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Supernatural -> "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:05:57 AM)
Hello all. This is a twist on my original question but just as important. To a Dominant, is there a red flag raised if you find out that the sub/slave you are talking with has had several Dominants or ‘Masters’ in their past? Should this be an issue? … Why or why not …

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:08:58 AM)
It depends more on the time frame. But high numbers would be a note put on the clipboard. I think it's the obvious- past history can be the best predictor of future history. Getting into commitments and out of them quickly could show a lack of stability, security, or good judgement.

yrstocollar -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:10:29 AM)
As usual... what LA said!

thetammyjo -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:12:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross It depends more on the time frame. But high numbers would be a note put on the clipboard. I think it's the obvious- past history can be the best predictor of future history. Getting into commitments and out of them quickly could show a lack of stability, security, or good judgement. Exactly. Someone with no experience or with only a string of one-time adventures raise certain issues just as someone who has only had one partner for multiple years raises other issues. The issues are not innately positive or negative. They become information from which to design new questions and to consider in the overall evaluation.

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:14:29 AM)
Sure i guess so...just like if i were single and dating and ran into a guy that had been married 5 times...i'd be very leary...

MasterFireMaam -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:30:51 AM)
For me, it'd be a number of partners vs the number of years active in the lifestyle. The "older" you are, the more likely you are to have had 10+ partners. I also note if they're intelligent enough to figure out that some of the relationships that were supposed to be Ms actually turned into play partner type relationships. I make notes of them, too. An excessive ratio in either warns of relationship immaturity and the lack of ability to sustain a commitment. Master Fire

Supernatural -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:39:21 AM)
The answer to this question, I believe to most, can be a little obvious. I have also ran into this and wonder what others might think along these lines. Lets say a Master is speaking with a potential slave and the statement comes up ... "I left my last Master because ...". Notice it was not stated that they were 'released' but that they simply 'left'. If at all, how should this effect the decision making process when considering such a slave? ...

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:45:08 AM)
I care far more about what comes AFTER the "because" than what comes before it.

WhiplashSmile -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 10:53:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Supernatural The answer to this question, I believe to most, can be a little obvious. I have also ran into this and wonder what others might think along these lines. Lets say a Master is speaking with a potential slave and the statement comes up ... "I left my last Master because ...". Notice it was not stated that they were 'released' but that they simply 'left'. If at all, how should this effect the decision making process when considering such a slave? ... I actually met one who LEFT and was not Released, after hearing her reasons, I totally understood why. I just listen to the reason(s) and could care less about the how.

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 11:16:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Supernatural The answer to this question, I believe to most, can be a little obvious. I have also ran into this and wonder what others might think along these lines. Lets say a Master is speaking with a potential slave and the statement comes up ... "I left my last Master because ...". Notice it was not stated that they were 'released' but that they simply 'left'. If at all, how should this effect the decision making process when considering such a slave? ... why is it automatically a negitive on the sub types part if they left a Master? perhaps there was a very good reason...

akisha -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 11:59:48 AM)
What about the flip side of the same coin. What if the sub or Dominant has been completely single for a large number of years. No type of relationship at all. How would you react to that? I think every situation has to be taken and analyzed per individual. Each person will classify a "relationship" differently. If some on had been married or had "collared or been collared" a number of times in a short time period, then I would really wonder why. If someone had not even dated in over a number of years that would worry me too but I'd talk to the person and find out why personally. Things happen for wierd reasons. It's doesn't always have to do with a flaw with a certain individual.

Supernatural -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:13:19 PM)
I see your point imthatacheyouhav. That last question was not meant to be seen as an inherently negitive or positive lean towards the slave in question. My question was meant more for the perceived difference between the core of what a 'slave' is seen as being and what a 'sub' is seen as being. It would not strike me as curious if a sub stated they had left their last Dom. If its a bad scene, get out. However, once someone had gone the extra mile to be collared and 'supposedly' given up all their rights ... I wondered if the previous slave statement was of in anyway a consern to a new would be owner.

