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how can you tell differance between a serious sub/slave from one who is unsure?

Truth is - you can't. Just because a sub/slave is unsure doesn't make her not serious. People react to submission in different ways. Some are hesitant just because they need a certain type of dominat who can 'coax out' the submissive in her and help her to become all that she is capable to be.

Theres no real, no true - just individual relationships - just like 'vanilla' ones. You don't know who you may be compatable with - and there will be liars and cheats, but you use your commen sense, have patience, take your time, remain strong and true to yourself and don't let your loins rule your head(unless you want it too...) and you will slowly begin to find the people you are looking for.

Try visiting a munch or group in your area - great place to start.

Peace and Love