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Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 11:01:24 AM   
nonuts4thshoney


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Status: offline 		I started a relationship with my girlfriend 7 monthes ago. She decided to surprise me with some rope and a flogger for a little kinky play. I had never been tied up or flogged. The first time I was flogged I became extremely aroused and wanted more. When she had tied me up and flogged me I was slightly nervous not knowing when and how hard she would flog me or what she would do next. But this aroused me even more. Since then She has flogged me a small handful of times. Recently we went to gay pride and there was a leather tent that demonstrated some flogging techniques. I was sooo fascinated by this. When we got home the following day she whipped out the flogger and tried some new techniques. This experience was different because This was different because sex would not follow. It was just so that I could be pleased. She started slow with softer hits then gradually worked up to harder blows. I like thud and sting. And the harder she hit me the better it felt. I felt each hit go right through my body and it felt wonderful. When I had reached my limit she softly ran the tail along my spine and then ran some cold water down my back. This was the first time that I was in tears. It was such an amazing experience and look forward to it again. It has now been three weeks since my last flogging and I seem to crave it more everyday. My girlfriend has never praticed this with anyone else before. So we are both new to this. It is getting to the point where I really want to pratice this more often. It's almost like I am addicted to it. I need it. But I dont want to seem like a freak. LOL! She likes to do this when she is in the right mood. And when she is, it turns her on extemely. How do I tell her that I'd like her to please me more often without sounding needy? LOL!
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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 1:00:23 PM   
stef


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Status: offline 		Don't worry about trying to classify yourself just yet. You've just found something that you like and you need to take some time to enjoy the journey before deciding on your destination. You should sit down with your girlfriend and tell her what you're telling us. She needs to know where your head is as much as you do if this is something you want to grow between the two of you. The more you communicate, the better things will be.

Fir future reference, please don't post the same thing to multiple forums unless you're looking for some nonconsensual topping by the moderators.

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 1:07:19 PM   
Synocense


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Status: offline 		There is something effectively dubbed "slave frenzy" - in which someone with the passion you speak of (which is a good thing in and of it self and should be embraced!) cannot seem to get enough or get it fast enough. The problem with this is that it can sometimes lead to a lower level of common sense which in turn can lead to dangerous situations. Just be careful, learn all you can about safety, all the while, having a ball. : )

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 2:29:58 PM   
kc692


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sfgrrl

Don't worry about trying to classify yourself just yet. You've just found something that you like and you need to take some time to enjoy the journey before deciding on your destination. You should sit down with your girlfriend and tell her what you're telling us. She needs to know where your head is as much as you do if this is something you want to grow between the two of you. The more you communicate, the better things will be.

Fir future reference, please don't post the same thing to multiple forums unless you're looking for some nonconsensual topping by the moderators.

~stef


Thanks, I'm relatively new myself, but this is the third forum, and I can already see it on the next. I thought maybe I had misunderstood. hopefully the mods will understand the newness of the OP

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 4:37:06 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Synocense got to it before me :) Sub frenzy is almost universal (there's also dom frenzy) and in addition to the issues she presented, it often leads to a disillusionment and burn out in a few months when things turn out to be not so shiny and bright and fabulous as you first experience them as a newbie.

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 5:22:26 PM   
FuriousAngel


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Status: offline 		I had a raging case of sub fever for ages. There was a lot of hallucinating!

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 5:31:20 PM   
nonuts4thshoney


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Status: offline 		Ok, so being that I am a newleywed to flogging...how long does the honeymoon last? LOL!!! Will I still want it as much 3 years from now..LMAO! Ok this is gonna sound stupid, but does this stuff work like drugs (not a drugie) and when you reach a tolerance or immunity that you craze something more intense?

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 7:08:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney

Ok, so being that I am a newleywed to flogging...how long does the honeymoon last? LOL!!! Will I still want it as much 3 years from now..LMAO! Ok this is gonna sound stupid, but does this stuff work like drugs (not a drugie) and when you reach a tolerance or immunity that you craze something more intense?

It usually lasts about 6 months for people who go rt right off. Generally the longer you wait to go rt, the longer it can last.

Some people become addicted and become play junkies, but they always burn out eventually. Most people learn over time how to balance between the fix and real life- or they burn out, or they realize it's not for them after all.

Craving more intensity is normal, as long as you make sure common sense doesn't get lost.

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 7:52:31 PM   
nonuts4thshoney


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry Emerald, but what is RT? I know what I like but I am not familure with all the terms.

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/12/2005 10:39:22 PM   
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Ok this is gonna sound stupid, but does this stuff work like drugs (not a drugie) and when you reach a tolerance or immunity that you craze something more intense?

For some yes it does. This thread might give you some insight:

needing more pain

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/13/2005 1:21:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney

I'm sorry Emerald, but what is RT? I know what I like but I am not familure with all the terms.


RT = Real Time

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RE: Newbie cant get enough..Is this normal? - 6/13/2005 2:59:33 PM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		It doesnt stop.
Just when you think your getting a little more sensible with your craving, something new develops, and you turn your craving to that!
Its been about a year for me now. 6 months of us 'dating D/s style' and 6 months of living together where D/s is now our way of life.

just my experience though.

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