Supernatural -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:16:24 PM)
Very good point akisha.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:16:55 PM)
Oh on THOSE regards, no it wouldn't matter at all. Not everyone goes by the notion that a slave cannot release themselves, and certainly if the slave was the one who initiated the release by ASKING for it, it would make sense for them to use the langauge "I left him" even though technically she had asked for release and been granted. And no, really that has nothing to do with sub/slave to me.

akisha -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:17:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Supernatural I see your point imthatacheyouhav. That last question was not meant to be seen as an inherently negitive or positive lean towards the slave in question. My question was meant more for the perceived difference between the core of what a 'slave' is seen as being and what a 'sub' is seen as being. It would not strike me as curious if a sub stated they had left their last Dom. If its a bad scene, get out. However, once someone had gone the extra mile to be collared and 'supposedly' given up all their rights ... I wondered if the previous slave statement was of in anyway a consern to a new would be owner. The one right everyone always keeps IMO, is to stay and obey or leave. If i'm desperately unhappy or being abused, be damnned if I'm going to ask if I can leave I'd just do it. Does it make any sense, if you think about it, for someone to ask to be released by someone that is severly beating them, abusing the littles etc? Common sense here.

LadyPaige -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:21:10 PM)
If someone had a lot of committed relationships of any kind I'd want to know the circumstances. Generally the younger someone is, the more likely they are to hop from one commitment to another. As they mature they hopefully make better decisions.

Celeste43 -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:22:07 PM)
Not everybody uses the same formal language you do. Left, was released, ended - all these mean the relationship ended. The why is more important than the verb used. As far as the original question concerning number of ex doms, The Man was very candid about enjoying knowing this was my first d/s relationship. He had spoken and played with a few other woman before we met who managed to ruin the encounters by always saying "That wasn't how my ex did that". He was pleased as punch to know he wasn't going to get that from me, only whether or not I liked what he did.

Wildfleurs -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:34:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Supernatural The answer to this question, I believe to most, can be a little obvious. I have also ran into this and wonder what others might think along these lines. Lets say a Master is speaking with a potential slave and the statement comes up ... "I left my last Master because ...". Notice it was not stated that they were 'released' but that they simply 'left'. If at all, how should this effect the decision making process when considering such a slave? ... It depends on the because. If the because was: - he became batshit crazy and started talking to non existent people - he tried to do something weird to UMs - he killed someone or engaged in felony criminal activities - he became physically or mentally abusive Then I can definitely understand a slave leaving someone. If its not for those reasons then to me it would be a red flag/indicator of their mindset/something to pay attention to. C~

LadyIce -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:51:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPaige If someone had a lot of committed relationships of any kind I'd want to know the circumstances. Generally the younger someone is, the more likely they are to hop from one commitment to another. As they mature they hopefully make better decisions. I agree with LadyPaige on this one. If the submissive has a history of making bad choices consistently, that is a reflection on them.

thetammyjo -> RE: "Survey says" ... How many Masters ... (6/18/2007 12:56:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Supernatural The answer to this question, I believe to most, can be a little obvious. I have also ran into this and wonder what others might think along these lines. Lets say a Master is speaking with a potential slave and the statement comes up ... "I left my last Master because ...". Notice it was not stated that they were 'released' but that they simply 'left'. If at all, how should this effect the decision making process when considering such a slave? ... I live in the reality of the general world around me. Anyone submitting or serving me has every legal and social right to leave at any time. Saying they should ask to be released is a nice ritual but unless you want to break the law, it is nothing but a ritual. The top cannot force someone to stay unless they are willing to risk a nice term in a jail cell should their sub ever wise up. If they just "left" with no discussion or anything that shows signs of immaturity in my opinion. (unless it was an abusive situation but then that raises other questions for me) If they discussed things and left because they were no longer compatible or some other factor, I'd have to hear the factor to fully evaluate it.

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