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RiotGirl -> my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 6:30:05 PM)

talking about stress........

something heppened recently that i cant let it out. Today, trying not to think about it, ut everytime it popped into my brain i got nausous. Sick to my stomach, started (still do) feeling freezying cold and then having hot sweats run and then chills. and like i just started feeling worse and worse... and i went to try and reach out and i started hyperventalating. and i knew i had to calm down. and my hands started cramping and feeling all tingling and i started losing feeling and my feet and i started getting all lightheaded. calm down calm down

now thats iether stress or me just being a nutter



DesertRat -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 7:43:52 PM)

How 'bout being a nutter because of stress? Isn't there anybody at all with whom you can talk about this? That might help, don't you think?

Best wishes.

Bob (DesertRat)



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 7:52:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl
talking about stress........
something heppened recently that i cant let it out. Today, trying not to think about it, ut everytime it popped into my brain i got nausous. Sick to my stomach, started (still do) feeling freezying cold and then having hot sweats run and then chills. and like i just started feeling worse and worse... and i went to try and reach out and i started hyperventalating. and i knew i had to calm down. and my hands started cramping and feeling all tingling and i started losing feeling and my feet and i started getting all lightheaded. calm down calm down

Riotgirl, do you live with your master? How supportive is he at times like this?? Wish you well, M



RiotGirl -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 8:14:58 PM)

i dont live with him and i wish i could talk to him bout it.



DesertRat -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 8:19:42 PM)

How about talking with another friend? Or PMing someone here? Why can't you talk to him about it? Logistics reason or personal?

Hang in there,

Bob



RiotGirl -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 8:25:01 PM)

yeah i spoke to a friend. Scared myself silly with the hands going numb thing. i physically calmed down. not much to do otherwise.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 8:33:53 PM)

Chica, you already know you're a nutter. Hello ? Remembering slicing your arm open to see and touch the blood and ending up in the hospital? That wasn't just an "off day" OK.

You've got issues, deep, long, dark issues.

YOu manage to function in the world pretty reasonably for the most part, punctuated by long distubring trends and instability.

I hope one day you truly can find a therapist who can reach you and work through stuff and truly help you be fulfilled and have these events occur. Trust me, I know how hard it is to find someone actually competent and connect with them.

But I don't know why you keep being surprised that you have these sorts of things happen to you.



Mandalin -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 8:44:53 PM)

If anyone knew this they would think I'm crazy, so keep this to yourself.....When I'm really stressed or upset about something...I sit down in front of a mirror and I talk. And cry. And sometimes scream until I turn purple. And when I'm done, I can get up and face whatever it is with a relaxed calmness.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 8:47:10 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Mandalin

If anyone knew this they would think I'm crazy, so keep this to yourself.....When I'm really stressed or upset about something...I sit down in front of a mirror and I talk. And cry. And sometimes scream until I turn purple. And when I'm done, I can get up and face whatever it is with a relaxed calmness.

Coping mechanisms are one thing- this is a tried and true method of dealing with things, a very healthy one I think, and you understand when to do it. It actually helps you function better. We all have our quirks and oddities.

Riot however has a deep history and current imbalance that leads to dysfunctional and unstable occurrences- she isn't able to deal with problems like this when they occur and can't cope well.



perverseangelic -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 8:49:28 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2


quote:

ORIGINAL: Mandalin

If anyone knew this they would think I'm crazy, so keep this to yourself.....When I'm really stressed or upset about something...I sit down in front of a mirror and I talk. And cry. And sometimes scream until I turn purple. And when I'm done, I can get up and face whatever it is with a relaxed calmness.

Coping mechanisms are one thing- this is a tried and true method of dealing with things, a very healthy one I think, and you understand when to do it. It actually helps you function better. We all have our quirks and oddities.



Y'know, I just discovered that this works for me. It's funny, coping mechanisms didn't work utnill I had the drugs straightened out :)

Now, the anger and stress vanishes when I scream and cry. Before, it built up and up and got worse and worse, no matter how I expressed it.

God I love modern medicine.



RiotGirl -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 8:50:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Chica, you already know you're a nutter. Hello ? Remembering slicing your arm open to see and touch the blood and ending up in the hospital? That wasn't just an "off day" OK.

You've got issues, deep, long, dark issues.

YOu manage to function in the world pretty reasonably for the most part, punctuated by long distubring trends and instability.

