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totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:00:37 PM

octavia

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OMG! I have started making friends here. chatting with various Dom's and subs. A few I've even gotten to the phone stage with. I think, someone blocked me!!! I'm really not sure what happened?? Had a little sexy talk one night and then a follow up conversation the next day to verify that no one was skipping states for love at first sight or anything and now... a few days later I notice that his profile is not findable by me. WTF!
So I guess I don't get to know why I've been blocked. Is that what that means? I thought he was a nice enough guy.. Im really not sure why on earth... I have a hard time believeing that I am too freaky but hey... I guess, maybe perhaps I need to check my brand of deodorant or something. Fuck. Just what I didn't need on the heels of the whole "not to sexy for the bike guy."
I guess the universe thought it was a good time for octavia to work on her rejection issues.
Fuck.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:03:19 PM

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Sorry love, but it is the nature of the beast :-( It just means it wasn't right, don't take it too personally - you are adorable~

< Message edited by dawntreader -- 6/17/2007 10:04:41 PM >

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:03:45 PM

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Now you have been initiated, you are not a member of the club
until you have been blocked!

Don't worry about him, you are better off, keep having fun.

< Message edited by MzMia -- 6/17/2007 10:04:09 PM >

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:04:52 PM

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If you can't find a profile, it means that they have either deactivated or removed their profile or that the powers that be have removed the profile. When a person blocks you, you find out about it when you try to send them an email...it will not go thru. So, more likely that the profile was removed...He got what he wanted and has moved on or whatever...

MNN

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:08:28 PM

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its happened to the best of us.

but honestly him using you has nothing to do with you, it is all him, can you imagine being a person that has to run and hide from life? that you dont even have the manliness to be truthful on line??? how hard can it be to say, rather type, "hey that was fun but...."

if he has to skink of into the shadows to reinvent himself for his next adventure in domliness, than you dodged a bullet my friend.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:11:26 PM

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oh noo dont think of it as about you darling girl.. it is another way to find out sho is fake before you get all attached.. hold your heart close and do not give it up for just all or anyone.. remember how special you are and have fun! when they disapear you know you are safe! and thats a good thing!

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:17:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Now you have been initiated, you are not a member of the club
until you have been blocked!

Don't worry about him, you are better off, keep having fun.

I would say at least maybe a first step to Initiation MzMia,

I can think of a few more she must go through just like

the rest of us had to.

I think you'll do just fine octavia!

Move on to better things and never look back at the players.

Never take it personally, and above all Laugh!

Missy

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:21:02 PM

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Darlin,

I'd bet ten to one odds that he deactivated his profile because he wasn't up front with you about a few things, and it's easier to run than it is to face it. It happens online, and I'd consider myself lucky if I were you; some of us (coughs) have had more than a few face to face meetings to find that pictures traded were really pictures stolen.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:24:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

Darlin,

I'd bet ten to one odds that he deactivated his profile because he wasn't up front with you about a few things, and it's easier to run than it is to face it. It happens online, and I'd consider myself lucky if I were you; some of us (coughs) have had more than a few face to face meetings to find that pictures traded were really pictures stolen.

Stephan

LOL!

thanks for the supportive words all.. but seriously I don't think he's a bad guy... maybe he did just deactivate or something?
Either way, I will check my damn deodorant.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:25:37 PM

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Wait a sec! I am not sure if anyone else has pointed this out, but if he has changed his profile recently, it won't re-appear for up to 72 hours. You should send him an e-mail, if you are blocked you will get a responsive one saying "you are blocked from e-mailing' or something to that effect or if the profile is gone... a 'user does not exist' response.

< Message edited by angelic -- 6/17/2007 10:26:38 PM >

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:26:13 PM

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Hey, at least you did not meet him face to face, decided to play with him and then he disappears. Better to find out about the fake dommabee that he is than to waste your time with someone who does not derserve having one worthy sub!

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 10:27:00 PM

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Dear OP: The previous posts are probably correct. He vanished like an ill wind, and you are better off for it. However, know that the CM software is fickle, inconstant and does not some days remember what it did the night before (hmmm...could that resemble anyone else you know?) For instance, my profile, for reasons known only to the CM majordomo, only shows up when spiritually connected souls search for it on the other side as "Emperor".

So, his disappearance could be a technological glitch, and he could be blissfully unaware his profile poofed. Or maybe not.

Best of luck, miss.

E.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/17/2007 11:51:33 PM

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Just remember, he's the loser - he lost the change to get to know you. You only lost the change to waste time on him.

You win.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 1:44:15 AM

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OK, everybody get out the pitch forks, torches and cases of beer here...

Have you considered he's just deactivated his profile for a bit due to some other reason besides you?

I have to agree with dawntreader here, you are simply adorable!

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 1:59:28 AM

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The only thing I can say to you is: what does your inner self say?..what does your instincts tell you?..they will never lead you astray...follow them..but use your brain too. Most advise given here is very good, but also remember to protect yourself and heart always until you know for sure and have met someone, it's easier said than done( our hearts want to have fun too and sometimes open up too quick), so again, like the wise man said..many frogs maybe kissed before the prince appears, so everytime, take the positives from an experience, and learn from them..You shall be stronger and wiser..
I know how it must feel( rejection), believe me most of us have been thru it at some point, but hey, brush yourself off and keep smiling..have a lovely day and all the best hun...xx

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 3:39:06 AM

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He could have just freaked out and deactivated or closed his account. If he blocked you on the collarme side you'd still see his profile, you just wouldn't be able to send him mail.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 4:19:09 AM

LadyHeart

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Man who is doing something behind a partner's back has a sexy little chat with someone he shouldn't be talking to, has a wank.
Man has attack of guilt/panic and pulls his profile off the site.
Happens all the time.
Bummer it happened to you, but don't take it personally.
:))
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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 5:19:01 AM

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i had that happen to me. he ended up deleting his account entirely, and not speaking to me for about a month. i moved on during that time....he called and we spoke for about a half hour, i'm happy for him that he's had some positive life changes, but i'm also happy for *me* that things ended up the way they have. if i'd continued with him, i'd not have been with Sir, and i'm very happy to be his.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 5:31:46 AM

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Hi Octavia, not sure if it was a technical glitch or something else; either way, do not blame yourself or start looking for fault with yourself. I would think a good Dom who found issue with you would have been up front and told you about it rather than doing something chicken like hiding from a submissive. So, if it wasn't a technical glitch, you're better off. In case it was a technical glitch, give it a couple of days or try emailing him.

Hang in there.

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RE: totally confused and i think hurt? - 6/18/2007 6:42:47 AM

stockingluvr54

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Don't trust CM either....the site has glitches from time to time. Was recently rejected by a lady and part of the problem may have been because I kinda freaked out when I noticed her profile was gone one morning so I wrote this note to her ASSUMMING that I may have been the reason she pulled profile? Later that day her profile was back up....and still is?????

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