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RE: Backing Down? - 6/27/2007 10:00:40 AM

DiurnalVampire

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LA. THAT was what I was trying to think of. How to point that out. Just about exactly that. That occurred to me last night, while I was trying to sleep.

And honesty, we havent had anything very deep, since originaly we got together with the idea that this was not going to be long term. We went directly into the play but not so much the emotional part of it. Neither of us ever really thought about it becoming more bcaue we had time constraints.

For now, I am going to try and see if he can deal with just being himself. He is avery submissive person, naturally, and he fights it all the time. He lets himself be sub around me, and then worries that I am goingto think less of him.

This is s complicated. I had thought hen I finaly got it through Angels head that our relationship together was acceptable even though it was way out of the ordinary... I was finished with this. If I could do it once, with Angel, am sure I can eventualy do it with Kitten as well.

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RE: Backing Down? - 6/27/2007 10:05:22 AM

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Eh, issues like these will take years to really get through- even SOME progress at this point is something to celebrate.

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RE: Backing Down? - 6/27/2007 10:19:42 AM

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Having a boyfriend, actually. My marraige was a disaster, the few times I dated and it got serious it was disasterous... so I had essentally given up on having a boyfriend. I was perfectly content to have my 2 boys as just pets, and nothing more than that.
I can see more with Kitten, the way it is going. I didnt think I would, and I wasnt particularly upset about it.

Aaaahhhh... I can totally understand where he's coming from. I had one Master/slave relationship without the emotional involvement of boyfriend/girlfriend. She actually wanted more at one point and I did not feel the same way. It actually was a rather rude awakening one day when she pressed me really hard for more. My feelings and emotions were simply not there. I still remember laying there in bed... she actually climbed on top of me and was pounding on my chest.. in tears.. saying things like "Don't you give up on me!". She had it in the back of her mind that I would somehow magically fall in love with her and the short term relationship would turn into a long term one with a deeper commitment. Not one of the most pleasent of experiences to go through in life. Actually, I was feeling rather empty inside too at the time being with somebody 24/7 that I did not truely and deeply loved. I found myself wanting more and not finding it in her. I hope to never experience this again. It was not a good combination. So I can totally see where your boy is and was coming from.

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