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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 6:18:36 AM   
instynctive


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Status: offline 		Dammit pairofdimes.. you took my suggestion...

W/we ordered chinese food last night and I instructed b to get additional sets of chopsticks... she looked at me in a quizzical fashion and said "but W/we already have chopsticks..." then the light of realization dawned on her...

she came back from getting the food with a dozen pairs of chopsticks..

However, one thing I've learned about using chopsticks, the rubber bands don't really provide Me with the precision control I require.  At some point in the near future I will be crafting a handful of leather "sleeves" and will be able to adjust the pressure between the sticks by moving the leather closer to or farther from the "girly bit" clamped.

I clamped both her nipples with one set of sticks, the weight of her breasts providing deliciously painful torture.. and clamped her inner labia and clit with the other pair... I then "rubber-banded" a "bullet" vibrator to the sticks, right over her clit... then wrapped her labia around the vibe.  Exquisite..

The only issue with wooden chopsticks is as with anything else wooden.. like clothespins... the wood will suck ALL the moisture from the area and will hurt like a mofo when you remove them... be sure to lube up the wood in some manner...



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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 7:21:15 AM   
CitizenCane


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Status: offline 		Just get some decent chopsticks- laquered wood, metal or even good quality plastic.  Of course, the splinters from those cheap ones from the local chop suey joint might be just the thing...

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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 8:43:00 AM   
Missokyst


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You mean dominants don't learn this stuff by osmosis?
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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 8:50:45 AM   
DerMeister


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Status: offline 		This thread goes GREAT with my morning cup o' jane... I can't wait to expose mine to these treats. I'm REALLY enjoying the shopping concepts. Thanks for gettin' this started Trampler!

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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 3:34:29 PM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		**giggles** these were really great ideas, thank you so much! Gods (or whatever Diety/lack therof.)bless you!  As for certain morons who think we should spring forth knowing all like Goddess Athena did from Zues's forhead............well I certainly hope they aren't a Dom/Domme. *mutters* since their profile doesn't seem to exist.

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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 3:44:11 PM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		Female genital torture, turned out to not be my personal thing. But here are some of the ideas we came across and tried a few.
pegs placed on vulva, wooden ones
a vaginal speculum
figging
other oils, potions and lotions, from listermint strips, to ginger, to ice, to heat
chain trick. (length of dog check chain, sterillised, warmed, and inserted, produced feeling of fullness similar to fisting).
Getting a very small little pot, and a paint brush, and 'painting' the clitoris with various stimulants, like potions/lotions mentioned earlier.
wheels
pins
cocktail sticks
hair grips
All of which get awfully repeptative if you dont add another dynamic to them, ie, role play, humiliation etc. but that's just me. You two's agenda will be different.

Personally, ive just come from a relationship where we'd discuss new stuff often, negotiating as we went, i dont see it as the dom allowing the bottom to top, i see it as good negotiating, titilating your partner, foreplay etc. But i see that other dom's are judging you for asking her. Hey ho.
Dont forget to discuss it afterward, to really get inside why certain things worked for each of you, helps with planning the next trip to la la land.
good luck
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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 3:50:53 PM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		well I don't judge topping from the bottom to be a bad thing, as long as it is done respectfully.  Being new at the this game, I am much more interested in the activities themselves then in the D/s aspects.  Back when I considered myself a sub, any Dom that tried going ahead with the scene without negotiating, got a few sharp words from me, or from friends.  And those same friends would kick my ass if I tried pulling that shit with anyone!

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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 4:53:17 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		frazzle, no need to be snarky, this is a friendly place, and all questions are welcome.

besides how boring would it be if we all just did what we already know how to do?


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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 5:40:51 PM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		Exactly!!!

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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 6:44:54 PM   
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Well even if we do play, sex will not be on the agenda. She promised her vanilla boyfriend that she wouldn't have sex with anyone. 


Question,
what is the purpose of this MS play?   You are the sadist and she masochist?  Isnt there a point at which she gets off on this?  Or you?
I am asking cause I am, we (my Sir and I) are not, into MS play and am not sure how it all works.   
ONLY ONCE did I ever have an MS play scene, way back when exploring what I was really submissive for ....  the Dom and I never discussed if it was sexual or nonsexual.
 
