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How much whipping is too much? - 6/27/2007 7:41:13 PM

palemale2000

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Being whipped is very important to me. I enjoy being marked on a regular basis. I love the clearing of my mind of all else except the sharp pain from each stroke. My mistress/playmate orginally would not beat me and sent me to a pro-dom for this need. When I returned she enjoyed seeing what had been done to me, even taking pictures of the welts. A month ago, she whipped me just to try it out and really got into it, marking me well. She tried out each tool, canes and whips. She ended up using the two that I thought most agressive. Now I would enjoy that again, but she is reluctent. She keeps me in a lori chastity device and enjoys being in charge. She has no problem dealing out punishment, just not the type I crave. How do I get whipped on a regular basis, at least monthly.

Also are their reccomendations on types of whips that will mark best. Currently this petite woman marks me best when using Adam and Gilians Martinet and Slick Slim. I like welts and some cutting marks. If they are permanent that is all the better.

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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/27/2007 7:50:56 PM

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I find the heading of your post rather mis leading. Your issue is really that there is a mis match of play styles between you and your Domme. It happens. It seems she's already found a compromise - sending you off to someone else who enjoys whipping. She's not going to change. You are either going to have to accept that or move on. Sorry to be so blunt, but she's the Boss.
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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/27/2007 7:52:44 PM

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I might be missing the point here - but I believe as long as you're having a good time... it's all good.

"How much whipping?" is largely up to you and your Dominant(s) - it's all a matter of personal preference and available participants.

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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/27/2007 7:55:01 PM

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The best I can offer is be thankful that you are half the continent away. There are some of Us who are not afraid of the "how much is too much" question.

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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/27/2007 11:05:03 PM

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For the back a Sjambok marks me best...

For the bum, a selection of very thin dragon canes.....

I have a love hate relationship with both, love the burn after, hate the strike, hate the lead up to it (i'm told a time to report), love that it turns her on to do it and love the marks i carry for her after.....

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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/29/2007 10:36:34 AM

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As a male slave, i would say anything that breaks the skin and leaves marks is over the top. And of course it depends on what the whipping is for. if it's just the Domme amusment, it could go on longer than if it were punishment.

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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/29/2007 11:56:26 AM

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There is an excellent thread on "Topping from the bottom" floating around in General that you might be interested in.

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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/29/2007 1:56:41 PM

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Do i have too many limits?

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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/29/2007 2:36:17 PM

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Dear paleman2000, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I consider the intentions of whipping very much, as to the measure of how much or too little to 'whip' someone.

I really do not need an excuse to whip any. However, I do know the need slaves have to be whipped as a means of re-affirming their slave heart/belly/spirit and or the re-affirming of the Dominant-submissive relationship. It has nothing to do with punishment/discipline --more of a reassurance.

There are those slaves who need to feel the whip as to enter a catharsis state--or healing. Again, it has nothing to do with punishment, discipline, training or sexual pleasure. I think it is an extremely fine as a hair difference to reaffirming the slave 'state' of being, state of mind and or state of spirit.

Each acts as a release --it gives the slave a new beginning to the ordinary state of things. Perhaps much like an occasional 'treat' or 'reward.'

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 6/29/2007 3:40:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissOchistic

There is an excellent thread on "Topping from the bottom" floating around in General that you might be interested in.

And we have a winner...I was wondering who was going to see this for what it is..."wah wah....she's not punishing me the way I want...wah wah..."

nice job MissOchistic!

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RE: How much whipping is too much? - 7/18/2007 11:49:06 PM

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I beleive that this is total right of my mistress, she is free to whip me hard or soft, too much or little .
it's totally up to her
she has all wrights on me to do any thing she wants to me

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