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MagiksSlave -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 2:41:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: megan2007 hello A/allsmiles i would like to respectfuly submit here, the advice of my Daddy, Who told me it was alright to quote Him here: "I would have to say after reading all the posts on here that everyone has their own unque spin on the giving and accepting of writing prompts and essays. I know from my own experience with megan2007 that she needs the structure of writing assignments for many facits of her daily submissive walk. These are tools of not only teaching but tools for getting inside the subs head and learning more about them. I use various books, online resources, and contacts in the community to further her growth and give her a list of tasks, kind of like a college test composed of many essay questions, each with their own set of instructions and topic. Most of the time I tend to bridge topics from one question to the other so that she keeps gaining knowledge as well as has fun with her writing. Essays can also be used as a form of punishment, I have found that giving a submissive/slave/sub switch, the task of writing about what actions they did wrong and then have them brainstorm ways to take corrective actions for that fault is a great self teaching and self corrective action. If you would like more hints, topics, tricks of the trade feel free to contact me on CM @ MasterMike04103. Cheers, Mike" (back to me, megan2007l) Daddy has shown me quite well indeed, that a LOT of insight and growth can be achieved, from the writing assignments that He's given me. i also realy enjoy doing them. admitedly, i enjoy some of them more then others, but i'm the type of person that, as long as the topic holds my interest, truly likes to learn. so, in closing...in my opinion, writing assignments are a very valid and helpful tool for Dominants to use, and for subs/bottoms to experience. take care and blessed be. For YOU as a sub they are usefull. You cant say for all subs because that statement is false. For me writeing assignments are more stressfull and frustrateing then helpfull. I dont like them and if Master wants insight to my mind all he need do is ask. The only writeing I do for him is in my journal and even that is at my own disgretion. Master only ever gave me one written assighnment and as i pointed out it still is yet to be finished! What works for one does not nesseseraly work for another. Magik's slave

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 3:25:16 PM)
I agree with others- I need to know what sort of dynamic you have and want to create. Is it a primarily online or offline based relationship? Is it a primarily kinky or general emotional based relationship?

swtnsparkling -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 3:46:57 PM)
FR- Assignments- Oh I have done many most were at the very beginning of my realization of being submissive 10 years ago. I wanted to learn and know as much as I could before I got myself in any D/s relationship. I asked a dear friend to be my Mentor ( just in case some one might think there was more to it than just learning you'd be wrong there was no personal contact or cyber /training anything involved) I did assignments on Trust- Respect--Mentors-Trainers-sub frenzy-Limits-BDSM Terms-safe words-slaves-humiliation-poly- and so many more. Part of each assignment was also to place Webster's Definition- and then Find BDSM Definition of each.Also find two different articles on each. Ask at least 3 Doms and 3 subs what their opinion of each was- good points/bad points. After all the info was collected I had to write what my thoughts were on what I had learned what if anything had I gotten out of it. I also at times had to research and do a paper in implements/toys for example: nipple clamps- list 5 different types, what they do the skin, how long should they stay on, what harm can come from using them.. etc... I would begin to stress at the start of each sure there was No way I could do it but by time I was finished I was excited and proud of myself my work and what I had learned.

pashun8flame -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 3:52:42 PM)
before meeting my Master i have talked with several prospectives, one of the prospective Dom's gave me an assignment to write an essay "what my submission means to me" it really makes a submissive think about what she wants or more importantly needs from her submissiveness.

SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 3:56:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pashun8flame before meeting my Master i have talked with several prospectives, one of the prospective Dom's gave me an assignment to write an essay "what my submission means to me" it really makes a submissive think about what she wants or more importantly needs from her submissiveness. thats an awesome one.....im going to assign that one to me

MadRabbit -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 4:27:38 PM)
Writing is a wonderful communication tool because it allows one to take their time, collect their thoughts, express them in a complete form, repair any errors, and rewrite things to better express themselves. Vocal communication in a face to face conversation tends to have a degree of pressure that makes it difficult for one to completely collect their own thoughts on an issue, is often somewhat broken and incompletely, and doesnt allow the opportunity for one to correct any mistakes. I have use written assignments on a couple of occasions. When? Whenever there is something that I want to know that is somewhat complicated and abstract. Example : The topic of "What does slavery mean to you?" will get a better and more in depth response threw a written assignment then threw a conversation where the person is thinking off the top of their head and hasnt had time to completely gather what they are trying to say.

beargonewild -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 4:34:51 PM)
And just to add to what MadRabbit has stated, some people are more proficient in fully expressing what they are thinking and their opinions using the written word, as opposed to verbalizing.

chellekitty -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 4:44:54 PM)
though not a romantic or kinky or sexual or anything else typically associated with BDSM relationships, many sponsers in 12-Step programs (or at least NA) will give assignments for multiple reasons, but the one that usually comes out first is willingness....i don't know if its just me, but there are so many correlations between BDSM and Recovery, esp NA....from the simple we're huggy people to the anonymity of both...but there is this saying that i find applicable to both...HOW is the foundation of the program/lifestyle...Honesty Openmindedness and Willingness....without these three things, it is impossible to grow in either arena...another cliche is that you can't graft a new idea onto a closed mind....and you have to be willing to accept that idea...the honesty part is pretty self explanitory...honesty with self though is a big part...if you can't be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? assignments inevitably have a deeper reason, or else they wouldn't be handed down thru numerous sponsorship lines...be it, you can read something 29 times and see something new the 30th time or it allows you to stop having to hide those little secrets...it has a purpose, and its generally easier to recognize the purpose before creating the assignment than vice versa... one to beam... chelle House Infernus

