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fdcakoh -> What about your wife???? (6/7/2005 12:16:38 PM)

I saw a post about why not your wife. Does anybody have any ideas on how to get someone over the last hurdle? My wife talks about exploring the life style. She has had me purchase or make various items. They all sit in a box. She tells me during the day that she is thinking about it but will never act on it. I have tried a variety of things but which she get very excited about but will never initiate them latter. We are both new to this so I thought any different approach or idea might be all it takes.

Thanks in advanced.



Mercnbeth -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/7/2005 12:29:58 PM)

Don't know about access in Ohio, but I'd suggest getting out in the community. If not in Ohio, consider a trip to a lifestyle convention someplace. Conventions happen fairly regularly. You don't have to pick a huge national one like Folsom but I'm sure there is some regional one nearby. I recall hearing that there is an annual meeting in St.Louis. Going to something like this will give you an opportunity to meet and talk with other lifestyle active individuals and couples.

One of the biggest hurdles for anyone looking to have a lifestyle relationship is the feeling that you are "weird". Getting out and seeing that you are not unique and your desires are not weird, may be the ice-breaker you need. If you do it outside your local area you won't have the apprehension of seeing the PTA president sitting in a booth while walking to the back room of a munch meeting held at Denny's. Of course you are just as likely to see that same PTA president walking around Folsom at the end of a leash.

Good luck!

It will let you experience the energy of



cellogrrlMK -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/7/2005 2:19:06 PM)

Depending upon where you are in Ohio there are quite a few groups, also in Kentucky and Indiana. I don't have links right now, but if you want some I'd be happy to look them up for you... just drop me an email here.

cello



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/7/2005 2:23:37 PM)

Read www.akashaweb.com (the most normal feeling, least intimidating site I read when I was beginning), buy "the mistress manual", a book by Lorelei, has no nonsense advice for scary moments to help with the "am I a freak" questions...
Good luck, M



littlespike -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/7/2005 3:44:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: fdcakoh

I saw a post about why not your wife. Does anybody have any ideas on how to get someone over the last hurdle? My wife talks about exploring the life style. She has had me purchase or make various items. They all sit in a box. She tells me during the day that she is thinking about it but will never act on it. I have tried a variety of things but which she get very excited about but will never initiate them latter. We are both new to this so I thought any different approach or idea might be all it takes.

Thanks in advanced.


i think that some hands on play time might help. Here in SoCal there are lots of dungeons and Mistresses. Perhaps schedule some time with a pro-Domme in a dungeon setting. Have some fun play-time and get a Dommes perspective on how to bring the FemDomme lifestyle to life in your home....

little spike



SecretDomme -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/7/2005 6:04:35 PM)

Perhaps you can sit down together and go through the items in her box and have her talk about how she will use them on you. She might be inspired to try them on you when she sees your reaction to them.

Best of luck to you both,
Julie



NightRoseBud -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/7/2005 7:55:29 PM)

http://www.akashaweb.com/forwomen.html

I have found that this is a great site for women who are thinking of being Dominant, but may hesitate because they feel uncomfortable.

Also, it may help to talk to talk about why she says she will play but then doesn't. Is she scared? Nervous? Feeling guilty cause she's turned on? Don't point a finger, or make her feel bad. Just be supportive and underrstanding.



AAkasha -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/7/2005 8:32:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fdcakoh

I saw a post about why not your wife. Does anybody have any ideas on how to get someone over the last hurdle? My wife talks about exploring the life style. She has had me purchase or make various items. They all sit in a box. She tells me during the day that she is thinking about it but will never act on it. I have tried a variety of things but which she get very excited about but will never initiate them latter. We are both new to this so I thought any different approach or idea might be all it takes.

Thanks in advanced.


I've written a few articles geared toward women that are new and experimenting with bdsm. They focus on enjoying the act of sensual domination first, and then graduating to toys and larger steps. I've received a lot of positive feedback -- it's light and honest. You can find it at: http://www.akashaweb.com/goodgirl.html


Akasha



pantera -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/8/2005 6:10:20 AM)

get her drunk



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: What about your wife???? (6/8/2005 11:39:45 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pantera
get her drunk

[sm=lol.gif]Nah, getting her drunk might make her more agreeable, but also softer; she probably won't be willing to whip him into shape at that point.[sm=lol.gif] M



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