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alittlebent -> Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 6:40:23 AM)

Ladies,

i am curious on Your feelings about the names people refer to you as. Do you make any distinctions between a Domina, Domme, or Mistress. Is one anymore dominant than the other?




thetammyjo -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 7:09:48 AM)

I am a dominant in terms of Ds identity. I also happen to be female but I am actually a bit offended by the desire to use diminutive suffixes to show I'm female -- dom is just fine thank you very much.

I am only "Mistress" to someone who has earned the right to be my slave (and I the right to be his/her owner).

To everyone else I'm TammyJo.



MaamJay -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 7:15:09 AM)

I don't mind the terms Domina or Domme, I just happened across Domme earlier so I tend to use it more. I use it only as a device to allude to female Dominants rather than male Dominants, it doesn't worry Me to use it that way. If I am dealing with a sub in person he is to call Me Ma'am ... only if I move into a much more personal relationship with him would he call Me Mistress. None is any more dominant than the other in level ... it is more about level of relationship.

Maam Jay



MsKatHouston -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 7:43:20 AM)

I don't make any distinction between them as words or think anyone is "more" dominant than the other.  Dom, domme, domina, mistress, master, goddess, lady...whatever...it's just a title. 

If someone identifies as a dominant, then that's all I need to know.  The title is often self appointed or personal preference or in some cases given as part of a ritual and earned (such as in a leather community).

But I do not think the title itself lends to anyone being more skilled, knowledgable, dominant, etc.



queencaliph -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 7:51:03 AM)

I don't like being called a Domina.  I don't mind being called Mistress or Domme.  I like my subs/slaves to call me "Ma'am" or "My Queen."  I like to refer to myself as a Dominant Woman.  None of these terms are any more dominant than the other.  Although for some reason the term "Dominatrix" brings up images of more dominant, evil, sadistic type Dommes in my own mind. (yes I know its a false image) 



MHOO314 -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 8:02:56 AM)

The correct term is Domina, Domme is a bastardization of Dom and is not proper--Mistress is what a Domina is and should be to Her submissives, slaves--there is no difference IMHO as to levels or degrees, I am Domina, I am referred to as Mistress or Maam.



yourMissTress -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 8:11:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

The correct term is Domina, Domme is a bastardization of Dom and is not proper--Mistress is what a Domina is and should be to Her submissives, slaves--there is no difference IMHO as to levels or degrees, I am Domina, I am referred to as Mistress or Maam.


Being referred to as a "Domme"...if pronounced correctly is just fine with me...when I hear the word "dommay" or "dommie"  I cringe in the way that some do with the word "subbie".  I prefer to be called Mistress over Ma'am, because I'm just not that OLD yet!!!



MsKatHouston -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 8:16:22 AM)

ohhhh yes...I completely agree.  I don't care if I am referred to as a Domme if it is pronounced like Dom.  But do not do the dommay or even worse, dommie.  It makes me think I should be running around in a school girl outfit, pigtails with a lollypop and a whip.  "The dommie's gonna getttt youuuuu" *shudder*



MHOO314 -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 8:24:35 AM)

OMG Tress!!! Where have you been???? I missed you!



yourMissTress -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 8:29:27 AM)

I've not been far...just busy with life in general.  I'm glad to have some time on my hands at the moment, though it's only a short moment.  Good to see you are back and posting!

I have missed so many people here, and the banter as well as the drama.



MstrssPassion -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 9:28:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: alittlebent

Ladies,

i am curious on Your feelings about the names people refer to you as. Do you make any distinctions between a Domina, Domme, or Mistress. Is one anymore dominant than the other?




There really are no distinctions between the terms dominant, domme or domina even though many people tend to apply variations due to the fact that they may prefer one term over another. The only difference is the spelling & how it sounds to the ear. 

As for Mistress/Master the general consensus among most practitioners is that only your personal sub/slave should refer to you as such. It is also common practice for an individual to adopt either of these terms once they have come to a place in their life where they currently have someone in service or they have had someone in service. Many tend to feel that using either of these terms without ever having any experience in ownership to be premature or even presumptuous.

As for someone claiming one title credits them to be more dominant than another.. that is not fact... it is purely ego.



MistressRage -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 9:46:42 AM)

The word Mistress is indicative of a female slave owner therefore I like my slaves to call me that in recognition of their position.

The term Dominatrix is just a feminization of the word Dominant. It's the same as how a male editor would be called an editor but a female editor would be referred to as an Editrix. I enjoy the decidedly feminine connotation in addition to the word simply sounding strong so I frequently use the term Dominatrix.

The same goes with FemDom-meaning simply, Female Dominant. I usually use this word less frequently than Dominatrix because it sounds softer. I think it's the "femme" sound in it that softens it up so much.

