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24/7 - 6/30/2007 12:07:16 PM

Master96

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Greetings,

I want a 24/7 BDSM relationship with my girlfriend/wife. But is it non 24/7 relationship when dressing normal clothes, talking and doing usual stuff with or without my sub/slave, along side working at a job?

What is 24/7 D/s relationship?

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 12:18:34 PM

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i am a mom all the time.. 24/7 even now when my kids are in college in other states.. i don't stop being a mom just because i'm not there with them 100% of the time

i am a slave 24/7 even when my dress and actions appear vanilla.

my mind set and my purpose is to serve in all i do, even the mundane vanilla stuff.

24/7 often and usually impies living together but not always.
it does means that the Master/slave relationship is there 100% of the time.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 12:21:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

What is 24/7 D/s relationship?

It's when the dominance and submission doesn't stop at the bedroom door. It doesn't mean you have to bark orders or wear fetish gear all the time. A lot of 24/7 relationships look positively boring from the outside. It's not really what you do, but why you do it.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 12:25:03 PM

Master96

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Thanks guys..... I think serving for me isn't only with sex or whipping! It could be with any sort of activity. In addition I don't feel the D/s thing should stop when we are doing something as a couple(me and my sub/slave).

Edited to ask: what do you guys think?

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.

Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 12:25:09 PM

sambamanslilgirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96
What is 24/7 D/s relationship?

whatever you want it to be.

i'm in a ldr with Daddy and though i don't live with Him, i view my submissiveness as 24/7 as i proudly wear His collar and chains on the job (which i perfectly blend in with the other punk/metal rockers), at the office ...even while at church.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 12:38:42 PM

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I think 24/7 is a state of mind, and essentially it means that there's no moment when the slave is free. It means that the master is the master even if he's not there. Unless you're a Russian count with your own estate somewhere, you're not going to be able to supervise your slave or slaves every second of the day. Most people have to work; everyone has families; many people have kids that need attention; etc. But if a slave can be reached at any moment of the day and there's no aspect of her life that isn't accessible to the master, and if the master knows that the slave belongs to him and will live up to his expectations even without being monitored constantly, then that's as close to "24/7" as most people in today's society are likely to get.

Edited to add: Oh, and yeah, I wrote "he" for master and "she" for slave, because that's how it is in my relationships. Of course I'm not saying that fem domme/male sub relationships can't be 24/7 too.

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ORIGINAL: Master96
What is 24/7 D/s relationship?

whatever you want it to be.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 12:51:55 PM

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Whatever you define it to be. For me, right now, that means a girl who works, lives with her husband, lives 2000 miles away who STILL serves me in ways I find fulfilling.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 1:00:46 PM

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I agree that its a state of mind. Master and i can not live together now, but i feel our Master/slave relationship is still a 24/7 one.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 1:09:26 PM

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quote:

What is 24/7 D/s relationship?

For us the dynamic is always there, but we don't flaunt it in public. I don't wear a collar and don't call Him Sir or Master, but i certainly do know who is in charge all the time. I always serve Him whether at home or out, anything to make His life easier.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 1:29:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

Thanks guys..... I think serving for me isn't only with sex or whipping! It could be with any sort of activity. In addition I don't feel the D/s thing should stop when we are doing something as a couple(me and my sub/slave).

Edited to ask: what do you guys think?

I don't think there is much of "standard" d/s relationship. There is only what works for you and yours.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 1:45:01 PM

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One of the best replies in general , including all the replies so far, I have ever heard from the CM group on a subject. Great job!

My answer to this thread, yes, what they said.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 1:54:39 PM

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When we first moved in together and began decrotating our apartment we went to Micheals the craft store and purchased wooden numbers (2,4, and 7) and a piece of molding. I painted them black and they are hanging on our dining room wall.

24/7 is a state of mind. He never stops being my Daddy no matter what we are doing. That includes everything from going to Wal-Mart or switching for a role play.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 2:02:42 PM

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A state of mind - and reality.
It is sleeping and eating. Cooking dinner. Going to work. Taking the children to the park and feeding ducks. It's running a bath at the end of a long day. It's wearing leggings and a shirt and still thinking I'm sexy. It's being sweaty and hot and sunburnt and covered in pollen and still thinking he is sexy. It's feeling his knee in the crevice of my back when he is drawing in the ties of a corset so I have trouble breathing. It's everything you do everyday but much more and it's doing it together.

