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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

When I met Master, I told him from the beginning that I would not change anything in my profile until he agreed to do the same.  I have had too many doms write me, and then I found they had others that had changed their profile for them..thinking they were the doms only one.  If it says they are still looking...chances are, they are.  I would keep that in mind.

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

When I met Master, I told him from the beginning that I would not change anything in my profile until he agreed to do the same.  I have had too many doms write me, and then I found they had others that had changed their profile for them..thinking they were the doms only one.  If it says they are still looking...chances are, they are.  I would keep that in mind.

Not always. We're monogamous and together four years now. But he didn't change his profile until I asked why he hadn't, over six months after I was collared. His response was that it didn't matter, nobody was writing him and he wasn't writing anybody else so he hadn't even thought about it. He did update it then to humor me. But in the four years I don't think he ever got one unsolicited email while I'm still getting the trolls who can't read send me trash.

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ORIGINAL: serenity51

I wanted to ask anyone who may know the answer .. Should a Dom state in their profile that they have someone in consideration? The sub will but what if he doesn't and still has His saying searching for a sub/slave still? Could you consider that being devoted and dedicated to the one under consideration..? In my heart I know its not proper and not right and I know this could be a dangerous situation if not dealt with it right.. There is something else that bothers me about this Dominant.. He states he has his own business ,haircutting,but it is in his condo...This is very dangerous especially if there's no proof to the subs/slaves of this business except to go to his place and find out for sure...\

Now in my opinion he is advertising to every sub/slave to have their hair done and thats why he won't say in his profile he has someone under consideration,he lures them there and who knows what happens.. so much for the trust being there,..He may be deceiiving his sub under consideration and every woman online who reads his profile..But how do we prove it... Thanks all comments welcome.. And no he says nothing about being a saist or poly in any way.. thanks for the comments  I use to be lilserenity here commenting but lost my nic so Im this one now yuk anyway helppppp me get this matter handled  with your opinions..

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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

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ORIGINAL: serenity51

I wanted to ask anyone who may know the answer .. Should a Dom state in their profile that they have someone in consideration? The sub will but what if he doesn't and still has His saying searching for a sub/slave still? Could you consider that being devoted and dedicated to the one under consideration..? In my heart I know its not proper and not right and I know this could be a dangerous situation if not dealt with it right.. There is something else that bothers me about this Dominant.. He states he has his own business ,haircutting,but it is in his condo...This is very dangerous especially if there's no proof to the subs/slaves of this business except to go to his place and find out for sure...\

Now in my opinion he is advertising to every sub/slave to have their hair done and thats why he won't say in his profile he has someone under consideration,he lures them there and who knows what happens.. so much for the trust being there,..He may be deceiiving his sub under consideration and every woman online who reads his profile..But how do we prove it... Thanks all comments welcome.. And no he says nothing about being a saist or poly in any way.. thanks for the comments  I use to be lilserenity here commenting but lost my nic so Im this one now yuk anyway helppppp me get this matter handled  with your opinions..

I dont state who I have under consideration,I expect the submissives to make that note.
I do however post on Positive Meetings and if I collar someone.

I can see if the sub can put the person they are under consideration to..that might make a bit of a difference.  That way any sub that comes across it can know what's going on.

Just a side note:  You sound very suspicious of this dom already.  There is a reason you feel that way, and it's something you should probably trust.  He might be ok, but you seem to have red flags going on everyplace that you are hoping will vanish with time, or after you meet.  Chances are it won't get better, and you will be in it more fully than you are now.

If you really think he is the only one for you, nothing will stop you.  I can assure you though that there are plenty of other doms out there, no matter what he tells you.  By putting you under consideration, he is making sure you are off the market...by keeping his the same, he is very much keeping his options open.  I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be the one that he takes if no one else better came along.

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

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ORIGINAL: serenity51

I wanted to ask anyone who may know the answer .. Should a Dom state in their profile that they have someone in consideration? The sub will but what if he doesn't and still has His saying searching for a sub/slave still? Could you consider that being devoted and dedicated to the one under consideration..? In my heart I know its not proper and not right and I know this could be a dangerous situation if not dealt with it right.. There is something else that bothers me about this Dominant.. He states he has his own business ,haircutting,but it is in his condo...This is very dangerous especially if there's no proof to the subs/slaves of this business except to go to his place and find out for sure...\

Now in my opinion he is advertising to every sub/slave to have their hair done and thats why he won't say in his profile he has someone under consideration,he lures them there and who knows what happens.. so much for the trust being there,..He may be deceiiving his sub under consideration and every woman online who reads his profile..But how do we prove it... Thanks all comments welcome.. And no he says nothing about being a saist or poly in any way.. thanks for the comments  I use to be lilserenity here commenting but lost my nic so Im this one now yuk anyway helppppp me get this matter handled  with your opinions..

I dont state who I have under consideration,I expect the submissives to make that note.
I do however post on Positive Meetings and if I collar someone.

I can see if the sub can put the person they are under consideration to..that might make a bit of a difference.  That way any sub that comes across it can know what's going on.

Just a side note:  You sound very suspicious of this dom already.  There is a reason you feel that way, and it's something you should probably trust.  He might be ok, but you seem to have red flags going on everyplace that you are hoping will vanish with time, or after you meet.  Chances are it won't get better, and you will be in it more fully than you are now.

If you really think he is the only one for you, nothing will stop you.  I can assure you though that there are plenty of other doms out there, no matter what he tells you.  By putting you under consideration, he is making sure you are off the market...by keeping his the same, he is very much keeping his options open.  I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be the one that he takes if no one else better came along.

Ummm huh what...am I missing something??