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RE: De-sensitized - 6/13/2005 3:52:44 PM

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And they say they're not missing hockey in Canada...

I certainly am not! All those hockey players need something else to do to fill up their evenings <weg> and trust me, I give them quite a work out!

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I'd love to join you for a little of that action. Oh, my.

Hockey withdrawal.

Bigtime.

Akasha
(who has another site, www.hockeyerotica.com -- ahem, yep).

You and I tackling the Habs. Oh fun!!

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RE: De-sensitized - 6/13/2005 3:56:51 PM

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My husband and I

Congrats!

Sorry Karbon for highjacking this thread now twice. I will get back on topic now...

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RE: De-sensitized - 6/13/2005 3:59:34 PM

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Does this lifestyle de-sensitize you to the other weak sissy crap? Or have my taste for pain just evolved me as a sexual creature?

I know where you are coming from. I was there at one time. Sex had to be hard core and all the rest was unsatisfying. That isn't the case anymore. I realised that the deep connections do not happen via techniques, but rather via energy.

I agree with those who say that variety is the spice of life. I have found lately with my boy that we have been having some moments that would seem on the outside to be pure vanilla in terms of technique but because of the dynamic between the two of us, there is absolutely nothing vanilla about it.

At other times, when playing with a maso partner, I can get extremely fierce. I find the energy level is similar. It is only the actions that differ considerably.

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RE: De-sensitized - 6/13/2005 4:00:49 PM

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My husband and I went to see Zumanity in Las Vegas this past week and were very disappointed.

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Really!! DAMN beth & I were looking forward to seeing that. Every time we've been in Vegas it's either been sold out or on hiatus.

By that same token you don't need to see the "adult" show at the Stratosphere either. It's a vampire themed "lifestyle" inference show called "Bite". Disinterested performers and lots of naked fake breasts but the name pluralized is an appropriate short two word review. It Bites!

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RE: De-sensitized - 6/13/2005 4:15:54 PM

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For me, I find that vanilla sex and sexual images are not overly stimulating to me any longer. I have a femsub friend who says that vanilla sex isn't worth getting undressed for anymore.

That is EXACTLY how I feel. Although my tastes and attractions have always been darker than the average person, (just the way my interests lay) Its just wierd.

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RE: De-sensitized - 6/20/2005 6:05:09 PM

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My husband and I went to see Zumanity in Las Vegas this past week and were very disappointed.

Beach,
Really!! DAMN beth & I were looking forward to seeing that. Every time we've been in Vegas it's either been sold out or on hiatus.

By that same token you don't need to see the "adult" show at the Stratosphere either. It's a vampire themed "lifestyle" inference show called "Bite". Disinterested performers and lots of naked fake breasts but the name pluralized is an appropriate short two word review. It Bites!

I find vanilla ice cream even doesn't do it for me.

I remember being invited to an S&M show in Osaka, years ago. It was all these over-acting totally fake, But I could feel one girl in the audience and one girl on the stage were real. I walked right in and let people see what 'real stuff' looked like. The whole room lit up. The performers just stopped and stared.

By the same token I have seen some shows put on at the HellFire in NYC which were intense.

I have only been to Vegas once. Gambling is like vanilla sex to me. I prefer to bet on an idea I have. That is a real horse race to me.

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RE: De-sensitized - 7/1/2005 12:00:49 AM

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KarbonCopy i apologise for in some ways i cannot relate, because i didn't find my way to my submission until late in Life. 39....sad. What a waste. So for you, as i did, embrace who you are. Realize that unlike me...you won't miss...all those years of delicious torture. Think of all the time you have to enjoy....and experience...how i envy that <smile> in a good way.
i do remember this KarbonCopy also, when i first discovered myself, and really began to play real time....i was overwhelmed by it all...the intensity.

vanilla is done for me too, and rightly so, at least for now, it is not who i am.

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RE: De-sensitized - 7/1/2005 1:01:01 AM

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Well I seem alot different to alot of people here. I still enjoy Vanilla sex. It gives me the thrill, the buzz. Ofcourse I enjoy Bdsm more but life must go on.

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RE: De-sensitized - 7/2/2005 7:54:47 AM

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I am 46, I only recently learned that within myself lurked a Dom, I have always had a strong sex drive - - -

Having said that, I realized long ago that porn just didn't give me a charge any more and seeing a nude woman wasn't any sort of automatic trigger. Somewhere in my 30's I guess, and over 19 years of being married, I just outgrew that part of my life.

I look at stuff online daily, mostly looking for ideas. I am not there -or here-- looking for sensation or sexual stimulation.

At 19 you are young. As you mature, you will find a lot of tastes can change.

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RE: De-sensitized - 7/2/2005 8:54:11 AM

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Yea, as a kid around 9 and 10 years old, we had access to alot of playboy/hustler etc magazines, so ever since a very early age, seeing a NUDE woman really didnt do much for me. I got WAYY more off from seeing a girl in a really erotic outfit as opposed to just seeing her nude.

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RE: De-sensitized - 7/2/2005 10:09:21 AM

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for me, they both compliment eachother and actually magnify the other.....

after a harsh punishment, or S&M experience.... it's very thrilling to have this same Dom
love me tenderly the next time....

and when my gentle, romantic lover is displeased with me and teaches me a lesson with S&M harsh sex/activities, it is more exciting because of the contrast.....

there's nothing more thrilling than to watch & feel his hand slowly caress my thigh, remembering the hard spanking i had recieved just the night before.... ~ zaynab

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RE: De-sensitized - 7/2/2005 10:26:00 AM

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Lately I've come to a conclusion about myself.

Before I realized I was into this kind of lifestyle, I always found myself more attracted to the more "darker" side of sex. (Leather, whips, chains, etc.) I didnt know what this meant for me, I just figured it was a prefrence.

After comming to grips with this, learning more about the lifestyle, and getting the chance to actually experience it, I've found that I am now 100% de-sensitized to any other forms of sexual imagry.

Nothing else gets me turned on in the slightest.
Strippers? Nothing (unless their the naughty girl in leather type)
Girls at the club? Nothing (except for the goth night club down the road, that one kicks ass, lots of D/s people there)

Its either this or NOTHING for me.

Does this lifestyle de-sensitize you to the other weak sissy crap? Or have my taste for pain just evolved me as a sexual creature?

LOL! Sissy Vanilla Sex! hehe.

hmm, this is a good question. Well, here's how it is for me. i still get turned on by strippers, dirty magazines , those Penthouse Letters that Master reads, sex scenes in Vanilla movies, and just seeing her naked body. However......when getting down to the nitty gritty...Vanilla sex does not appeal to me in the bedroom (or whereever else) and does not turn me on.

Spank me, Bite me, Toss me across the room, whip me and call me your slut whore does it for me.