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EvaLass -> Tolerance for Pain (6/24/2007 5:40:29 PM)
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I am seeking insights into the experience and management of pain. I have had a number of people tell me that a submissive's 's ability to tolerate and handle pain changes over time. For instance, let's say that a Dominant enjoys watching his submissive's reaction to pain. He likes to watch her writhe and squirm when he administers pain. She dislikes the pain but submits to it because he enjoys the reaction he gets from her; and he also rewards her during the infliction of pain by caressing, kissing, and holding her from time to time. In addition, she gets a pleasurable endorphin high a few hours later as compensation. In a specific scenario, he uses a thin graphite rod to hit the submissive's nipples several times while she is bound. This can hurt like all bloody hell, and on her pain scale it may be a 10. Why is her pain tolerance to something of this nature going to change over time? Someone told me that learning how to breathe can make a big difference in the perception of pain.
I have also heard and read that the brain tends to forget what pain feels like. So, submissive may experience significant pain from the graphite rod, but may participate in the exaxt same activity a few weeks later without recalling the severity of the original pain. She goes into it with an intellectual memory of the pain but has forgotten exactly how sharp it feels. Has this happened to anyone?
Finally, has anyone found that experiencing pain at the hands of a Dominant who is otherwise tender and gentle can be a bonding experience? And, if so, are there any inisghts that you would like to share about why and how this happens?
I have avoided using labels like "sadist" or "masochist" on purpose. Reasons and motivations for infiicting and receiving pain appear to vary among D/s couples, and the degree of pain administered is very subjective depending on the perception of both parties.
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