< Message edited by Darcyandthedark -- 6/30/2007 2:03:24 PM >

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 2:39:48 PM

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I am who and what I am, my janey is who and what she is, and our relationship is our relationship, which is Master & slave 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

She's my slave whether we are at home and playing, sitting in front of the TV watching SciFi Friday, going out to dinner, or visiting her parents or when my kids come over to hang out with their Dad.

I am her Master when I am at work, when I'm travelling across the country, when I go to the store, when I go out to a munch.

Living BDSM as a lifestyle isn't playing a game. It isn't "being in role". It's not dressing up in leather or running around naked. It's WHO YOU ARE. It's not something you can pick up and put down or change like your clothes. It's not a fad, or fancy or hobby. It's an integral part of your being, your sexuality, your outlook on life, your values, your world view.

BDSM as a lifestyle isn't floggers and toys. It's not crosses and ropes and chains and spanking benches. The Lifestyle isn't kinky sex or extreme play, or munches or play parties. BDSM is what you and your partner(s) make of it. It's your relationship, your lives. It's there in the housework, the yardwork, cooking dinner, washing dishes, it's there when you sleep, when you wake, when you take a shower. It's there, it's always there.

How you express it, how your show it to your partner or the world may vary from situation to situation. You make your BEHAVIOR and appearance appropriate to the situation. Vanilla folk don't throw their partners down on the floor at the 7-11 and fuck the beejeebers out of them, why should anyone expect any different from a BDSM relationship???

We exercise common sense, we live in the real world, not some bodice-ripper fantasy porn movie or book. This is who we are, this is how we live. Day in, day out. Yours In Kink,- Geoff

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 2:43:26 PM

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It's all of the mundane normal things you do in life, but the whole time knowing that every single thing about you he owns. There is nothing like it in this world.

To you, it might be something totally different.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 2:58:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

What is 24/7 D/s relationship?

Well.. I guess this answer depends on what you think D/s. The 24/7 just means you do it 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.

For many their personal definition of D/s just can't mean you doing it 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. For others.. their personal definition allows for the concept for it to occur 24 hours a day 7 days a week.

I live a M/s structured relationship with Alandra and Kyra. All that means is that Authority is Transferred to me 24 hours a day 7 days a week. It like being Married if you will. Just because I am a sleep.. doesn't mean I stop being married. Just because I am sleep or my girls are a sleep doesn't mean the authority is no longer transferred.

All that other stuff is just my lifestyle.. which includes alot of things... BDSM, Work, Family Etc. And my lifestyle is always flowing like a river.. it's always has water in it 24/7.. but like a River it changes from moment to moment.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 3:12:21 PM

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It's when your focussed 24 hours a day on either controlling or being controlled. You don't need to be at each others side to emit or submit to that control it's just there.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 3:35:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Unless you're a Russian count with your own estate somewhere, you're not going to be able to supervise your slave or slaves every second of the day. Most people have to work; everyone has families; many people have kids that need attention; etc.

so umm where can i find a Russian count with his own estate? preferably with a dungeon?

but on the OT, if you did a reality show about an average D/s couple living a BDSM lifestyle...it would be boring...really boring...echoing everything said before, work, family, kids, shopping (though going Wal-marting with the other Wal-martians at 3 am is kind of interesting in a sociology study kind of way...), god forbid someone should get sick...its reality...with structure...and maybe ocassionally someone ends up with a purple butt or peed on or whatever your kink is...but in my experience, its more about the structure than anything else, with the exception of switch/switch couples that switch within the relationship, and not even all the time there...there is an authority figure...someone who has the "final say" so to speak...god don't we all (at one time or another) wish it was about 24/7 leather and collar and leash or rubber or whatever...but, its not...and if you've ever been to a lifestyle weekend long event, i think you'll agree with me that though it is an incredible high to be surrounded by people "like you" with relatively little responsibilty, its exhausting to do at even 2 or 3 days in a row....
now my wrists hurt, could it be i've been online too much, or maybe the bars of metal going thru the skin...i dunno...
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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 5:01:06 PM

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For me it's my girl serving me always, tho while in public not noticeably without close observation, ie handing me things without my needing to more than glance her way, coming to my side with a subtle signal, even with as much as we all are aside from the bdsm/ds, it is as real as you both feel it is. Funny to watch a sub mow the lawn in lingerie lol . Just find what works best and hone it to a keen edge.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/30/2007 5:02:55 PM

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Funny to watch a sub mow the lawn in lingerie lol

owwies, what about sticks and rocks....non-consensual impact play!

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