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Nikko1962 -> Domme vulnerability (6/29/2007 10:39:05 PM)
To all the Dommes that speak with such respect and admiration about their subs strength combined with vulnerability. Is it important to you to show vulnerability to your sub? If the vulnerability is shown, is it shown as part of the overall relationship, or do you show any vulnerability as a Domme? How long or what does it take before you feel comfortable showing this part of yourself?

Lockit -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/29/2007 10:47:52 PM)
Hello Nikko, Good questions. I was thinking along this line today. Not the time frame... but how much and such. Wondered how others felt. For myself it depends on the relationship. I am pretty much an open book with Dakota. He will see it all and has seen his mistress get a lil off balance this week. Being the man he is; he is not stupid. I could hide but he would see it sooner or later. I won't play a game with him. Having vulnerablities is a part of being human; we all have them. For me, not showing them would be fake. I am dominant and his dominant and a vulnerablity isn't going to change that. I am very strong and he knows my strength and knows that I am stronger than anyone he has ever known, but I am still human, woman and I have a tough life. As soon as there is trust... is as soon as I open up and show all of myself.

onthenosetone -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/29/2007 11:17:19 PM)
In my relationship i just see it as my place to go with Ma'am's mood and act accordingly, if she's vulnerable i comfort her......easy enough in a long term relationship i guess, it's an interesting question relating to newer relationships, i'll be checking back to read peoples answers.......

SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 12:35:14 AM)
Is it important to you to show vulnerability to your sub? I think it's more a part of being human. It isn't neccesarily something I avoid, but it isn't something I hide either. If the vulnerability is shown, is it shown as part of the overall relationship, or do you show any vulnerability as a Domme? Both How long or what does it take before you feel comfortable showing this part of yourself? I don't see it as a matter of timeline. There's no set standard for it as far as I'm concerned. What is important is that there is a certain level of trust and connection. If neither of those are present I'm not going to take someone into my confidence to the level of showing vulnerability. If they are present, then being vulnerable or showing vulnerability isn't an issue. I'm perfectly imperfect, we all are as human beings. By portraying myself as something I'm not ( ie: without vulnerability) then I'm doing a disservice to anyone that is attempting to know me.

MsDami -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 2:00:31 AM)
I have only had one very intense and "deep" D/s relationship which lasted 3 years and ended about 4 weeks ago. .. In that relationship, I never "hid" my vulnerabilities any more than I did in my previous relationships. BUT I naturally have this tendency to feel "weak" if I cried or felt deeply hurt by something. I don't know where I learned that but it is what it is. I always, for instance, cried in a towel in the bathroom and then would make sure there were no signs of that vulnerable moment before I left the bathroom. But saying/typing that feels weak too! heh In the last year, I felt somewhat comfortable allowing my boy to "know" that I had been emotional but I still wasn't comfortable actually showing it directly. I always felt angry with myself though for letting him know even though he always did everything perfectly right to make me feel okay about it. But that in itself made me feel weak and I regret it to this day. The ONLY time I did show a true vulnerability directly, turned out to be a huge mistake. It was the day he told me he would not be able to go through with our plans to move in together and go 24/7 ... weeks before we were to move in together, (after talking about it and planning it for 2 years) he basically abandoned me. My boxes are still packed in various rooms... I leave them so I can see them and to make sure I don't forget where I put myself in life. So now looking back, I cringe at the memory of the times that I allowed myself to show my vulnerability. ... it was the weakest I have ever felt in my life and I feel he stomped on it, so now... I will never do that again and I no longer believe that you should. I think, of course this is just me, that the type of submissives that I would chose are the type that admire you and feel proud being anywhere in public with you and get a quiet confidence just being in your presence, at least thats what I had before. And so he looks up to you so much, puts you on such a high pedestal that its impossible to be 100% yourself and show your vulnerablity, your humanity, AND him still see you in the same light. In that light that a submissive shines on you, you are always strong, always in control, always confident, always ready for anything. I'm sure many will think I AM weak for how I felt that day and how I feel now about it but it is what it is. Because of what I have experienced I do NOT think I, as a Femdom, could ever again allow myself to show that much vulnerability. It does show weakness and thats just doesn't sit well with me anymore. I still would never say I'm a weak person because I'm not. I'm a strong person who had a weak moment. Such is life. It is what it is. Anyway, great question Nikko, I look forward to reading everyone else's answers. Have a great weekend -- edited to fix some of the worse spelling and gramatical errors I've ever posted. hehe

