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Gagging! - 6/12/2005 5:46:16 AM

RandBcouple

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i have a verrrry bad gagging reflex. How do some of you cope with that? Can one get over it? Is there anything i can do to improve this or is it something that just is, and is hopeless to try and over come.

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RE: Gagging! - 6/12/2005 5:59:42 AM

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I've been to some adult toy parties and they sell this throat spray designed to numb the gag reflex. Sorry, I don't remember the name of it but I know it's out there.

Another idea is to get your mind in the right place. You know at what point you are going to start gagging so when you near that point try to focus deeply on something else. Like perhaps instead of knowing that you are going to gag soon, consentrate on how pleasing what you are doing is, focus on the feelings it causes you in your heart, (or other places) and go slowly.

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RE: Gagging! - 6/12/2005 6:11:59 AM

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Some of us enjoy the fact that a sub cannot control his/her gag reflex ;-)

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RE: Gagging! - 6/12/2005 7:47:57 AM

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I know in some of the catalogs I get its just called Deep Throat Gel. You can also try some chloraseptic spray, or any throat numbing spray. I've also heard that swallowing some Orajel will do the trick too. Just be careful after these things, as you can choke on food if your throat is still numb.

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RE: Gagging! - 6/12/2005 8:49:49 AM

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one used to have difficulty with gag reflex - felt as if one was choking to death. However, one has learned that when she goes all the way down, that of she keeps one side of her mouth a bit away from His cock, so that she can get some air through there, that it is much easier to go all the way down without having such a gag reflex. Discovered this by accident, and am so glad one did. But even though one truly loves performing oral sex, there are times that things just don't go right - the rhythm is not there, one gags and chokes, regardless of what one does - grins - thank goodness that is not all of the time! Good luck - and keep practicing, you will get there...........

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RE: Gagging! - 6/12/2005 11:09:32 AM

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Try to relax. That's hard for most of us maybe because when we're trying to relax, we like to breathe deeply and err... that's not an option. lol.

Practice. The more you do it, even for short periods, without gagging... the more confidence you'll get, and the more you won't tighten up (and gag) in fear and natural reaction.

Know that it's not easy, but you're (hopefully) going to get there. Good luck.

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RE: Gagging! - 6/12/2005 11:21:24 AM

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ok, please don't laugh. But i had this same problem and Master had me practice on a toy. LOL. Believe it or not it helped. It helped me learn different techniques that worked for me because every person is different. He has also enjoyed it because my technique has improved as well. LOL. Anyway, i found that it is easier if i inhale as he is going in and to use visualization to control the gag reflex. i tend to imagine what he will do to me later in my visualization, this also helps to get me worked up too

. Hope this helps. Good luck and have fun!

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RE: Gagging! - 6/12/2005 11:23:42 PM

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if i ever get to play, and She gives me a gag, i will tell you what happened.

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RE: Gagging! - 6/15/2005 1:09:34 AM

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Okay... on one hand, gagging can be a lot of fun. Messy and embarassing, but fun. But sometimes it is too much... you don't want to actually throw up (er, at least I don't), so there are some things you can do.

The first is to practice swallowing. Just with water is fine... concentrate on the motion. About halfway through a swallow your throat is open... this can help to minimze it.

Check your position. Make your neck as straight as possible.... leaning your head over a bed or getting on all fours works for me, but I've seen people do it kneeling. This helps to reduce the gag reflex, fewer things hit the top of your throat as firmly.

And, of course, practice. Get a small toy and go slow and play with the edge of it.

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RE: Gagging! - 6/15/2005 5:10:49 AM

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Practice sword swallowing

Seriously, everyone has given great advice, and I have nothing I can add except, practice, practice, practice...

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RE: Gagging! - 6/15/2005 10:20:37 AM

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I practice now and then with a toy too!! I don't mind gagging so much as I mind the whole "Not Being Able To Breathe" thing... Gagging I just expect. I don't think my gag reflex is awful but I do have one. Practice makes perfect. Actually I noticed that the toy I was practicing on was actually a lot harder to swallow than um, you know... because it is rigid and does not bend at all.

Raise the bar! Practice on a huge 12" dildo and THEN go back to sucking away. HA HA HA... See what happens to your gag reflex then!

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RE: Gagging! - 6/15/2005 11:59:31 AM

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Here's my question on the subject....if it's involuntary, can it be controlled? i tend to *think* that ive gotten pretty good at controlling it but every now and then, it just happens, which leads me to think there's a certain spot He is hitting that perhaps could be avoided. My problem right now is, when you're in the heat of the moment and He starts controlling your head motions, depth specifically, how do you ladies signal, in a submissive way of course, that you are having difficulty? i get moments where it feels as though i am not getting enough air and if the gag reflex kicks in, that only increases my need for less depth, but it coincides with His climax and i want to keep going for His sake. Of course, the moment 'passes' and everything is fine, but for a few minutes i feel as though im choking and it's very unpleasant, almost ruining the whole experience for me. ive considered tapping His arm and letting Him know that i really need Him to pull out some, but knowing how much He enjoys those brief moments of hard/deep penetration ive not spoken of it yet with Him specifically. (yes shame on me) and yes, He likes it when i struggle too, so there goes that idea ;)

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RE: Gagging! - 6/16/2005 8:36:38 PM

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i've got no idea. Talk to him when you are in the heat of the moment. Pop out the blue and say "hey you know when......." and tell him how you feel. Just let him know and then let him decide what to do.

Umm.. it is TRUE about practice makes perfect. In my earlier years, i sued to do very well at it. i was able to deep throat no problem, gag reflexed all controlled, yada yada. Had boyfriends complimenting me on how good i was at.. and then.. LOL i lost the boyfriend and went "celebite" for YEARS. i did that about twice. So Low and behold here comes Master bringing me out one of those "celebite" periods and guess what?

i've completely forgotten EVERYTHNG. (waaa) LOL i can barely deepthroat now.

Practice, practice, practice

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