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No Purse - 6/18/2007 4:13:34 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Yesterday evening we were out running errands. As I get out of the car he tells me to leave my purse in the car. I asked about my cell, if one of the junior members of the family call - he has his, they can call him.

So we ran our errands with me off balance the entire time. I knew he wasn't going to take off leaving me no car, no keys, no money, no phone with a five mile walk home. I knew that. And yet the change was extraordinary in how I felt.

He's done this other times usually if we're going out to dinner when I'm only allowed an evening bag with tissues and a lipstick.

But by taking away my purse, he takes away a huge amount of my control over myself and my surroundings.
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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 4:19:42 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		He allows you lipstick?  Eesh.

Certainly different people look at things differently, but there are those who feel that the greater the dominance exhibited, the greater the responsibilities assumed, if they are wanted.  You didn't need anything, and don't, other than those things that would require over-managing, such as the tissues.  Everything else is in his capable hands.

Are you accustomed to that?  Perhaps not.  Should 'X' behavior be consistent?  Perhaps, but there are times when a little extra mindfuck brings things into closer perspective.  You had that opportunity.

The real question I see is 'would you like for that level of vulnerability to be exhibited consistently?'.  And that's not for you, that's for any of us.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 4:22:49 PM   
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But by taking away my purse, he takes away a huge amount of my control over myself and my surroundings.


Well yes he does.... but its only indicative of the times we live in when we have become SOOOO dependent on things like cars and cell phones. What would tick me off about it is if he a) didn't securely lock my purse out of sight in the trunk or glovebox, or b) drove off and left me in either a very dubious part of town (or faced with a walk through such), or ill-equipped to walk in inclement weather, or wearing heels. Then I'd be p**d off. Other than that if it was a situation where a 5 mile hike wouldn't place me in jeopardy, I'd probably kind of like it.... But then I'm a bit weird anyway


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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 4:24:39 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I enjoy the being totally in his hands and he does also. But most times life doesn't allow for this. If I have to drive a minor somewhere I need the keys and license. Grocery store requires money/check and id/debit/credit cards plus car, keys, license to get them to and fro.

It's very rare for us to be out that this total control can occur. I enjoy it but it happens so rarely that every time is a shock.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 4:37:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds like you enjoyed the transfer of control to your Dom when he made you lock your purse in the car for the evening. As to the fact that he doesn't do this very often and it being a shock, sounds like another good thing. Sounds smart, the fact that he shocked you due to the rarity of the event keeps it fresh and meaningful for you. Here's hoping he continues to find delightful ways to surprise you.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 4:39:25 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I'd be upset about it just because it was left out in a car.  I lock my car when I pump gas and keep my purse on me. 

I'd be fine if he wanted to hold onto it though for himself- and I understand what it does to you.  I'm glad you can get that thrill- it doesn't have to be a big whip that makes a big impact :)

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 4:48:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		In every relationship I've been in, not a single mistress has ever allowed me to carry a purse. But I'm going to go out on a limb and believe that may be for completely different reasons. Number one, I'm not a woman, and number two, I'm not a feminized sub in any way, shape or form.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 4:50:22 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		LA, small town and perfectly safe, plus it was well hidden under the seat. In a city at night I wouldn't feel so safe but here I don't lock the doors unless there's an ipod or cell phone visible. The only reason I close the garage door at night is to keep the animals out. I live in fear of opening the door to the garage and meeting a skunk, or a bear.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 5:00:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		My Master and i live in a small town like that.  (On the coast of Washington state)  But i do understand your feeling.  There have been many times that my Master has taken me 'naked' to run errends and such.  Still not real comfortable with it though.
 
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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 5:31:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Yesterday evening we were out running errands. As I get out of the car he tells me to leave my purse in the car. I asked about my cell, if one of the junior members of the family call - he has his, they can call him.

So we ran our errands with me off balance the entire time. I knew he wasn't going to take off leaving me no car, no keys, no money, no phone with a five mile walk home. I knew that. And yet the change was extraordinary in how I felt.

He's done this other times usually if we're going out to dinner when I'm only allowed an evening bag with tissues and a lipstick.

But by taking away my purse, he takes away a huge amount of my control over myself and my surroundings.


