to people. In dangerous areas dangerous people walk, some carry guns and knives and if you go in for the attack you could wind up dead. Secondly I stand at just under six foot tall, I have 'presence'.
I also hate physical violence, I find being punched especially painful, but I also know that of the three of us the biggest pussy would be the man because (a) he has anger management issues in a public place and (2) he is resorting to violence with a female. Consider that you could get attacked by the man for calling 911, and that it takes some minutes for the cops to arrive. By intervening you split his focus for an attack, he has to stop and think. This is enough for me. I'm not interested in psychoanalysis, I just want a change in his behaviour.
Does common sense return? This is important, because we don't know what she's done to provoke such behaviour, and we don't know whether he is a woman-beater or a regular guy who has simply 'lost it'. If it does then the intervention worked.
If it doesn't, the intervention still worked. I don't quite see him attacking the both of us, but I wouldn't rule it out as impossible. But if he attempted then people being who they are would also intervene. People on the streets are like sheep. Just needs one to take the initiative and others follow.
However what happens after that incident is between him and her. I don't condone domestic violence, to me it's another form of abuse, but I also know from my experience that you cannot help a woman who's a victim of domestic violence until she wants that help and is prepared to help herself.
However what I don't understand is how someone can draw some sort of analogy between the potentially life-threatening situations as illustrated above and the sort of BDSM relationships engaged in by many people using this forum. I somehow don't quite see the connection.
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