RE: Courtship

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Courtship

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Courtship

Page: << < prev 1 [2]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Courtship - 6/23/2007 9:36:56 PM

Eldritchdancer

Posts: 101
Joined: 12/26/2006
Status: offline

To me, Courted = Targeted piece of Meat. Instead, I'd like a Friend. If something more developes, great. If not, then I still made a friend.

Master Darkmoon

(in reply to curiouslyseeking)

Profile

Post #: 21

RE: Courtship - 6/23/2007 9:51:54 PM

mythi

Posts: 257
Joined: 2/25/2007
From: Naples, FL
Status: offline

I like a bit of flirting right at first just to make sure they can joke and tease and whatever, but I require getting down to business very early. Once I know that we're compatible and this could really go somewhere, THEN pour on the courtin' and kindness. Before that I'm just like, "okay, yes, that was lovely...but does it turn you on when I struggle?" lol

I let a close friend read Master's first (very direct, but still occasionally humorous) reply to my initial email...her response? "OMG, that was perfect! <pause>...for you."

_____________________________

“The truth doesn’t change based on our ability to stomach it.”
Flannery O’Connor

(in reply to Laura)

Profile

Post #: 22

RE: Courtship - 6/23/2007 9:58:21 PM

MzMia

Posts: 5333
Joined: 7/30/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Eldritchdancer

To me, Courted = Targeted piece of Meat. Instead, I'd like a Friend. If something more developes, great. If not, then I still made a friend.

Master Darkmoon

As a Dominant I EXPECT to be courted--after and when I decide IF you are someone I want
to court me.
If I don't decide who I want courting ME, than IMHO I am not in charge.
I want to be courted....by the submissive that I have chosen to be worthy TO court me, ONLY.
THEN, I still set the rules of the courtship.
Damn, I love being a Dominant woman.

_____________________________

Namaste'
To Each His/Her Own
"DENIAL ain't just a river in Egypt." Mark Twain

What's your favorite fetish?
"My partner's whisper"--bloomswell

(in reply to Eldritchdancer)

Profile

Post #: 23

RE: Courtship - 6/23/2007 11:00:16 PM

SDFemDom4cuck

Posts: 2809
Joined: 5/23/2005
From: P'burgh PA
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

As a Dominant I EXPECT to be courted--after and when I decide IF you are someone I want
to court me.
If I don't decide who I want courting ME, than IMHO I am not in charge.
I want to be courted....by the submissive that I have chosen to be worthy TO court me, ONLY.
THEN, I still set the rules of the courtship.
Damn, I love being a Dominant woman.

What She said...couldn't have said it better Myself.

_____________________________

Ms Jo

She dealt her pretty words like Blades -
How glittering they shone -
And every One unbared a Nerve
Or wantoned with a Bone -

I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.

(in reply to MzMia)

Profile

Post #: 24

RE: Courtship - 6/24/2007 12:11:37 AM

LadyPaige

Posts: 187
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline

Domme or Sub, if you want to be courted, then state that clearly in your profile. As a Domme, it's your responsibility to make what you expect known.

(in reply to Laura)

Profile

Post #: 25

RE: Courtship - 6/24/2007 2:11:28 AM

SexyCazzy

Posts: 15
Joined: 6/16/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Eldritchdancer

To me, Courted = Targeted piece of Meat. Instead, I'd like a Friend. If something more developes, great. If not, then I still made a friend.

Master Darkmoon

I am of the same thinking. Like I said in the other thread (why do you rush into a D/s relationship or something), I am wanting to find some nice friendships and then see if we can change a friendship into a D/s relationship, if not, I will always have a friend to talk to and to share experiences.

(in reply to Eldritchdancer)

Profile

Post #: 26

RE: Courtship - 6/24/2007 5:47:43 AM

ready4srvce4all

Posts: 767
Joined: 3/9/2007
Status: offline

I think there has been some wonderful advice in the posts so far for you. But those who have said, "put it in your profile", I only agree with to a point. I don't think you need to state "you must court me" or a checklist. Instead, give them a little homework. I feel any Domme who wants to be courted by a sub would do better by having in their profile, "Before contacting me, tell me something about Elise Sutton."

When my journey began with Mistress, I had asked Her for some people who She admired. One of those people was Elise Sutton. For a submissive male, I can't think of a better person to read. Ms. Sutton talks to the submissive male about courtship, and that a Dominant woman has the same desires as all other women.

I think you will find having a little homework assignment for your boys will get them going in the right direction, but also you will know if they can do even the simplest little task for you right away. Kind of whipping two subs with one stroke of the whip!

Of course, that would mean you would need to peruse Ms. Sutton, if you already haven't.   If She is new to you, I think you will discover a wonderful resource. Who knows, maybe there is a nice man out there who might actually gift you one of her books.

I apologize if my post sounds like an infomercial on Elise Sutton.   I know she isn't for everyone, but for your situation, I think she's perfect.

Best of luck in your search.

_____________________________

(in reply to Laura)

Profile

Post #: 27