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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/28/2007 5:57:44 PM

Aileen68

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What the fuck?

I have no clue what you are talking about.

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/28/2007 8:50:28 PM

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Umm ok so you have had 9 years of experience, yet you didn't know how to negotiate a scene properly? Sorry if that is wrong, but that is what I seem to be reading. DommeChains you believe you do?? Thats alittle confusing. BP, slow down alittle when you type, hell even write it out on paper or in a Word processing program, then read it thru a few times to spell check and that the sentences are grammatically correct. No you don't have to be a perfect speller, but to be understood, put more thought into how you want to say things. :):)

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/28/2007 8:55:40 PM

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/28/2007 10:42:58 PM

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A collar is really only as bonding as the two people involved want it to be...and obviously although you gave it to her in good faith, she had no respect for it. That's really not the type of person you want to be involved with...it's not emotionally healthy. I know in my relationship, I have permission to play with others under certain circumstances, number one is if i want to play, i ask, and then He talks to the Dom/me to negotiate the scene. If it is someone He trusts and I am in agreement, He doesn't have to be there, otherwise, He is there, but He is always there for the first time, just to be sure. That is for my safety. I have been offered as a "guinea pig" to other Doms for needle play because I know what it is and isn't supposed to feel like and I have no problem giving them advice on what is needed...and I don't get freaked out if things aren't just "perfect". I would never go behind His back and play because then i could lose the privilege of being able to play with other Dom/mes.
It really takes a "Big Dom" to admit He doesn't know enough about something to be doing it and is willing to seek the training to do it properly and safely....i've been with Doms that thought because they read about it, they could do it......i read a book on surgery once, anyone want a frontal lobotomy or a vasectomy????? The relationships really never lasted long, i'm a bit of a maso, but i'm not into "suicide by Dom."
The best thing you can take away from this is the knowledge of what not to do next time......
I really wish you the best and hope you do find the one out there that will respect the collar You offer....

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/29/2007 3:39:26 AM

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Just my two cents for what it is worth...move on..drop the sub! For whatever reason she has chosen this other Dom. Just take this as a lesson learned. I personally would not have a Dom that would "share" me for any reason. Even if it was a supposed "learning" session. You run the risk of the grass really being greener on the other side. And in this case...that is what she obviously thinks. Find someone you are more compatible with. Respectfully, desiresluv

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/29/2007 4:06:42 AM

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Just a couple of thoughts come to mind.....

One, stop rescuing "broken" and "damaged" people. A lot of people are broken and damaged because they WANT to be.

Two, someone can only have "no equal" if everyone else agrees to it. And there's no law anywhere stating that anyone has to.

Good intentions or not, if you play along in their drama(s), you have to deal with the consequences. Walk away, already.

One more thing...."feeding on her". Apparently he has a vampire complex, too. Maybe if just one person in your circle chose to walk away and not give him the audience he obviously craves to feed his own ego, others would follow.... Because, from what you posted, it sounds as though he's saying "I have no equal....I will feed on your sub....deal with my 3rd party because I can't be bothered speaking to you....." and you all are gasping in awe and doing whatever he says! This guys a big pussy inside.

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/29/2007 4:39:25 AM

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Poor Bunny. Dom T ran over Bunny.....Squish!!!

Dear op.....I think it is a great idea for you to get heavily involved into needle play and breath restriction play.....I look forward to reading about your future mishaps in the paper.

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/29/2007 5:20:53 AM

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Not trying to beat this topic to death but I know the OP in real life. His writing style is difficult to understand at times...but I have been reading his postings on local boards for some time so I know how to interpret it....lol. I am not endorsing his actions nor defending his actions. He knows he made some bad choices and I believe was using this forum as a place to vent and possibly get some support.

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/29/2007 5:25:29 AM

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Ja, apparently that is going to be slid down the ol' poopchute as well.

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/29/2007 5:57:04 AM

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Like the others have said... it is nearly impossible to understand you.

So I took a look at your profile & that of the woman in question. You were obviously much more into her than she into you. Not one mention of you within her profile. She mentions a recent move & I assume that she encountered you shortly this move. I would also have to assume that she was keeping her options open as far as making any commitments (she hints at this) & she found an options more entertaining than the one you offered so she moved on.

This isn't so much about drama as it is about "grass being greener". It appears that all the bulls rushed up on this girl & now she is field hopping. She isn't about to settle on grazing one field.

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/29/2007 7:29:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BunnysPapa

Her: THIS IS THE PROBLEM!!! She did not inform me as to what was going on and has been keeping things from me as to what she needs past the needle play. I blame her the most. She was collared and chose to play to her ADICTION and not to her obligation to end the relationship first and move on. Instead she empowered the conspiracy.

My opinion, respectfully, is that you can place all the blame on others if you wish to but the problem will arise again, unique in its own way but generally similar, if you do not put the responsibility where it belongs, which is squarely on your own shoulders.

It is wonderful that you give others a chance but history will repeat itself if you keep making these sorts of choices. You ~choose~ to be a victim in these circumstances. You can also choose not to be. The nice guys who finish last do so because they choose women who will see to it. Nice guys who finish first in relationships choose women who are productive and responsible to that end. Be more selective of the woman, be diligent in your role (both in and away from her life).

I wish you well.

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RE: What does it mean to feeding on a sub after and is ... - 6/30/2007 8:17:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: BunnysPapa
Please , while Hines sight is 20/20 I am trying to understand, and the 3 Dom.’s I trust are not available to me to get properly instruction in the play with needles and 3 ich insertion into the breast and body.

It's true, you've got to have good eyesight to play the piano. You could do some good needle play with coordination like that.

Once called "the first modern jazz pianist," Earl Hines differed from the stride pianists of the 1920s by breaking up the stride rhythms with unusual accents from his left hand. While his right hand often played octaves so as to ring clearly over ensembles, Hines had the trickiest left hand in the business, often suspending time recklessly but without ever losing the beat.

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