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LadyHeart -> RE: To train or not to train....? (6/28/2007 12:47:43 AM)
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I take a different tack. I put a submissive to the test right from the outset, because I believe that we begin as we mean to go on. I only talk to local bois, and I limit my email exchanges with them to a bare minimum. I have a wealth of information on my profile that I require to them to peruse before they reply to me, so they have a really good idea of where I'm coming from. I then organise a meeting the same week we make the initial contact, and make them aware that they will be meeting my husband, because if they can't cross that bridge they are not for me. It has netted me very successful results, as I am experienced enough to know what questions to ask, and to suss out what kind of submission they are offering. I have found that moving quickly has resulted in a very effective first meeting where we exchange all the information we need to make a start with, and I try to arrange a first play session as soon as possible thereafter, to capitalize on that initial energy exchange. For me, this approach works well. Many submissives seem to "go cold" if things move too slowly. It sounds as though I rush, but I am actually quite thorough, and I fully admit that this approach wouldn't work for everyone. But it's the opposite side of the on line coin, so I thought it might balance the equation a bit, as we have to operate in ways that fit our personality type. I have a job in which I am constantly delving into people's psyches, so this way of doing things comes naturally to me.
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LH
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