He obviously was extremely arroused.  I on the other hand was very drained at the end, with absolutely NO arousal but  really wanted to suck his cock....I wanted to please him, I begged.
 
Not knowing I had already pleased him, he realized I received nothing of the scene except to be flesh upon which to pursue some of his sadist activity.  Being the kind Dom he was and I believe wanting release from his arousal, he did say I was allowed to suck since I begged so well.

I do not mean anything negative by this, just trying to understand,  isnt this much like Bill Clinton saying a bj is not sex?

There are many aspects of WIITWD that others do that I simply dont understand.
 
 
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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 8:12:55 PM   
MBETWO


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't call it torture but I have this little stiff bristled paint brush, that works wonders
A lot of different intensities from a tickle to abrasion. It works nicely all over the body with a little talc.

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RE: Girly bits - 6/25/2007 8:17:56 PM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		adding a little (or a lot) ginger powder to your lube is always interesting....though i would not recomend it for insertion first thing off...apply it to the clit first and then see how she reacts...its much easier to wash off the clit than anything internal if its well...too much like real torture...

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RE: Girly bits - 6/26/2007 7:02:07 AM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		shyinini, Yes that is what we are going for. She is looking for more intense play then she has gotten so far.  I/we had decided on Genitorture because it one of the things that she had listed, and I was intensely curious about it.  I doubt we are going to get to the heavy stuff, just wanted info for future reference. ;)

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RE: Girly bits - 6/26/2007 8:24:10 AM   
earthycouple


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shyinini

quote:

ORIGINAL: Trampler

Well even if we do play, sex will not be on the agenda. She promised her vanilla boyfriend that she wouldn't have sex with anyone. 


Question,
what is the purpose of this MS play?   You are the sadist and she masochist?  Isnt there a point at which she gets off on this?  Or you?
I am asking cause I am, we (my Sir and I) are not, into MS play and am not sure how it all works.   
ONLY ONCE did I ever have an MS play scene, way back when exploring what I was really submissive for ....  the Dom and I never discussed if it was sexual or nonsexual.
 
He obviously was extremely arroused.  I on the other hand was very drained at the end, with absolutely NO arousal but  really wanted to suck his cock....I wanted to please him, I begged.
 
Not knowing I had already pleased him, he realized I received nothing of the scene except to be flesh upon which to pursue some of his sadist activity.  Being the kind Dom he was and I believe wanting release from his arousal, he did say I was allowed to suck since I begged so well.

I do not mean anything negative by this, just trying to understand,  isnt this much like Bill Clinton saying a bj is not sex?

There are many aspects of WIITWD that others do that I simply dont understand.
 
 
Sir's alpha cumslutcockwhore


I don't have intercourse with my live in.  Yet we are very sexual and sensual.  And the comment Trampler made was in regard to cunnilingus which in my book, woman on woman, is sex.  It would appear Trampler and/or her potential feel the same way.  Who are we to judge what is "off limits" for others and what is not? 

Robert is highly aroused when I inflict pain on him, I touch his cock, rub him, etc.  It is all very sexual but not intercourse and still within the confines of my limits.

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RE: Girly bits - 6/26/2007 9:12:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I had to get back online and read this thread to see why Derek mentioned getting sushi tonight for dinner after reading it....


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RE: Girly bits - 6/26/2007 9:31:27 AM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Just a word of caution when using chemicals, whatever they may be ... remember that using them puts the CHEMICAL in control, not You as the Domme. That's because most of them can't be effectively washed off or neutralised without inflicting further pain in the process, and some just have to run their course until the body's own systems refuse to acknowledge the pain. Therefore if Your sub says "enough!" and safewords ... there's actually not a damn thing You can do to honour that safeword. And that's not a great way to build trust. So My suggestion would be to avoid the stingy burny chemicals and go with many of the other great suggestions that YOU can remain totally in control of.

Just My opinion ...
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