Sounds to me like a good reinforcement of his dominance over your submission...a great mindfuck (gotta love the once-in-awhile off-balance submissive)...and a great way to show you that you CAN do without your purse.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 5:42:41 PM   
lighthearted


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Status: offline 		personally, I would have enjoyed the experience very much.  I relish being without all those items, being free of the responsibility.  it kind of reminds me of being a teenager.

when we go out, to a party at a friend's or something like that, I often travel sans purse and ask him to put my lipstick in his jacket pocket, or put it in my own if my clothing allows.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 5:46:25 PM   
charismagirrl


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Status: offline 		Thanx for the post celeste, it got me thinking of something similar that happened the other night with my Daddy.

We went to a swing club and i had brought a bag with me that had a change of clothes, my makeup bag and some odds and ends to primp or comfort myself (brush,body spray etc). It also had my regular purse inside of it.

When we got near there we realized that we didn't have a lock for a locker so my Daddy told me i'd have to just bring in my little evening purse (big enough for gum,cigarettes and wet wipes) i asked him about the clothes and stuff and he said "Did anything I said about having to bring JUST that bag leave room for some other interpretation?" Thus putting me in my place quickly, and without all of my comfort "stuff" coming in with me.

It was very odd to not have the ability to go in and touch up my face or hair while we were hanging out in the nigh club area... i was only allowed to BE there with him.

Now you've given me some food for thought about this, so thanks celeste.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 5:50:52 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Yesterday evening we were out running errands. As I get out of the car he tells me to leave my purse in the car. I asked about my cell, if one of the junior members of the family call - he has his, they can call him.

So we ran our errands with me off balance the entire time. I knew he wasn't going to take off leaving me no car, no keys, no money, no phone with a five mile walk home. I knew that. And yet the change was extraordinary in how I felt.

He's done this other times usually if we're going out to dinner when I'm only allowed an evening bag with tissues and a lipstick.

But by taking away my purse, he takes away a huge amount of my control over myself and my surroundings.


The cell okay I dont need that though it would bug Me.
No purse would be a Hard Limit for Me...lol



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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 6:22:44 PM   
Rayne58


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Status: offline 		My purse is more like a small backpack I have a lot of stuff in there, and a lot of it is for His medical needs like the glucometer, jellybeans and muesli bars for emergency sugar boost, and a small self sealing plastic bag with any meds needed when we are out.

I guess His pockets would be bulging if He made me leave my bag behind!

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 6:44:04 PM   
charlotte12


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Status: offline 		I love the little unexpected things like that. I used to think i didn't want someone to have that kind of control over me. Oh how wrong i was...lol

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 7:58:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		i like creative paradigm shifting experiences like that. thanks for sharing.

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 8:12:02 PM   
slavegirljoy


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Status: offline 		There are a lot of times that my Master makes me leave my bag at home or locked in the trunk of His car and times when He also makes me leave my prosthetic leg and i have to go out on crutches. 
 
Even though it's always for a practical reason, it makes me feel uneasy, not because i'm worried about anything, i know He will take care of me but, because those things are such a part of me and i feel a little lost without them.
 
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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 8:34:04 PM   
mythi


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Status: offline 		I often prefer going without the encumberance of my purse, but it depends on the situation.  Just quick errands?  I'd sooner be without it so long as the trip was fairly quick, or we werent far from home, or one of us had my necessities in a pocket (ID, emergency list of my allergies, that sort of thing).  I dont currently have a cell phone, or want one, so that's a non-issue. *shrug*  I guess it's a matter of how dependent you feel on the things you carry with you.  And the point of the exercise then becomes transferring that sense of reliance onto 'Him' instead.  (a.k.a. 'where it belongs') 

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He allows you lipstick?  Eesh.

You're one to talk...I'm convinced the only reason you let me wear lip gloss is so that you can immediately kiss it off me and walk around with sparkly glitter on your lips instead!

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 8:37:24 PM   
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But by taking away my purse, he takes away a huge amount of my control over myself and my surroundings.

Methinks that is perhaps the point......

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RE: No Purse - 6/18/2007 8:37:37 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		Please do NOT give MJ any ideas. I am with LA, when I get gas I lock my car, and keep my keys in my hand.

I cannot say I have had anyone tell me what to have in my purse or to leave it behind, a few times I have been asked to put a few 'things' in it, never to leave it. Maybe its a control thing, but, I do NOT go anywhere with my ID, medical card, ICE [in case of emergancy] card, and ATM card, even if they are in my back pocket. If someone asked me to leave them, I would probably protest, heck, due to a few medical things, I HAVE to have certain things close by, so a small purse will work as long as those things fit. If I was not allowed to carry a purse for whatever reason, my partern would HAVE to have stuff in His pockets. Its a trade off. Purse or pockets.

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