lilya -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 5:42:20 PM)
My last Master had asked me to write a daily entry in my journal that he would read every night -- it could be about anything, not just about BDSM. While I found this exciting at first, it soon started to feel like a chore and my entries became less and less interesting and imaginative. The Dom I am involved with now (I'm still only wearing his probation collar, that's why I don't use "my Master") hasn't asked me anything of the sort so far. And funnily enough, because it isn't an obligation, I feel a lot more inspired and I write almost every day -- sometimes it's postings on sites like this one, other times it's an account of our last time together or erotic fiction. I always send him the links to my messages or the stories for him to read at his own leisure. I've also taken the habit of sending him brief "good-night" messages from my Blackberry just as I'm about to fall asleep (obviously we don't live together). Sometimes he comments on what I've written but even when he doesn't the simple fact that I know he reads them all suffices to fuel my imagination et to keep me inspired. Altough I would gladly accept any assignment he would give me (I trust him enough to know that whatever he would ask would be within reasonable bounds), I don't think I would enjoy a long-term assignment (such as "write me X number of words every day", or "call me every day at this exact time"). I much rather prefer to come up with ways of pleasing him on my own and I believe that's what he prefers as well. lylia *A good Master brings my safeword to the tip of my tongue every time he possesses me but takes me into his tender embrace just as the words are about to escape my trembling lips.*

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 5:44:18 PM)
One of my biggest assignments is to im my Dom nightly to let him know how my day went and if i got into any trouble.

goodgirl85 -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 8:25:34 PM)
I don't know if she has completed the abovementioned task. However, if not you could always have her write some stories. I have done that with some of my fantasies. Its a creative and sometimes fun way to express feelings and thoughts. SHe would still be telling you why she likes certain ones in the way she writes how she is feeling as the story goes on. My Dom has giving me a few assignments. We actually call it homework. I have had to research something, and email him about it. When ever we meet, as soon as possible after leaving each other I am to write him an email about my feelings, thoughts, misgivings. etc. It helps me come down from the high that I am usually still on, as well as clearing my mind for whatever "vanilla" activity I must attend to next. I am also to send him emails through out the week, even when we talk, just telling him things that are on my mind. I enjoy doing this because it gives me a way to vent if I need one (and lately I must admit that I have). And it keeps a line of communication open. Often I write my emails at night, and he may call me in the morning on his way to work, or simply reply to me. I tell him things I want to try, things that I am scared of, reasons I cry, and reasons I laugh. I tell him when my thoughts are to much, and when they are not enough. Writing assignments are good for those who "into" the mental aspect of the lifestyle, like my Dom is. It also helps keep a clear line of communication open. Sometimes, its easier to say Well it made me uncomfortable when you said such and such in writing format then to actually speak the words. Just my thoughs and ideas. girl

MasterMike04103 -> RE: Assignments (6/30/2007 8:38:28 PM)
If I may add a couple more tidbits for chewing on this fine summers eve... here are some writing prompts/topics of interest that can work well for any relationship, they will allow you into your subs head and for them to think about themselves. The first one I like is the seven levels of submission, which can be found at various online sites. This is broad yet thoughtout way of finding where a sub thinks they stand... have them go threw, read the descriptions and then report back to you their findings, you as the Top can look at their answer, compair it to your own, then ask them based on their answer, where if at all they would like to be in one year, five years, ten years ect... My second idea of many would be: One thing every submissive needs to express, is boundaries, hard limits, the changing of things while you grow in your submission to me. I would like for you to look from within your soul and create a list of what you consider to be your hard limits at this point in time, giving explation of any ambigious terms you might find... I would also like for you to look at what you might think of as soft limit, and at what rate you would like to test those limits and expand your horizions. I have given many subs not only the ones I have put threw my own unique bootcamp these as essays to stimulate the brain, to expand their level(s) of knowledge and most importantly to learn how they think. Please feel free to contact me if you would like to see what other questions I use for training material.. Some friend of mine say that I almost have like a lesson plan that a teacher at the university would give out... and I am happy to share it... Blessings, Mike

becca333 -> RE: Assignments (7/1/2007 12:49:37 AM)
If she's not into writing, maybe she could collect examples from the net of things she'd like to do with/for you. It depends on her skill level - and whether this is a punishment or not. For some, writing is a horrible chore, for others it's very easy.

MaamJay -> RE: Assignments (7/1/2007 2:23:02 AM)
I enjoy setting written assignments (it's the teacher in Me!) ... but I do modify them depending on their skills. Subs who have good writing and research skills will be given more open-ended tasks, such as locating articles/pictures, writing about their feelings, answering open-ended questions such as "what does submission mean to me". Those with less skills might be directed to articles to read and then asked about what they learnt, what "spoke" to them. Sometimes I find 2 or more articles with different views or perspectives on the same topic and ask the sub to position themselves between them and explain why (that's a harder task than the preceding one). For non-writers, I will allow them to report verbally ... or in drawings if they are so inclined, although I do encourage them to keep a short daily journal just to get into the writing habit and try to improve their skills. My new potential sub is having a great time going through articles on My selected reading program, and being a girl (not My usual boys!) ... she's actually writing lots in reply! Yes I know that sounds sexist, but don't jump on Me ... there's plenty of evidence in educational literature that more than girls detest writing! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

becca333 -> RE: Assignments (7/1/2007 3:00:06 AM)
Don't forget to tell her that you'll be correcting spelling, grammar and punctuation!

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