LadyPact -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 3:02:59 AM)
Nikko, I always enjoy your questions. Somehow, they always seem to reflect on a very important aspect of the lifestyle. That it's a part of life, and the actual people who live it. I can't fathom the possibility of never having a vulnerability. I'm not impenetrable physically or emotionally. It would be ridiculous for Me to say that, in life, there won't be times that I feel hurt, loss, grief. For Me to bury those things, rather than be open and honest about them, would be a greater disrespect to My submissive, as well as Myself, than to show them. To hide those things would show that I have no faith in him whatsoever, and that he wasn't up to the task of seeing Me as a person, as well as a Dominant. How long does it take for Me to show that part of Myself? Well, hopefully, it's apparent from the beginning. I would hope that any submissive that I would chose, would prefer a human being to a robot. There is no perfect plan. Life happens as it happens, and it's not always under My control. As Ms Jo pointed out, I would have to trust him to allow him into that inner world of Mine, but if a relationship exists, life is going to be a part of it.

Politesub53 -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 5:16:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsDami I have only had one very intense and "deep" D/s relationship which lasted 3 years and ended about 4 weeks ago. .. In that relationship, I never "hid" my vulnerabilities any more than I did in my previous relationships. BUT I naturally have this tendency to feel "weak" if I cried or felt deeply hurt by something. I don't know where I learned that but it is what it is. I always, for instance, cried in a towel in the bathroom and then would make sure there were no signs of that vulnerable moment before I left the bathroom. But saying/typing that feels weak too! heh In the last year, I felt somewhat comfortable allowing my boy to "know" that I had been emotional but I still wasn't comfortable actually showing it directly. I always felt angry with myself though for letting him know even though he always did everything perfectly right to make me feel okay about it. But that in itself made me feel weak and I regret it to this day. The ONLY time I did show a true vulnerability directly, turned out to be a huge mistake. It was the day he told me he would not be able to go through with our plans to move in together and go 24/7 ... weeks before we were to move in together, (after talking about it and planning it for 2 years) he basically abandoned me. My boxes are still packed in various rooms... I leave them so I can see them and to make sure I don't forget where I put myself in life. So now looking back, I cringe at the memory of the times that I allowed myself to show my vulnerability. ... it was the weakest I have ever felt in my life and I feel he stomped on it, so now... I will never do that again and I no longer believe that you should. I think, of course this is just me, that the type of submissives that I would chose are the type that admire you and feel proud being anywhere in public with you and get a quiet confidence just being in your presence, at least thats what I had before. And so he looks up to you so much, puts you on such a high pedestal that its impossible to be 100% yourself and show your vulnerablity, your humanity, AND him still see you in the same light. In that light that a submissive shines on you, you are always strong, always in control, always confident, always ready for anything. I'm sure many will think I AM weak for how I felt that day and how I feel now about it but it is what it is. Because of what I have experienced I do NOT think I, as a Femdom, could ever again allow myself to show that much vulnerability. It does show weakness and thats just doesn't sit well with me anymore. I still would never say I'm a weak person because I'm not. I'm a strong person who had a weak moment. Such is life. It is what it is. Anyway, great question Nikko, I look forward to reading everyone else's answers. Have a great weekend -- edited to fix some of the worse spelling and gramatical errors I've ever posted. hehe Hi Ma`am, i am sorry things didnt turn out well for You. i have a question if i may. Did he decide not to move in before or after You showed Your vulnarability ? If he decided to move out after, then maybe he was looking for a way out ? Whatever the answer, i think his actions show more about him than You. He wasnt honest with You, in as much he must have had an inkling that he would be unable to commit. In my opinion even getting cold feet and doing a runner isn`t an instantaneous event. Its an accumulation of doubts. I`m not sure leaving the boxes on show is a good move, that will just make You feel bad about Yourself and let self doubts creep in. i dont mean that in a disrespectful way, some days you just have to say this isnt my fault, its his /hers/theirs Quotes " And so he looks up to you so much, puts you on such a high pedestal that its impossible to be 100% yourself and show your vulnerablity, your humanity, AND him still see you in the same light. " With respect Ma`am, there are submissives who can do both, who know You may fall but are capable of catching You, without losing their respect for You. i wish You well..... politesub

