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Termyn8or -> RE: How do you define success and happiness? (6/30/2007 8:29:34 AM)
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Success is not making alot of money,success is making enough money in less time. If you can work 20-25 hours a week and make a good living, that is some measure of success.
Happiness comes from what you do in the spare time. The two are completely independent. Important matters are usually decided by one, the one who is affected by the outcome. Only stupid shit is worth arguing over. You hear couples argue over all kinds of things, what movies to rent, what new car to buy all that shit, but did you ever hear them argue about buying food for the kids ?
Fact of the matter is, success is learning not to worry. People ask me how is Mom doing (after her quad bypass) and I say OK I guess. I don't pester her every day exacting a health report. And people don't understand it sometimes. Some will say "I call you every day to see if you're OK" to which they might hear "Do you not understand how much I cringe when that fucking phone rings ?". Not bill collectors, we all have great credit, but people trying to sell shit. And my entire family knows, if they are trying to sell it, it probably isn't worth it. Waste my fucking time.
Success is having people understand, DO NOT LET MY PHONE RING MORE THAN FIVE TIMES UNLESS YOU ARE IN JAIL. Success is not having to work Saturday. I used to have to work Saturdays, now I am a leader in my field and I work when I damn well please, and I don't please to work on Saturday.
Happiness is when your friends respect your Saturday and don't really like to ask you to help them move or some shit. Happiness is when five guys can sit in a room passing a hooter around and nobody asks about anything, or yells "By God play some skynard".
Success and happiness have nothing to do with money. You can win the lotto and be miserable, or have thirty dollars to your name and be content. However success can be defined within the construct of one's work. I take a hell of alot of time off work, and they are happy to get what they get. They would like me to work all the time to the tune of around a thousand a week, but I have made the decision that my time is worth more than money. so they get what they get and I don't want to hear about it. Fuck with me and you get nothing.
And finally, happiness is being surrounded by people you can trust. Happiness is being in control of who is around you. Trusting only the right people is essential to this. Happiness is having no roommates, even if that means no regular Woman waiting at home. I can flick my ashes right on the floor.
Being able to crank it up at three AM is nice too, No taxes, insurance or house payment helps, but that is all financial. Doing what I want is the most important.
Put it this way, they would bend over for me at work. I could take a position of extreme authority real quick (it is creeping up on me, there have been times everyone there was considered my assistant), and I do not have to bust ass at all. But it doesn't matter, since I am there for money it is work. I could drink beer all day at work if I wanted, but I don't. I can smoke at work. They can fine the boss $2,000 for that (Ohio), but I can do it. But it is still work. No matter what they do, the end of the day is the goal.
And happiness comes with the weekend, that is when the seatbelt comes off and the car radio goes all the way up. That is when I know I do not have to do this until next week, and I can wake up in the morning and think about nothing for as long as I please.
Don't get me wrong, I almost like the challenge of my job, but to have the responsibility removed for the weekend, that is important. I don't give a shit about anything. At 11 AM I am jamming UFO-Lights Out. Going to get some beer soon. Anybody wants anything, I will think about it after that.
Don't get me wrong, life is not a bowl of cherries. At least not until the AC works in my car, and my amp is fixed. Not until I am out of debt.
In a way life is a balance, for example I am a never late when it comes to credit. I could buy a house on a credit card, but I am in debt. Being in debt is a failure, but the success of keeping everything paid is important.
Most importantly, there are things you do that are not for money. When those things turn out right, that is success.
T
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