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KatyLied -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/26/2007 8:31:49 AM)
quote: i own a house and have two unmentionables If you are working, you probably also own some pension and IRAs. I would not submit to financial domination and I can't envision a scenario in the future that would change my thinking. Mainly because I left a marriage with very little and had to start over again. I won't make that mistake a second time, and I won't have what I've saved wiped out leaving nothing for my children. It's a priority for me.

MagiksSlave -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/26/2007 11:46:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists quote: ORIGINAL: LongTerm24C The only thing scary about financial domination are the fools that fall for it. People that are that dumb; scare me. Dumb huh? Don't think anyone who knows me would consider me dumb. I trust him with my body, my heart, my soul, my well-being. I trust him not to damage or harm me. Trusting him with money was easy after all that. Knight's Kyra Totaly understand what you are saying and really I feel the same way, only difference is Im a broke college student with no money for him to Dominate!!!! If i did and he wanted to he would be welcome to controll that part of me as well. But you cant really Controll something that doesnt exist LOL Magik's slave

KnoxFIre -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/26/2007 12:17:50 PM)
Please don't take this as ridicule on any one person's thoughts or opinion, but how many 'nilla couples, married, do you know where one has to keep a tight rein on the budget because the other lacks the discipline to manage money? And being married is no sure fire bet either. The divorce court dockets are jammed with couples who are doing their best to destroy their former partner's financial future. Like everything else we do, financial domination should be entered into as a "risk aware and consensual" situation.

domitablespirit -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/26/2007 1:13:21 PM)
I would love to submit to financial domination (calling all investment-banker-slash-Dommes, please drop me a line). But really. Financial domination is the intellectual equivalent of diaper fetishism at best, and a roadmap to disaster at worst. I've worked hard for years and years to get to where I am financially. I've made difficult decisions and made wise investments when I've been able to, and I can't afford to give that control to anyone who knows less about money than I do. Not that I have much to lose--a mortgage is expensive--but it is for precisely that reason that I cannot afford to have it lost for me (whether it pleases my owner or not). "So it looks like my little slave has some spare cash for me to throw around. I could use a pair of designer shoes." Then a couple of weeks later, when I ask whether I have enough to open another CD or put more money into my IRA and find out there's nothing left until payday.. sheesh. That's a nightmare. If anything, the submissive should have the responsibility for the money. I'm paying bills today, and suddenly having someone do it for me sounds really appealing...

aidan -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/26/2007 1:30:14 PM)
Given that I only have 300 dollars in my bank account, financial domination might be more scary for the Domme than for me.

daddysliloneds -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/26/2007 2:01:52 PM)
my experience with financial domination isn't the typical scenario... he wouldn't spend time with me, top me, or dominate me in any way, shape or form unless he left massive amounts of money behind without me complaining that he made me feel like a prostitute!

denika -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/26/2007 10:33:14 PM)
For the most part, I make more than Rob does, it is just the type of carreer I have but then we don't judge our relationship on who brings in the most money. We share all of our accounts and he, being more organized than I am has a bill payment schedule set up , with what I need to pay and when and what goes into which account. Asking for permision to buy something is still new territory for us. Any purchace over a hundred dollars we sit down and talk about, he has final say but we both discuss the expenditure. This has been one of the more challenging aspects in handing control over to Rob, not that I don't trust him. After 17 years of feast and famine I know he's not going to go nuts but it is an aspect of control that is just 'new' would be the best discription. denika