Oumae -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 6:31:01 AM)
quote: Is it important to you to show vulnerability to your sub? I feel it is more important to be able to show vulnerability rather than to show the actual vulnerability, I like to feel I can be myself. quote: If the vulnerability is shown, is it shown as part of the overall relationship, or do you show any vulnerability as a Domme? To me these are connected so would be shown as both. quote: How long or what does it take before you feel comfortable showing this part of yourself? I am not one to lean on people much, being quite proud and stubborn, I wouldn't say there is a set time for it to happen that I will show something to another, it depends on the relationship and connection I feel to someone. Oumae

ocilla -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 6:41:44 AM)
Great question. And something I have been thinking and wondering about a good bit. I do not feel weak when I show vulnerability or imperfection in fact, over the years I have taught myself to be comfortable with allowing myself to feel those "uncomfortable" feelings and such. Allowing myself to do so has required a certain amount of bravery and confidence in that having doubts, or not being in "control" or feeling sadness or other emotions that are generally perceived as "weak" does not make me any less wonderful and worthy - in fact that those parts of me actually add a lot of depth, nuance and interest as to who I am in my opinion. But I wonder if a sub or slave would agree. In my mind those darker places are as much a part of who I am and what makes me attractive as all the lighter and brighter parts. My wondering and thoughts have been around the notion of whether this goes against what a sub considers dominant. I do think of myself as dominant, I know that I am smart and creative and that means that I tend to think through issues adeptly and problem solve better than most- but I prefer to faciliate and pull out input from the others who maybe effected or involved. Being collaborative is an art form and the sum of the parts results can be so much bigger and more powerful. However, I still generally position myself to have the final say in just about all aspects of my life and work - although, I do find that I would much rather be in the ultimate decision role than allow someone else that power over me. In fact, I chafe when in a position where others get veto power or ultimate say and rarely put myself in such a position. But recently I had a series of exchanges with a "service" oriented sub/slave suitor who wants to worship and look up to his Domme. I definitely got the impression that he needed me to be flawless and fine as bone china. We both pretty much agreed that we were not a match and moved on with no problems, but it did get me thinking and remembering my Gran. My Gran just passed away at the age of 94 last December. She was a natural southern Domme that made Scarlett O'hara look like pale fiction. Even in her very last days she spoke of how important she felt it to be for a woman to keep herself up high on the pedestal - which I had/have always thought of as impractical and impossible to maintain. She put 3 husbands in the grave and too many to count "boyfriends" who were the exact definition of slave/sub into the grave as well. And she defined herself by her ability to control and mesmerize men but I never thought of her as very happy in her relations. Often her relationships became kind of bitter. So I had concluded that the pedestal was not a good place to hang out - eventually one would show humaness and then both the sub and Domminant would be disenchanted. But with all this exploration of dominance I find myself thinking about her approach again. In her life she was very very demanding of her husbands and fellas - even in her most elder days she had boyfirends in the independent senior facility where she lived who had duties of service to her. One was to come turn down her bed and tuck her in at night, another was to help her in the morning with putting on her support hosiery and other more difficult dressing details, another was to bring her the mail, and help with her shopping. And in the dining room - she had a table for 4 where the 3 men (all much younger I might add) always sat with her and attended to her. On ocassion she would have a major health issue and she was addimant that they not come to see her until her hair, make up and nails were to her demanding standards. In fact, I think part of why she lived so long was that she was desparately holding herself together to stay up on the pedestal. I finally had to move her to a place that as she put it "had no good men". She said she felt immense relief to not have to deal with her men - she said she was tired and ready to go to the other side. In this time she became very child like in her demeanor - more joyful. She needed to be outside of her "subs" presence to even allow herself to die in a way. And the 3 fellas that were her last "sub/boyfirends" all (even though younger than her one by as much as 13 years), passed away within months after she moved facilities. When I would visit them after having moved her, they said they did not have much reason to live now that she was gone. Interesting huh? A veiw of Dominance and submission in the elderly as they take their last journey is quite something. I bet few of us think much about it too. I thought folks might find her journey at the very vulnerable end of life, insightful to a post based on vulnerability in Dommes. Do yall think I should start a thread in the ask a sub section on how they feel about seeing vulnerabilities in their Dominant?

