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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 6/27/2007 9:35:06 PM

k8trix

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While I don't believe age alone can predict whether or not someone has the ability to be a good Master, I do tend to lean towards men who are 5 to 10 years older than me. My reason is simply that -most- men by that age have kind of sorted out their lives and are in a very stable, consistant, place and I feel more secure with a person like that.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 6/28/2007 3:51:41 PM

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k8trix, i can agree with you on having a Dom who is 5-10 yrs older but not really with the 15+yrs

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/4/2007 5:15:22 AM

spankingman7

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Hello Folks:
Why should age matter.?
I 'm an older Dom with over 25 years experience and the Subs I see all have had Dom's their own age and are not happy.They were referred to me and are still coming back. Had a 25 yr. Sub who was stressed out. Came to see me and since I understood her situation , she was more than willing to have me pull her panties down and spank / strap her naughty bare bottom.She felt very
happy to have an older man spank / strap her.
So folks if you are happy with your older Dom's , go for it.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/17/2007 2:53:54 PM

Constanza

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I am 33 and my Master is 48. Age doesn't matter to me at all, although i find most man of my age don't share the same life experience as i have. I know what i want and most man of my age don't know how to cope with that or have the respect towards females as older males seem to have.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/18/2007 4:05:18 PM

Bleys

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bandit25

I think you're correct; however, I don't know why we equate experience with compatibility.

If I might: in my experience, if someone is more experienced as a teacher, I feel more compatible as a student - the inherent trust that they know what they're doing and have probably done it before. Being that I want to learn from them, I'd rather have the teacher with 10 years behind them than the one with, say, 5.

Could it be, the sub/slave is subconciously (no pun intended) comforted by that?

B

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/18/2007 6:30:35 PM

ProfJoe

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I'm 23 years older than my girl.

She's demented.

I have no idea what she sees in me, or why she would put up with my shit.

But she does, she's collared, and she's stuck with me.

What's an old fart like me doing with a young redhead who is beautiful, intelligent, career-centered, popular, and financially independent ?

Anything I want, that's what. Yesterday I gave her a long spanking. I've a hankering for the nipple clamps again soon. I'd use the whip on her but the character marks she loves on my hands have become full blown arthritis, so she's stuck with the canes until the weather changes. She did a nice job cleaning my house today so I'll hold her tonight in bed and tomorrow she can wake me the way I like.

She says she likes it. I give a rat's ass.

Get offa my lawn, sonny.

Just saying. (Prof.) Joe

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/19/2007 1:34:33 AM

MistressJane23

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

And, as to why others have a preference for older Dominants, well, I have no real evidence, but I would imagine that life experience and financial stability have a lot going for them.

But who says that age = financial stability?

Jane

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RE: Older Dom's/Domes? - 8/19/2007 4:12:31 AM

trustingsubHF

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my decision to be with an 'older' Master (23 years difference), was mainly due to the fact that i have absolutely nothing in common with people of my own age. 'older' Master's, in my opinion... are more compassionate, sincere, caring, attractive and also very knowledgeable of who They are and of what They desire.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/19/2007 4:33:23 AM

MissHarlet

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Chia .. I love your posts .. they always make me laugh and think......now my apologies for hijacking the thread for a moment.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/19/2007 2:17:37 PM

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Lots of comments about older Dom's. Last week I had sessions with two Sub's . One 29 and the other 35. Both wanted older Dom's and after our sessions both want to see me next week. Both Sub's wanted a n older Dom who really cared and knew what they were doing. Both mentioned that I reminded them of their school Master at a private boarding schools who used to spank & strap their naughty bare bottoms. They said he cared and wanted them to do well in school and life. 29 yr. old is an engineer and the 35 is a lawyer with a great practice. Age has no barrier. Don't knock it until you try it.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/19/2007 2:22:06 PM

came4U

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An older man should/would have his sh*t together. (hopefully, yet some don't) Plus, for me, I wouldn't have anything much in common with a youngin.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/19/2007 7:40:24 PM

Ysabol

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My Dominant, and husband, is MUCH older than me. I turn 30 this year, he turns 53...age has NEVER mattered to us. We knew each other for 6 years before I even knew he was into BDSM, and also interested in me. Our girlfriend is 21...

To us, age was never A consideration.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/19/2007 11:18:00 PM

HotFaerieMama

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my Master is 38 i am 21 i met him when he was 33 i was 18 the reason i chose him is because i knew he was right. i guess you could call it destiny if you want. it just happened to work for us.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/20/2007 4:52:28 AM

Littlepita

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ProfJoe is my Daddy. He posted a few posts above me and he is very funny and shhhhh don't tell anyone but very cute!

I didn't set out to have an older dominant, but when you find that one who is perfect for you it works beautifully. I do love that he has his shit together, is educated, financially stable, and devoted to making us work. I sometimes have to pinch myself because life is so awesome now.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/20/2007 6:22:59 AM

mmb1

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HAHAHAHAHA!!! ProfJoe-----she sounds pretty lucky BTW :) Arthritis and all :)

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/22/2007 5:49:14 AM

xAngelxDaphnex

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Simple for me..
An older Dom has more experience, and he knows what He is doing. It is also clear what he wants
i can feel small in His big arms and I love the thought that such a big man (master) is using His little girl

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/22/2007 8:24:53 AM

murmur

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quote:

Golden showers become golden moments, more
than a trickle, less than a splash, it "depends".

Canes often come included, allowing for the
purchase of that premium leather lined walker.

A boy can use Her old Lady panties as a white
flag of surrender when he finally gives up.

Rocking chairs make for the greatest strap-on
aids, "just squat boy, it'll do the rest".

Safe words like Bingo and Yahtzee bring an
immediate celebration and a quick end to the pain.

BDSM is now defined as Bedtime Does
Sound Marvelous.

She forgets to lock the cage, allowing for
those late night trips to the fridge.

Electric play is limited to finding the light
switch in the middle of the night.

haha, great post

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/22/2007 11:47:08 AM

Tigrita

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Speaking for my self I have a few reasons I like older men and particularly older Doms. I'm 25 and very intellectually and emotionally mature for my age (told by my ex I was 24 going on 35). Even in vanilla dating I've always leaned to men in their 30s, even when I was in college. When I really want a dominant man to master me, my vision is someone in their 40s even 50s. Main reasons: I have a professor complex. I like highly educated, sucessful, established, respected, socially dominant men. A hot-shot sucessful 35 year old doesn't comand the same social respect as a 45/50 year old who's earned comand respect, a pillar of strength and leadership. I can see myself an equal with a man in his 30s for a good, kinky tusle, even let him tie me up and spank me etc. but would be unlikely to submit for them mentally. I can't submit for someone who is still figuring themselves out and getting thier shit together.

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RE: Older Doms/Dommes? - 8/22/2007 12:25:16 PM

iammachine

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When it comes to partnering, age really isn't so much a consideration so much for me as compatibility. Personally, my peer group has always generally consisted of people older than myself, so I guess it's kind of natural that most of my partnerships have been with people older than myself (generally 5-11 years). Granted, age can be a factor as there comes a point where you might not have much or enough common ground, but I don't consider age to be a major factor in any case.

In terms of why I personally tend to be more comfortable with people somewhat older than myself, again, that has always been my peer group. I just never really have connected much with people directly in my own age bracket. I don't think age necessarily correlates to experience as far as kink in concerned (there are those much older than myself that I introduce to knew experiences rather frequently), but wisdom and maturity is definitely a factor that is often (but not always) paired with age.

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