I hope one day you truly can find a therapist who can reach you and work through stuff and truly help you be fulfilled and have these events occur. Trust me, I know how hard it is to find someone actually competent and connect with them.

But I don't know why you keep being surprised that you have these sorts of things happen to you.


i've got so much to say to that that i'm not gonna say a god damn thing - )



RiotGirl -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 9:04:35 PM)

My coping mechanisms.........

ways to release what gets pent up

getting drunker then a skunk so i feel "able" to let it out

drawing blood.

Or losing control.



RiotGirl -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 9:11:51 PM)

i think this is becoming alittle too personal. But i wish, to be able to say something, with out everything exploding and breaking my friends trust.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 9:25:25 PM)

Well we can try and work out whatever specific issue you may be particularly having. Try going back to your post awhile ago about how you sorted out all your insecurities with your fiance. Maybe that will give you some clarity and stability.

Don't you realize that getting involved in emotional human relationships is a sign of being a functioning responsible adult? Actively AVOIDING those relationships is a much bigger sign of a problem in someone.

But like I said, you've got big deep dark issues, all wrapped up in eachother, which can't really be solved online.



RiotGirl -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 9:30:47 PM)

quote:

Remembering slicing your arm open to see and touch the blood and ending up in the hospital? That wasn't just an "off day" OK.


i dont remember mentioning that....... but LOL just to clear it up, i refused to go to the hospital. And yeah it was kind of an off day, and well i've never erm, gone that caught up. Oh wait, i went to a doc like a week later cos everyone was scaring me about infection and the doc said i should of gone just for stitches. but the scar isnt too bad. Its half the length and alittle less then a pen in thickness. Want a pic?



RiotGirl -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/5/2005 9:38:50 PM)

quote:

Well we can try and work out whatever specific issue you may be particularly having. Try going back to your post awhile ago about how you sorted out all your insecurities with your fiance. Maybe that will give you some clarity and stability.

Don't you realize that getting involved in emotional human relationships is a sign of being a functioning responsible adult? Actively AVOIDING those relationships is a much bigger sign of a problem in someone.

But like I said, you've got big deep dark issues, all wrapped up in eachother, which can't really be solved online.


well thanks everyone you gave me the courage to say something to him



Mandalin -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/6/2005 12:03:34 AM)

"i am not one thing, but all things, and capable of everything"

Believe in the possitive in this!

Relationships are not worth making yourself ill over...as hard as they may seem at times, and please dont misunderstand, I'm not trying to minimize your pain, my heart truely goes out to you! But there are alot worse things in life. Besides sitting in front of a mirror when I feel stressed out...I go and visit my Mom. She has Cronic Progressive Multiple Sclerosis and is paralized from the neck down, just had surgery for Trigeminal Neuralgia of the face(very painful), and is now battling a skin yeast infection all over her body that has developed a 2 inch deep, 3 inch long hole on her tailbone and has to stay in bed 22 hours a day. She eats from a tube and shits herself everyday. She was dealt a rotten hand in life... and she still smiles.

There's alot worse things in life than relationships. Love your life. Love your children. And may you be able to throw their children birthday parties when that time comes.

Be strong and happy for life is way too short!

M




RiotGirl -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/6/2005 2:27:53 AM)

i'm sorry about your mom. i know its tough when mom's are ill. My mom has had lupus since before the day i was born. Silicon breast implants, got to love them! Though she's not so terrible off and with no organ involvement she's not doing too bad, i understand what its like to have a mom thats ill and nothing you can do. You are right though, perspective. Its just sometimes hard to see the sunny side.

i am not one thing

the complexities of the human being. We are all many parts put together. We are not just one thing.

i am all things

we are all things. IE in the lifestyle, some of us have dom personalities, submissive traits, abit of maso and a bit of sado in us. No matter which takes the lead. We are still all things.

and when life gets down to the grind, IE the tough get tougher.

we are capable of anything

which of course it gets abit more indepth and abit deeper then that, anyone could put there own personal swing on it.

i think it is as universal as it is personal.






Mandalin -> RE: my lil tidbit recently with stress (6/6/2005 8:26:59 AM)

Hey RiotGirl, that is really awesome! It caught my eye when I first saw it! If you dont mind I'm going pin that up on my frig for some inspiration every morning. Thanks for defining it out!

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom also. It really sucks to have your Mom ill all the time! If you ever need someone to vent to or just to talk, please email me anytime! I hope things are well with you and things are better now.

M



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