Vendaval -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 6:44:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Nikko1962 To all the Dommes that speak with such respect and admiration about their subs strength combined with vulnerability. Great questions, Nikko, very insightful of you. Is it important to you to show vulnerability to your sub? No If the vulnerability is shown, is it shown as part of the overall relationship, or do you show any vulnerability as a Domme? I would be more likely to show vunerability within the overall relationship but not as the Domina. How long or what does it take before you feel comfortable showing this part of yourself? It is very rare for me to allow any type of vunerability at all within a sexual relationship or with a D/S slave/sub relationship. I am more likely to show my emotions with long term friends that have been in my life for several years. Their loyalty and love is tested and proven.

thetammyjo -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 6:48:17 AM)
For me, I only show any vulnerability with someone I really trust. That never happens when I'm training but it can happen once I've started owning someone. It usually takes about a half year or so depending on the person before I trust them enough to, let's say, let them see me cry. That's not because it's a Ds relationship either. I'm this way with anyone I know though I probably develop that level of trust faster in a Ds relationship.

joyinslavery -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 7:22:10 AM)
Does anyone have some poetry they'd like to share?

LaTigresse -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 7:24:52 AM)
I am going to reply before reading what everyone else has written so that I don't lose my train of thought so forgive me if I repeat something someone else has said. Before I was a dominant woman I was a human being. With all the weaknesses and vulnerabilities of every human on this planet. I also have an endless capacity for love which also means, ability to be hurt. While it may always be "my way" I am aware that my way may not always prove to have been the right, or best, way. My own personal style is uniquely me. It is one that may be perfect for a few and imperfect for a million others. I am okay with that. I was once told I am a "mother earth" dominant. She explained what she meant and I have to say I agree. There are many, some represented on this site, that really get off on fetish wear, having a huge arsenal of toys, love being the cold sadistic bitch from hell. There are some that enjoy a great number of things that don't really interest me. I don't think my way is better or worse, just different. I often come across very low key and laid back. Well, for the most part I am. I prefer to live a life of calm, peace, and joy. I prefer laughter over screaming and nastiness. I don't like strict structure or alot of protocol. That will steer alot of people away from me. I am okay with that. My strengths and dominant traits are usually quiet and not in your face. Kinda like the mother earth concept the girl explained to me. Yet in my world it is my way. I will tell you I want you to do something and though it is with a smile on my face and without alot of fetish gear or fanfare, I still expect that it will be done. Try going against it and find out what happens. Tip the balance and harmony of my world and your going to get the volcano, wild fire and tsunami. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy some forms of sensation play, and love physical and mental bondage. I am just very realistic about life and the big picture. I know what works for me. So yeah, I am comfortable with my human frailties but that is because I also know my strengths. They are pretty fucking amazing if I do say so myself.

cjenny -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 8:13:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Nikko1962 To all the Dommes that speak with such respect and admiration about their subs strength combined with vulnerability. Is it important to you to show vulnerability to your sub? If the vulnerability is shown, is it shown as part of the overall relationship, or do you show any vulnerability as a Domme? How long or what does it take before you feel comfortable showing this part of yourself? It has been interesting to read the responses here. My thoughts are fairly unformed on this subject but I wonder about something. If you are hiding your vulnerability then doesn't that show a lack of trust towards your slave/sub? How can one person expect another to be totally open if a part of your world is hidden from them? I think that I would feel uncomfortable with someone that did not trust me enough to let down their guard especially if I were expected to lower mine. I would wonder just what else is not being shown & honestly I would wonder about the emotional strength of someone unable be open about things. No one is perfect. Or maybe I just haven't met perfect people yet lol. It is not a strength of self to keep things hidden, instead I wonder why someone feels the need to block that. As I said these are rather unformed thoughts but it is an intriguing set of questions.