MisstressNboytoy -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/27/2007 5:01:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: MisstressNboytoy ....Would you still do this if he gave no reasonable explanation, just because you have given him absolute authority over your life? Yes she would... She is my slave and requires no Justification to why I want to do things.. She needs but Clarification to exactly what I want so that she can properly and effectively obey the instruction. Neither her or Alandra hold things in reserve. They have made a decision to Trust!... Trust themselves and me. It is a complete authority transfer... How I make decisions and What decision I actually make continues to validate their decision of trust each and every day. They didn't jump into this relationship with me out of ignorance. It wasn't some romantic feel good label to slap on. They are my slaves.. and that simple means that they transfer authority. I will exercise the authority in the decisions I choose to make and I will delegate the rest back to them. and the line is simple:... I don't knowingly make decisions that will cause Harm to their Well-Being! If this is what is going to occur well.. I expect them to RUN! Hopefully the vast majority of doms do not knowingly make decisions that will cause harm to their subs, but the key word here is knowingly. Trust and complete authority transfer are fine, but that doesn't mean that you stop watching out for yourself and leave it completely up to another person to do so. I'm sure that they did not jump into this relationship out of ignorance, but I do hope that they are not living in it. If one morning you made the decision to put all financial accounts in your name, it is my opinion that not only does she have the right to question it, she has an obligation to do so. We all want to believe that our current relationship is the one that is going to last forever, but at the same time we need to be realistic about it and not set ourselves up for disaster.

octavia -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/27/2007 7:56:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists quote: ORIGINAL: LongTerm24C The only thing scary about financial domination are the fools that fall for it. People that are that dumb; scare me. Dumb huh? Don't think anyone who knows me would consider me dumb. I trust him with my body, my heart, my soul, my well-being. I trust him not to damage or harm me. Trusting him with money was easy after all that. Knight's Kyra Totaly understand what you are saying and really I feel the same way, only difference is Im a broke college student with no money for him to Dominate!!!! If i did and he wanted to he would be welcome to controll that part of me as well. But you cant really Controll something that doesnt exist LOL Magik's slave For me, this isn't about the actually cash at all. It's around the decisions I make with my cash and the fact that a Dom whom I would select to be my Daddy, would have superior money management skills to my own. I would want him to include this area of my life as well into our dynamic. It would feel weird to be "baby" in all areas save one or two. How does one turn on and off the submissiveness for those areas? I would never fall for a scam of "give me all your money" or anything along those lines. Actaully, considering my current financial health, the thought of that is rather comical. Rather, what I seek is a Daddy who knows all about all the bad bad credit card choices I've made and is willing to help me bring it to the light so to speak and make changes for the better. I guess that is what being fiscally Dommed is to me. I'm in the process of buying a new car and everything in me want to go buy a super cute, way to expensive, yeah but I need to reinvent myself, hunk of make me feel better.[:D]

SanDieganMichael -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/27/2007 1:04:55 PM)
Financial Domination is something that can be craved as much ass any other form of Domination. Just as it has a different meaning to everyone. Some people damaged or not, thrive on being slaves; others deranged or not, thrive on abusing their slaves. [sm=banghead.gif] As always the trick is finding the right balance so you are not put into a situation which is untenable and dangerous (unless of course that is what you’re looking for … ugh nevermind).[sm=whiteflag.gif]

kyraofMists -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (6/27/2007 3:05:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisstressNboytoy If one morning you made the decision to put all financial accounts in your name, it is my opinion that not only does she have the right to question it, she has an obligation to do so. It may be your right and obligation but it is not mine. The only questions I would need is to clarify what he wanted so I could meet his expectations. I do not need to question his motives or need justification for his decisions. I know his character and I know his goals; I have no fear of his motivations and no fear that if for some unknown reason the relationship were to end that I would be facing a disaster financially. Emotionally I would be devastated but financially I would be better off than before I entered the relationship. His principles and ethics would allow it to be no other way. Knight's Kyra

LongTerm24C -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/21/2007 9:25:06 PM)
What She said.........

Grlwithboy -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/21/2007 9:53:05 PM)
Huh. Well, I'm the owner of a humiliation fetishist. And one whose income has fluctuated and has often left a fun amount with which one could "play." For me, it is a fetish activity and a posture which reinforces the fetishes within a relationship. It's not the cornerstone, but it's an interesting facet. It's not mandatory but it is perfectly appropriate with this slave and the kinds of subjects and power differentials that make us hot. Yeah, there's not much "intellectually" there with a diaper fetish, as another poster opined - that doesn't mean that everyone has to take a dump on that fetish. No pun intended. If it's not your money, and no one dies, I'll never understand why everyone has the long hard freakouts over this that they do.

trustingsub -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/21/2007 9:58:43 PM)
it seems that if You are contributing to the household and not doing without anything that there would be no problem with financial domination.

