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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 6:49:37 AM

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OMG! I have started making friends here. chatting with various Dom's and subs. A few I've even gotten to the phone stage with. I think, someone blocked me!!! I'm really not sure what happened?? Had a little sexy talk one night and then a follow up conversation the next day to verify that no one was skipping states for love at first sight or anything and now... a few days later I notice that his profile is not findable by me. WTF!
So I guess I don't get to know why I've been blocked. Is that what that means? I thought he was a nice enough guy.. Im really not sure why on earth... I have a hard time believeing that I am too freaky but hey... I guess, maybe perhaps I need to check my brand of deodorant or something. Fuck. Just what I didn't need on the heels of the whole "not to sexy for the bike guy."
I guess the universe thought it was a good time for octavia to work on her rejection issues.
Fuck.

Welcome to the club.....we do have jackets... t-shirts... coffee mugs...

Just kick back.. relax... throw that one off to the side..(that pile could get bigger...lol)... and enjoy the rest.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 7:21:20 AM

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I'd agree- why are you taking this so personally and getting in an tizzy over this?

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 7:36:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

OK, everybody get out the pitch forks, torches and cases of beer here...

Have you considered he's just deactivated his profile for a bit due to some other reason besides you?

Yes, thanks for the reality check. I was being pretty self centered here.. As LA said, I just got all in a tizzy over nothing i'm sure. Yesterday was a bad, emotional day for me, and damn! He just poofed. I do not think he is a bad guy, I didn't get the sense he was lying either. A buddy of mine brought up a good point. Perhaps he is hiding, but perhaps he is hiding from someone else? He does have a habit of picking up stalkers.
Lucky bastard. I wanna stalker.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 7:36:43 AM

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It happens sometimes. On various sites, I have been in touch with submissives who all of a sudden "disappeared", only to have a couple of them reappear weeks or months later under a new name.

Sometimes, it is because you are not a fit, sometimes they just want to have fun and move on.

Welcome to the club...

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 8:20:36 AM

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Now you have been initiated, you are not a member of the club
until you have been blocked!

Don't worry about him, you are better off, keep having fun.

Wait wait, you also have to be called a guy, and or a faker to completely pass initiation into the club *S*

octavia, don't take it to personal. You'll find that even after you meet some of them face to face, and you think it went fantastically, you'll still get ignored, blocked or whatever.

I haven't had that happen on here yet but when I was dating on "normal" sites it happen a couple times and it happens to lots of people I know as well.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 8:29:47 AM

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When these things happen, it's important to remember that this actually isn't about you, it's about them and how they act and react to their own "stuff". Perhaps he was just looking for some hot phone conversation. Perhaps he became terrified of actually realizing his dream. Perhaps collarme removed him due to something he did to someone else. There're no telling. It doesn't mean it doesn't HURT, mind you. What I have to work on when stuff like this happens is that it's not about their approval of me, but their approval of themselves. There's more fish in the sea...and most are most tasty.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 9:07:31 AM

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Octavia,

He was so enamoured that, in a moment of epiphany, he realized that he would give you the world and it would destroy his own. Thus, he was left with but a single, terrible decision: abandon all that he knew to be good and true to follow you beyond the ends of the earth, or dissapear forthwith. We know his decision. Even now he rides a box car alone at night and sings a song that would kill any man who heard it by breaking his heart.

(There's always a way to give it a positive spin, of sorts)

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 9:17:20 AM

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Wow...You must feel horrible!!!...Tell me, what does it feel like when someone blocks you?....There are somethings in life that I am forced to live vicariously through the experiences of others.

The only time I deactivate my profile is when my mom comes home early from work.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 9:22:56 AM

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Perhaps he is hiding, but perhaps he is hiding from someone else? He does have a habit of picking up stalkers.
Lucky bastard. I wanna stalker

The old saying, "Be careful for what you wish for..." comes to mind....

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 9:24:18 AM

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Octavia,

He was so enamoured that, in a moment of epiphany, he realized that he would give you the world and it would destroy his own. Thus, he was left with but a single, terrible decision: abandon all that he knew to be good and true to follow you beyond the ends of the earth, or dissapear forthwith. We know his decision. Even now he rides a box car alone at night and sings a song that would kill any man who heard it by breaking his heart.

