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What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 8:51:17 PM   
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Lately I have been reading the book *The five languages of Love* and in reading it I realized that my view of quality time is different then what is in the book.

The view in the book is..."giving someone your undivided attention".

To me quality time is the spending of time together (either in person or online) each engaging in pursuits that bring the individual enjoyment and knowing that the others are close and interaction can start at a moments notice if there is something to be shared or discussed.
 
What is your view of quality time?

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 8:56:23 PM   
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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 9:01:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Quality time to me means if only a minute live it like its the last...

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 9:03:23 PM   
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Quality time for me is just as the book describes. That doesn't, however, mean that I want to do without the things that we give attention to together...like watching TV or going to a movie or playing a game. Doing things as a couple or family is important to me...it makes me feel I'm "part" of something.

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 9:09:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Though I usually equate quality time as doing things together that are interactive, I can see your point as well, alandra. I love reading the paper together sunday morning with someone special, and would consider that quality time as well. I think as long as you're with that special person, and both of you are content in whatever activity..that probably is all that counts...
 
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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 9:13:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Quality time to me means , , taking time out of the busy schedual ,, and spending time with the other half,  just layig around ,, cuddling, petting,, going to the movies,, generaly spending time together and them being the focus of my attention,,

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 9:13:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		GREAT book BTW...i think i agree with the book...but doing things together is also fun....

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 9:42:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think doing something together for mutual enjoyment.  I love spending hours in the car jamming to CDs together and that's totally quality time for us.

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 10:10:26 PM   
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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 6/30/2007 10:59:20 PM   
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I am such a physical affection person that quality time is any activity that includes touching, whether it's taking a walk while holding hands or wrapped around each other talking on the couch. Of course, sex and play counts doubly.....
 
And since Master is also a physical affection....life is good.

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 12:27:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		I want to yell cuddles ... but in all honesty I think I am with the taking time out from busy lives to enjoy some togetherness ... a walk, a market, or camping

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 12:29:23 AM   
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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 12:49:13 AM   
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quote:

What is your view of quality time?


Time which is not wasted. Discussions which lead to deeper understanding of each other is quality time. Arguments which lead no where is wasted time (so we don't argue). Laughing over stupid stuff at the grocery store is quality time, laughing over the pain of others is wasted time (so we don't do it). Recently we moved an extra television into the living room so I could hook up the Game Cube and play Symphonia while he plays Far Cry on the Xbox. We are each doing our 'own' thing, together. That's quality time for us. He'll point out some spectacular kill he just did in his game and I'm free to whoop it up when I acquire a new spell. ::chuckles:: There is very little time spent wasted 'round these parts, so life is good.

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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 6:23:57 AM   
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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 6:28:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Quality time is doing something you want or nothing if you want - whilst never wasting a moment.
Doesn't mean you have to be together or in a relationship either.  It can be me running Darcy a bath whilst he is working on his book.  It can be spending an extra 10 minutes in bed alone and being a complete slob.
Quality time is time not wasted.
 
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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 7:19:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I tend to look at 'quality time' as both; time in which we give our undivided attention to each other or time in which we just sit and enjoy the other's presence ( while doing something else ). As long as we both feel that time was well spent, then it's quality time spent together.
 
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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 8:09:34 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I think doing something together for mutual enjoyment. 


This touches on the essence for me and is something that Kyra and I talked about after Alandra made her post.

Quality Time is doing that thing both seek to do at the same time that provides that mutual enjoyment.



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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 11:44:16 AM   
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But quality time to me is just being with him.  Doing things for him.  Being in the same house, room or bed as he is.
Having him do family things with me (I mean by that being able to handle an irish clan with comfort and accepting my family as his).
Sharing the same spiritual walk and respecting our difference's.

Still the best quality time is sitting at his feet watching a movie or being held close.


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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 12:11:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		to me it means being fully present, not thinking about the future, or how i want the conversation/activity to go, not thinking or holding any anger from the past, not worried about my sister in the back of my mind who is suffering from alcoholism and her kids that have no choice in thier suffering...

just being totally present, in the moment, and feeling extremely alive, accutly aware and in awe of everything in my sphere....

like right now, there is a bird conversation out side my window, my dog is in the other room dreaming, my house is creaking, i can smell the seawead on my hands from the spa treament i gave a friend, i can taste the toothpaste on the back of my teeth from this morning, and my back hurts from having my lap top on my lap for too long a time.

and what makes this awareness quality time, is that i accept it, dont need to change it, dont want to resit it when it changes to something else.


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RE: What does quality time mean to you? - 7/1/2007 12:14:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Long revealing conversations. What I mean is, completely opening up to one another and totally and completely listening to one another

Communication means a lot to me and when I can have a conversation like that with someone; no matter if it's a child, SO or whoever; that's quality time to me

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