Rayne58 -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/22/2007 1:09:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domitablespirit If anything, the submissive should have the responsibility for the money. I'm paying bills today, and suddenly having someone do it for me sounds really appealing... grins I have the responsibility in our relationship for making sure the bills get paid on time. I use internet banking, I have two credit cards, we have separate bank accounts even though we are married. He gives me His share of the bills in cash. I know His PIN number and get money out for Him each week if He is too ill to get to the shops. I keep the receipt but He hardly ever looks at it [:)] He isn't interested in having the control of my finances....apart from telling me I should spend more of it on myself [;)] [:D]

NefertariReborn -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/22/2007 4:05:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists quote: ORIGINAL: MisstressNboytoy If one morning you made the decision to put all financial accounts in your name, it is my opinion that not only does she have the right to question it, she has an obligation to do so. It may be your right and obligation but it is not mine. The only questions I would need is to clarify what he wanted so I could meet his expectations. I do not need to question his motives or need justification for his decisions. I know his character and I know his goals; I have no fear of his motivations and no fear that if for some unknown reason the relationship were to end that I would be facing a disaster financially. Emotionally I would be devastated but financially I would be better off than before I entered the relationship. His principles and ethics would allow it to be no other way. Knight's Kyra Once again I am in awe of you. The three of you seem to have your shit packed tight and I admire that. you trust Knight. Strange how some can trust Someone to do all manner of "evil" potentially physically harmful things (envisioning My very conservative aunt's take on WIITWD) but balk scream and have a melt down if someone mentions financial domination. Whip me, spank me, kick my ass from one end of the room to the next, bite me, clamp me, hook me? (Did I miss anything) but for godsake leave the money alone. Yep makes a ton of sense to Me.

AquaticSub -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/22/2007 4:46:15 PM)
lol, I didn't realize this was an odd thread. Never mind

tollboothjack -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/22/2007 4:48:41 PM)
Well.... If I had Donald Trump or JR Ewing money..... met a Domme online, and then signed over power of attorney to her. Yeah, I'd call that pretty scary. Me? If financially dominating the 5 dollars in my pocket turns ya on... go for it!

AquaticSub -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/22/2007 4:49:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn Whip me, spank me, kick my ass from one end of the room to the next, bite me, clamp me, hook me? (Did I miss anything) but for godsake leave the money alone. Yep makes a ton of sense to Me. Everyone has limits and some people have to make sure their money stays safe, not just for them but for those who depend on them. For those people, giving up that responsibility simply may not be an option.

NefertariReborn -> RE: Is Financial Domination Scary to You? (7/22/2007 6:14:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tollboothjack Well.... If I had Donald Trump or JR Ewing money..... met a Domme online, and then signed over power of attorney to her. Yeah, I'd call that pretty scary. Me? If financially dominating the 5 dollars in my pocket turns ya on... go for it! Donald's lost and regained his money a few times if I recall rightly from his book. The thing with money is that it doesn't care who owns it so you can lose it and get it back again if you remember how you did it the first time. Doesn't hold it against you that you did crap with it three, four times. The thing with our bodies and the insanely decadent things we do to them in this lifestyle (Thank god may it reign forever) is that it can be lifethreatening in the wrong hands yet we gladly place faith in people not to do that. If you die there's no second chance (sorry to My eastern friends who believe I know I know damn christians). To Me, and this is just MHO it's easier to or should be easier to let go of the money. And yes I submit to My financial planner coz she knows what the hell she's doing and I don't lol. IF you think your Dominant is going to steal your money perhaps you shouldn't be with Him/Her. Trust issues???? P.S. Buffet doesn't plan to leave a dime to his descendants. And he doesnt give them money either, just an education. And this from one of the richest men in the world. He's going to give it all way hmmmmmmmmmm. edited to add the p.s.

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