(There's always a way to give it a positive spin, of sorts)

LOL ok could we fit in a magical forrest somwhere and perhaps some armour and a sword fight ... always liked a bit of testosterone in my fables ...

On a more serious note ... it happens ... whether its a glitch, a dissappearing act or some personal problem that caused the sudden profile loss ... move forward and take the good with you ... you had a bit of fun and you felt good about yourself so keep feeling good about yourself and know there are plenty of opportunities ahead to look forward too ... good luck

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 11:32:54 AM

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i have a theory as to why doms or subs block others as a matter of course with no explanation. They contact and email, chat etc soooo many that unless they block them they take the chance of hitting up the same person 2 times and looking like a fool

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 12:21:53 PM

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Octavia,

HypnoticDan: He was so enamoured that, in a moment of epiphany, he realized that he would give you the world and it would destroy his own. Thus, he was left with but a single, terrible decision: abandon all that he knew to be good and true to follow you beyond the ends of the earth, or dissapear forthwith. We know his decision. Even now he rides a box car alone at night and sings a song that would kill any man who heard it by breaking his heart.

(There's always a way to give it a positive spin, of sorts)

Bravo! But I think you have it wrong, at the end. He joined the French Foreign Legion, a broken soul with a tragic, silent past. Soon after, he was shot to death when he bravely, but foolishly, took on a machine gun nest with nothing but his service pistol and a large wedge of Brie.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 12:31:00 PM

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Octavia,

HypnoticDan: He was so enamoured that, in a moment of epiphany, he realized that he would give you the world and it would destroy his own. Thus, he was left with but a single, terrible decision: abandon all that he knew to be good and true to follow you beyond the ends of the earth, or dissapear forthwith. We know his decision. Even now he rides a box car alone at night and sings a song that would kill any man who heard it by breaking his heart.

(There's always a way to give it a positive spin, of sorts)

Bravo! But I think you have it wrong, at the end. He joined the French Foreign Legion, a broken soul with a tragic, silent past. Soon after, he was shot to death when he bravely, but foolishly, took on a machine gun nest with nothing but his service pistol and a large wedge of Brie.

E.

Damn now that's a story to imagine.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 12:51:46 PM

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The only thing I can say to you is: what does your inner self say?..what does your instincts tell you?..they will never lead you astray...follow them..but use your brain too. Most advise given here is very good, but also remember to protect yourself and heart always until you know for sure and have met someone, it's easier said than done( our hearts want to have fun too and sometimes open up too quick), so again, like the wise man said..many frogs maybe kissed before the prince appears, so everytime, take the positives from an experience, and learn from them..You shall be stronger and wiser..
I know how it must feel( rejection), believe me most of us have been thru it at some point, but hey, brush yourself off and keep smiling..have a lovely day and all the best hun...xx

If your instincts will "never lead you astray....follow them", then Why "remember to protect yourself and heart aways until you know for sure." I'd never say to anyone that there insticts will never lead them astray because none of us are that good.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 1:05:20 PM

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Oh face it! He used you, dumped you, and is off chasing after the next one....Just another wannabe, fake, phony, fraud, user, poser that is wanking off at his computer now I bet. Ate you up for like a tasty meal, got his fill and moved on, you were just some quick greasy fast food he snagged for lunch. Face it, this guy is a racoon climbing over the fence to get to the chickens. What a friggen pervert, sooner or later somebody will get 'em by the balls and cut 'em off. LOL....

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 1:05:27 PM

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Another possibility....you brought him back down to earth with reality. He panicked, realizing what would happen if his wife found out.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 6:25:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Wow...You must feel horrible!!!...Tell me, what does it feel like when someone blocks you?....There are somethings in life that I am forced to live vicariously through the experiences of others.

The only time I deactivate my profile is when my mom comes home early from work.

*Runs off to unblock Domiguy before he realizes he been blocked*

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 6:28:31 PM

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Bravo! But I think you have it wrong, at the end. He joined the French Foreign Legion, a broken soul with a tragic, silent past. Soon after, he was shot to death when he bravely, but foolishly, took on a machine gun nest with nothing but his service pistol and a large wedge of Brie.

E.

Loved this!! Adding the Brie was the perfect touch!

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 6:29:46 PM

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What a friggen pervert, sooner or later somebody will get 'em by the balls and cut 'em off. LOL....

Or pull them off and try to swallow them!

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