indiegrrl -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 9:22:27 AM)
From my submissive perspective, it's vital that a Domme shares all sides of herself, especially vulnerability; her humanity. Submissives have a need to be needed: to be a source of strength and support for another just as much as anything else. If a Domme can't show that side of herslef with me, it conveys a lack of open communication and honesty that I need to feel secure. My ideal of power exchange is a flow of energy back and forth between two people, not meerly one direction. indiegrrl "smells the roses; blow out the candles*

MsKatHouston -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 10:38:04 AM)
quote: Is it important to you to show vulnerability to your sub? It is not important to me in the least to show vulnerability to my sub. It is, however, important for me to be me and sometimes that includes a bit of vulnerability. I don't contrive it to show I am human nor do I hide it when it is there. For my sub to really know me, he needs to know all aspects of me. The good, the bad, the ugly. quote: If the vulnerability is shown, is it shown as part of the overall relationship, or do you show any vulnerability as a Domme? I guess both. I am a dominant woman. Always. I don't turn it on or off so whether I am paying bills in my jammies or in full kink attire, there is a possibility that something will cause me to be vulnerable. It just is. quote: How long or what does it take before you feel comfortable showing this part of yourself? I do not show all parts of myself to anyone without trust. As trust is established, more and more of who I am is revealed. The more I trust someone, the more they know the real me. This has nothing to do with D/s relationships only but all relationships. I think this is a pretty typical human trait. There is no set time line, it depends on the person.

pixelslave -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 12:08:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsDami I have only had one very intense and "deep" D/s relationship which lasted 3 years and ended about 4 weeks ago. .. As this is still fresh for you, I'm sure in time the intensity of your feelings over the loss of the relationship and the plans you'd made will diminish. (gentle smile) quote: In the last year, I felt somewhat comfortable allowing my boy to "know" that I had been emotional but I still wasn't comfortable actually showing it directly. I always felt angry with myself though for letting him know even though he always did everything perfectly right to make me feel okay about it. But that in itself made me feel weak and I regret it to this day. I hope you learned something from this. There's no shame in feeling vulnerable whether Domme or sub. It's part of being human. To my way of thinking, it takes strength and trust to allow yourself to be vulnerable enough to share that with another. In a relationship, I believe these things need to be shared and would want my Mistress to share them with me so I could be there to provide the support she needs. quote: The ONLY time I did show a true vulnerability directly, turned out to be a huge mistake. It was the day he told me he would not be able to go through with our plans to move in together and go 24/7 I don't see why that was a mistake. You were simply expressing your disappointment at failed plans in the what you saw as the next step in the progression of your relationship. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] quote: he basically abandoned me. My boxes are still packed in various rooms... I leave them so I can see them and to make sure I don't forget where I put myself in life. So now looking back, I cringe at the memory of the times that I allowed myself to show my vulnerability. ... it was the weakest I have ever felt in my life and I feel he stomped on it, so now... I will never do that again and I no longer believe that you should. I believe your feelings about that too will change in time. There's a saying "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." In any relationship, one is always vulnerable to the other partner leaving or disappointing them. Perhaps you chose poorly, perhaps he got cold feet, perhaps he was testing you, who knows as you've not told us enough to even guess with any degree of confidence that we'd be on-track. I suggest you give yourself time to heal before you "get back on the horse" and decide to ride again. It sounds like you need it. I also suggest you begin to unpack your boxes as you can find the energy. I believe that in doing so, you'll begin the process of freeing yourself from your past relationship and will be ready to move on when the time for you is right. [&:] quote: I think, of course this is just me, that the type of submissives that I would chose are the type that admire you and feel proud being anywhere in public with you and get a quiet confidence just being in your presence, at least thats what I had before. And so he looks up to you so much, puts you on such a high pedestal that its impossible to be 100% yourself and show your vulnerablity, your humanity, AND him still see you in the same light. In that light that a submissive shines on you, you are always strong, always in control, always confident, always ready for anything. From your description above, it could very well be that the submissives you have chosen and the behavior/emotions you have limited yourself to showing them may have set-up an *unrealistic dynamic* where you didn't feel free to show that you're totally human; but instead were a "cardboard, sterotypical domme" instead. The reality is, you're a real woman with a full range of feelings, ranging from the strong dominant to the person who has her disappointments & insecurities like the rest of the women I know; the woman who needs the support of a strong and loving submissive male who can provide that for her during particular moments or for extended periods of time as applies to the situation at hand. [&:] quote: I'm sure many will think I AM weak for how I felt that day and how I feel now about it but it is what it is. Because of what I have experienced I do NOT think I, as a Femdom, could ever again allow myself to show that much vulnerability. It does show weakness and thats just doesn't sit well with me anymore. I still would never say I'm a weak person because I'm not. I'm a strong person who had a weak moment. Such is life. It is what it is. Just sharing your experience on the board took strength and as you said, the event you described was a *moment* *of weakness* which does not at all mean you are a weak woman. Perhaps it's time to gave yourself a break for it? [:)] - pixel Collared to Majik on 6-23-07

