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darchChylde -> WOMAN 101 (6/20/2007 7:38:23 PM)
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Over the years I've learned that I'm very good at making women feel good (not meaning anything sexual by that), anyone can do it and here I am to share my expertise with all of you.
This is not D/s related; because, as a general rule, all women need much the same things at their core. There will be exceptions to most all of these points.
It's as simple as looking into their eyes and a little flirtation, or just listening to them without trying to think of how to respond (otherwise you'll miss something every time, and it will all be imortant; if you don't believe me, get into an argument and she'll bring up a seemingly insignificant comment you forgot about long ago).
The big mistake guys make is thinking of women as being complicated, not that their not; but being complicated is part of the human condition and is not gender specific. Those aspects of a woman that a man must deal with on an everyday basis (whether in a relationship or as a friend) are really pretty simple and easy to deal with.
-When a woman has changed her look, make it a point to notice.
-Women like to know you're attracted to them, whether you have a chance with her (or she with you) or not; but don't keep reminding her of it everytime you see her, it gets creepy.
-Stop trying to fix their problems or give advice, if they want it they'll tell you.
-With a friend, give up the soft moaning when you hug her.
-Complement her on more than her looks, but don't complement her so often it looks like asskissing or trying to get in her pants.
-Don't chase a woman; let her know you're into her, and then be her friend and let it be, if you ever had a chance... she'll come after you.
This is something that many men will have a problem with. Most guys don't understand the idea of not hunting a woman. On the other hand; many women want to be chased (by the right guy), but if she thinks you're the right guy she will let you know in a thousand little ways like flipping her hair, or a gentle fleeting touch on your thigh, a smoldering look; whatever, you have to look out for them and be careful not to read them wrong. But always be careful with your words, no matter how you're doing, one misplaced word or too forward/sexual a comment can send you back to square one
-Don't just tell women they're beautiful, tell them specifics and compare them to pretty stuff, paint them a picture.
-Even though we all fear the "friends zone", a woman will more likely date or sleep with a friend than a stranger or casual aquaintance.
-If you really listen when a woman talks with you, she will tell you what works for her and what turns her off.
-Never, never, never and i mean NEVER compare a woman or your relationship with sports.
-Don't talk about your ex unless she brings it up or it is absolutely relevant to the conversation or situation. You are with her, not your ex; there's probably a reason.
-If you're giving a friendly massage, don't try to turn it into more; trust me, if she wants it to be more she will give you definitive unmistakable signals to make it clear.
-darchChylde
ps: i welcome any questions or comments from the men or women who read this.
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