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LadyAngelika -> RE: Surprise! You aren’t the sub, you’re the Domme! (6/7/2005 4:52:01 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Leonidas
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Good attempt at interpretation Leo, but you are so way off the mark ;)
Yeah, probably, but probably no more so than you are. It's really, really hard to acribe intention to people (other than yourself), and even then some people are better than others. I know what it means (more or less) when I do something. Someone else can do the same damn thing and he might be doing it for very different reasons. You're seeing them through a fem-dom/male-sub lense. I put a different lense on it (a somewhat absurd one, just to make a point) and it looks entirely different. Could be that he's lovingly submitted to her (your interpretation). Could be he sees her as the wildest fuck he's ever had and he'd like to keep it that way (mine). Could be something else entirely. You hang around long enough and you figure out that when it comes to others, you just don't know.
First of all, I simply suggested that she look at her relationship another way, to deconstruct it so to speak, to look at it from another perspective. I didn't say that my interpretation was right. The title is misleading that way but I did that on purpose because I fiddled with the title for so long that I just decided to go with something that would lure all you here ;) I believe that nowhere in my posts have I claimed to assign her a label she doesn't identify with.
As for me only looking at the relationship through a fem-dom/male-sub lens, I say "nah!". I actually have developed the ability over the years to look at things through lenses other then my own (which for the record is not only a fem-dom/male-sub lens but also a a fem-dom/female-sub lens, fem-maso/male/sado lens, fem-sado/male-maso lens oh and that is just the beginning of the kinky list!). I have, like she, developed the ability to deconstruct my reality and look at it from other perspectives in the goal of self-actualisation. And though she does appreciate my perspective, I know that she will make the decision that is right for her.
For the record, I have taught her a lot of what she knows about wiitwd. She has also discovered a lot on her own but comes to me when she has questions. The beauty about our friendship is that we can tell each other anything. I do believe however that when it comes to her and I, we are spun from the same web, which is why we have gotten so close. I would not claim to have this kind of insight into just anyone.
And you are right Leo, "when it comes to others, you just don't know". But the closer you get to someone, to more you know.
- LA
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