Lashra -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 12:10:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I am going to reply before reading what everyone else has written so that I don't lose my train of thought so forgive me if I repeat something someone else has said. Before I was a dominant woman I was a human being. With all the weaknesses and vulnerabilities of every human on this planet. I also have an endless capacity for love which also means, ability to be hurt. While it may always be "my way" I am aware that my way may not always prove to have been the right, or best, way. My own personal style is uniquely me. It is one that may be perfect for a few and imperfect for a million others. I am okay with that. I was once told I am a "mother earth" dominant. She explained what she meant and I have to say I agree. There are many, some represented on this site, that really get off on fetish wear, having a huge arsenal of toys, love being the cold sadistic bitch from hell. There are some that enjoy a great number of things that don't really interest me. I don't think my way is better or worse, just different. I often come across very low key and laid back. Well, for the most part I am. I prefer to live a life of calm, peace, and joy. I prefer laughter over screaming and nastiness. I don't like strict structure or alot of protocol. That will steer alot of people away from me. I am okay with that. My strengths and dominant traits are usually quiet and not in your face. Kinda like the mother earth concept the girl explained to me. Yet in my world it is my way. I will tell you I want you to do something and though it is with a smile on my face and without alot of fetish gear or fanfare, I still expect that it will be done. Try going against it and find out what happens. Tip the balance and harmony of my world and your going to get the volcano, wild fire and tsunami. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy some forms of sensation play, and love physical and mental bondage. I am just very realistic about life and the big picture. I know what works for me. So yeah, I am comfortable with my human frailties but that is because I also know my strengths. They are pretty fucking amazing if I do say so myself. Beautifully said LaT. I am the same way. I am a human being before anything else. I have my strengths and my vulnerabilities, hell we all do. If my sub opens himself so much to me, why would I hide myself from him? I couldn't because that is not who I am. I am a very open and honest person, what you see is what you get. I think people who will not show their vulnerable side live in fear and frankly, I will not live that way. ~Lashra

MsKatHouston -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 12:18:11 PM)
Sure. On the fly, not my best work but then, I suppose this shows my vulnerability, eh? I once knew a dog named joy. With forum posters he would toy. He doesn't play fetch and he can be a real betch. But he's cute as can be, at least to me, Yuck, this is sappy. Oy.

BBBTBW -> RE: Domme vulnerability (6/30/2007 12:33:08 PM)
ORIGINAL: MsDami quote: In the last year, I felt somewhat comfortable allowing my boy to "know" that I had been emotional but I still wasn't comfortable actually showing it directly. I always felt angry with myself though for letting him know even though he always did everything perfectly right to make me feel okay about it. But that in itself made me feel weak and I regret it to this day. I have a slightly different take on this. Is it possible that since you hid your vulnerabilities for so long, when you did start showing him the HUMAN side of you, he interpreted it as perhaps some emotional instability/mental illness? Perhaps by being so stoic in the years previous to showing your vulnerability, you did yourself a disservice by looking too much like an unshakable rock. When you did start to shake it was misread. Please take from this that you are HUMAN and are subject to HUMAN frailities. If something shakes up your sensibilities don't be afraid to show it. While you embrace the HUMAN element of others, please remember to embrace the HUMAN element about yourself.

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