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ownedgirlie -> RE: Pro-lifers. Put up or Shut up. (6/18/2007 9:36:35 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs
I agree its the child that suffers, I don't agree with that practice though to be honest my impression is that its not something that really happens that often but is more of a fear. That, coupled with the long waiting period and the number of hoops that anyone wanting to adopt or become a foster parent (of american children, you can buy an overseas baby easier), just adds to the fear of that.
There are also white meth babies though.
C~
I worked with someone who had a baby for a year - a loving, caring Jewish family who loved this little African-American boy. Just a couple months before the adoption was to go through, the child was removed from them because the birthmother decided she was rehabilitated and wanted her baby back - she had changed her mind.
4 months later the child was removed from her home due to serious abuse, and placed back in the hands of the family who loved him. Except now he was completely fucked up and now, at the age of 12, still suffers emotional handicaps.
The next child they adopted was a caucasion girl, through private adoption. They said they will never, ever, go through that kind of hell again.
And yes, there are white meth babies, but those weren't the ones you were challenging the rhetoric with. My nephew is a caucasion little boy with severe emotional disabilities, due to his birthmother's issues. Really, I know something about this stuff. My other adopted nephew is a hispanic little boy who suffered attachment disorders from being passed through 4 different foster homes by the time he was 3 months old.
People really do walk the talk. But you are absolutely correct. The public adoption system here needs a serious review. Private adoptions in this country occur much more smoothly, but the waiting lists are long.
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