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slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 12:21:49 AM

meeknsweet

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I'm pretty new at all of this and I was just wondering if there are any documented cases of an experienced slave being owned by an inexperienced master.

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 3:27:31 AM

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Anyway, why "documented"? Everyone starts somewhere and I would imagine that that *experienced* sub would only consider an M/s relationship with an inexperienced Master if she felt he had something about him beyond not having done it before.

The average experienced sub can spot a wannabe a mile off - which isn't the same as someone with the proclivity and wherewithall to want, need and accomplish something they haven't done before.

Is this just hypothetical because as one who's "pretty new at all of this", I assume you're not the "experienced slave" in question?

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 3:33:15 AM

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If you look hard enough you'll find just about anything. There's bound to be people here who've done whatever it is you want to know about.

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 7:31:43 AM

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Dear Meeknsweet:

There is a lot to be said about both of you being new at this; you can make it up as you go along. Every relationship is different, even within the realm of D/s. It all depends on what you want, and what your dom wants. The key here is communication, and I can't stress this enough. Think carefully about what you want (cuz you don't always like it when you get it) and be sure about what you want, and communicate this. You are submissive, and that pleases your dom. S/He is dominant, which pleases you. You are both in this to please each other. To what extent either of you are willing to go is up to you two. The world is your oyster...

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 7:51:48 AM

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Well, if you look at the "documentation" in the CM archives, you'll find that my girl has about twenty years more experience that I do. Doesn't mean that I was new or inexperienced in BDSM or relationships when we met, but I certainly was new at following my Master's path. In fact, by coincidence (?) it was during the same event at which we met that I identified as a Master rather than a Mistress.

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 9:53:12 AM

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Well Master and i are both each others 1st...and i kinda like that...we are growing together and it feels right.

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 9:54:30 AM

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I'm pretty new at all of this and I was just wondering if there are any documented cases of an experienced slave being owned by an inexperienced master.

Umm... documented? It happens all the time. Masters/dominants don't come out of the womb with experience and not every sub/slave waits around for "true love" before they start experimenting and having relationships.

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 1:02:58 PM

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I had had some experience (2yrs online with a dom and 6 mo. real life) when i introduced Hubby to this lifestyle. That involved some "topping form the bottom" for awhile.

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 2:59:03 PM

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My first M/s relationship as with a woman with many years of experience in the scene, while I was still very new to all of this. I brought stability, desire, eagerness and integrity to the table, she brought experience, a desire to share and teach, and an open heart to me. I learned a great deal from her and am a better man and Master for having shared 4 years of my life and heart with her.

No one starts off as an experienced Master. NO ONE. Not one single solitary freaking person who claims the title. Everyone was a newbie at some point. And folks, no one gains experience sitting in front of a computer monitor beating their meat or spanking the monkey... We gain experience by DOING. How better to gain experience than by doing with someone who's been there, done that, gotten the scars, marks and t-shirt? Hmmmm? ? ?

If you're a Dominant/Master/Mistress with a lick of sense, you play with and learn from those who have the ability to judge and critique your skills, those who can tell you what works and what doesn't, show you where to improve your aim, adjust your timing, gauge your ability to read and judge your partner's reactions, etc... An experienced slave is an incredibly valuable resource for a new Master. Why on earth would someone NOT use that resource if it was available?

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RE: slave master relationship - 6/30/2007 3:02:23 PM

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My property, H, came to me VERY well trained, head securely screwed on. He had served in a formal household in the late 70's early 80's and I value his experience and knowledge a great deal!

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