Domme is pronounced wrong very often-- and I don't like the dommie pronunciation especially--sounds too close to dummy for me. Also, it sounds very soft.

I think Domina came from another language(much like Maitresse, Herrin, Ama etc) so it means the same thing as FemDom or Dominatrix to me. I like the sound of it as it sounds fairly strong, not as soft as FemDom but not as strong as Dominatrix. I don't personally use this term much as it is often mispronounced by subs/slaves and I have never felt a real affinity for it.

To answer your question about one being more dominant than the next--pish tosh. I have seen brutal FemDoms and sensuous Dominatrixes(or Dominatrice as you may have seen it used in the plural).


But if a cactus is a cactus and two cactuses are cactii maybe Dominatrix should be Dominatrix and 2 Dominatrixes should Dominatrii LOL.



DiannaVesta -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 10:00:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: queencaliph

I don't like being called a Domina.  I don't mind being called Mistress or Domme.  I like my subs/slaves to call me "Ma'am" or "My Queen."  I like to refer to myself as a Dominant Woman.  None of these terms are any more dominant than the other.  Although for some reason the term "Dominatrix" brings up images of more dominant, evil, sadistic type Dommes in my own mind. (yes I know its a false image) 


I enjoy my queen by my slaves. As a title I prefer Goddess



LadyCharly -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 10:12:27 AM)

As I began to start my journey as a dominant, I first acknowleged myself as a Top. Top - One who wishes to play with very little responsibility. After some time, I identified as a Domme (that's pronounced Dom not dommie!) Domme - One who wishes to take on more responsibility without enslaving. After a few years on my journey, I came to realize that I was a Mistress within every fiber of my body. Mistress - One who wishes to take on full responsibility for other human beings which you enslave. But alas online has brought forth many different meanings and everyone will debate them. Only I'm one who looks up the definitions of words in Webster's Dictionary and believe nothing that is not listed there as part of definition. Perhaps, there would be less confusion if EVERYONE did the same thing!
Oh how I wished people would stop being confusing by making up their own definitions...

http://www.m-w.com  This is the link to Webster's... Be my guest in looking up the correct definitions. *wink*



MstrssPassion -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 11:00:29 AM)

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Perhaps, there would be less confusion if EVERYONE did the same thing!


Really?
Where's the fun in that?

So ok, we are all supposed to do the same thing... who determines what the proper thing is that we should do? How do we determine who the who's are that are to be the authority on what the proper thing it is that we should be doing? What if we do come up with the proper authorities & they tell us we are all ordered to be vanilla?

Think about it...

I'm an individual & as an individual I am quite alright with having a conversation with another individual or a group of individuals so that I can effectively express/explain who I am, what I think & why I think what I think so that they can better understand me, my thoughts, my opinions & my philosophies. In turn I'm quite happy to listen to others do the same.... It's called communication, that wonderful concept which allows people the ability to clear the air so that there is no confusion. Beats the hell out of the alternative suggested.......... conformity. <shudders>



MsKatHouston -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 11:19:42 AM)

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believe nothing that is not listed there as part of definition


The only problem I have with this is the fact that Webster does not always have definitions as used in a kink sense.  For example, watersports is not even in the dictionary.  Neither is domme. 

In a kink sense, there are every day terms that are used differetly.  For example, we discuss vanilla activities.  Webster defines vanilla as:

Main Entry: 1va·nil·la [image]http://m-w.com/images/audio.gif[/image] [image]http://m-w.com/images/audio.gif[/image]
Pronunciation: v&-'ni-l&, -'ne-
Function: noun
Etymology: New Latin, from Spanish vainilla vanilla (plant and fruit), diminutive of vaina sheath, from Latin vagina sheath, vagina
1 a : VANILLA BEAN b : a commercially important extract of the vanilla bean that is used especially as a flavoring
2 : any of a genus (Vanilla) of tropical American climbing epiphytic orchids

Nowhere in that definition would it tell anyone what we mean when discussing vanillas.



littlesarbonn -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 11:22:33 AM)

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2 : any of a genus (Vanilla) of tropical American climbing epiphytic orchids


This is the definition I always mean when I refer to someone as vanilla.



MsKatHouston -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 11:25:21 AM)

[8|] yes, dear ;)



Politesub53 -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 11:32:52 AM)

All i know is that Babe isnt acceptable and ended up in me doing one very long essay [;)]



MHOO314 -> RE: Female Dominant Terminology (6/22/2007 12:38:05 PM)

dont
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

All i know is that Babe isnt acceptable and ended up in me doing one very long essay [;)]


You got off lucky, in My home, you would have been whipped.



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