RE: Long Distance

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Long Distance

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Long Distance

Page: << < prev 1 [2]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Long Distance - 6/18/2007 9:12:29 AM

slavegirljoy

Posts: 1207
Joined: 11/6/2006
From: North Carolina, USA
Status: offline

Dealing with moving to another country is extremely difficult. In Feb. 2001, i left my home, my job and most of my worldly possessions in Maryland to move to Queensland, AU, to marry a wonderful man i had met in the US several months earlier. i went on a visitor's visa, with the plan of getting married to him and then applying for permanent residency.

The rules were so restrictive, that even after marrying him, i had no guarantee of being able to stay in the country, legally.

i had to request an extension on my visa and to do that, i had to go to their immigration services office in Brisbane (a 3 hour drive from where we were) and spend most of the day waiting in very long lines, filling out forms and showing proof that i had the minimum required amount of funds to be allowed to stay an additional 3 months.

It was one of the most stressful situations i have ever put myself into. It ended up not working out for us and i returned to the States. i spent a lot of money to get there, ship a lot of boxes there, and then ship the boxes back and fly back.

It takes a lot of determination and willpower to accomplish making an intercontinental relationship succeed. Good luck to you both.
slave joyOwned property of Master David

quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Having my own difficulties on this one. He's in the UK, and the closer we get the more it totally sucks.

Most of our problems now is he is researching how to move here permanantly and is getting very discouraged reading about all the red tape, and horror stories. Otherwise we seem to fit just fine. He can move here by the end of the year, but the issue of him being able to stay is frustrating him so....the more we research the worse it gets.

So loneliness isn't the only problem with distance...I just hope we can make it through and work all this out....he's a wonderful man, and I believe the right one for me.

edited to add: oh by the way...I left two of you messages on the other side, I hope that's ok...I need all the help I can get.....lol

(in reply to DrkJourney)

Profile

Post #: 21

RE: Long Distance - 6/18/2007 9:56:32 AM

mythi

Posts: 257
Joined: 2/25/2007
From: Naples, FL
Status: offline

I think it depends on what you mean by a BDSM element... If you mean physical or control aspects, you could perform tasks either on cam or 'on your honor', and be willing to follow instructions in general. If you mean relationship aspects, it very much depends on what you each need from a relationship.

_____________________________

“The truth doesn’t change based on our ability to stomach it.”
Flannery O’Connor

(in reply to Spitfiregrrl)

Profile

Post #: 22