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RE: inclusive or exclusive..... - 6/26/2007 2:22:12 PM

SirDominic

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I feel as a BDSM community we are better off if we presume that most vanilla people are actually into BDSM, but just don't know it.

Can't agree with that. I would agree that most people are more kinky than they let on. That is a far cry from living a BDSM lifestyle. What I have found is that most vanilla's are into light bondage, spanking, etc. But even though one is topping another, they both consider themselves equals in the relationship. That is the cutoff line, as a great many of my vanilla friends simply can not get their mind around the idea of actually Dominating another, or really submitting to another. The ones who can accept those concepts are the ones most likely to try a fetish relationship.

The only time one gets in trouble with these debates is when one starts to think that one kind of lifestyle is somehow superior to another.

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RE: inclusive or exclusive..... - 6/26/2007 2:56:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: SirDominic

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I feel as a BDSM community we are better off if we presume that most vanilla people are actually into BDSM, but just don't know it.

Can't agree with that. I would agree that most people are more kinky than they let on. That is a far cry from living a BDSM lifestyle. What I have found is that most vanilla's are into light bondage, spanking, etc. But even though one is topping another, they both consider themselves equals in the relationship. That is the cutoff line, as a great many of my vanilla friends simply can not get their mind around the idea of actually Dominating another, or really submitting to another. The ones who can accept those concepts are the ones most likely to try a fetish relationship.

The only time one gets in trouble with these debates is when one starts to think that one kind of lifestyle is somehow superior to another.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

SirDominc, as always!

I agree many vanilla's are into light bondage, spanking etc., I would even add that many here that enjoy
role "playing" only, are essentially Tops/and bottoms.

I just don't personally see a big difference between the vanilla kinky crowd and the many Tops/and bottoms.
IMHO, Top/bottoms, play partners that are equals in the relationships, and vanilla kinks...are all in the same boat.
Also, throw in those that enjoy "playing" every other weekend and on holidays.

For me, they are INCLUSIVE by default, no different than some players around here and online.
I know of so many male submissives that are submissive for a few months, go back to vanilla for a while, then come
back again.
You have to flip a coin to figure out what they are.

< Message edited by MzMia -- 6/26/2007 3:06:35 PM >

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RE: inclusive or exclusive..... - 6/26/2007 3:27:47 PM

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You really think your elderly grandmother gets off on being hogtied and spanked?

Hey, maybe granny likes it that way! I found out mine had a collection of lingerie, and i thought she hated men all those years.....

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RE: inclusive or exclusive..... - 6/26/2007 3:32:56 PM

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You really think your elderly grandmother gets off on being hogtied and spanked?

Hey, maybe granny likes it that way! I found out mine had a collection of lingerie, and i thought she hated men all those years.....

^5 you made my day, Granny is just 2 steps away from becoming a Domina.

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RE: inclusive or exclusive..... - 6/26/2007 4:11:58 PM

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Thanks, love to bring a smile to one's face! If you can't laugh, life just sucks! LOL

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