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A subs frustration - 6/13/2005 12:47:07 PM

docile

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Being a sub means you i inhabit a very strange and frustrating world.A world full of frustration,trying to find a Domme to serve.As a natural sub i submit for the shere pleasure of submiting.Finding a Domme who Dominates for the pure pleasure of Dominating seems like an impossible task.A naturaly Dominant lady,who just enjoys having a sub/slave to serve,amuse and entertain her.It is very frustating when you contact a Domme,exchange a few e mails,things seem to be going very well,then you are asked for money.I amsure pro Dommes have a very important part to play in the world of bdsm & D/s.They probably fullfill a very important role.But to me, if i pay someone for a service, they are doing it for the money,not for the pleasure.How many other subs out there feel this way,frustrated by the need to serve, and the lack of natural Dommes.I also wonder how many Domms are frustrated by time wasters.As i say we inhabit a very frustrating world. Any opinions?.

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RE: A subs frustration - 6/13/2005 12:55:34 PM

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Yes, it's a very frustrating world. Everyone is looking for the perfect partner or household. All we can do is sift through what doesn't fit us and keep trying.

If I may give some words of advice: there are a few things that you can do it improve your profile. A good profile is more likely to attract the Domme you seek. One, run your text through a word process to check for spelling, grammer and punctuation mistakes. Second, you mention several times that you have nothing to offer but yourself. This can be read that you're just looking for a free place to live and someone to take care of you. Sit and really THINK about what you DO have to offer. What tasks are you good at, etc.? Also, this will help clarify if you are interested in sexual service, domestic service, some other kind of service or a combination of such.

Best of luck in your search.

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RE: A subs frustration - 6/13/2005 1:17:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: docile
How many other subs out there feel this way,frustrated by the need to serve, and the lack of natural Dommes.I also wonder how many Domms are frustrated by time wasters.

Oh, I think the numbers of frustrated and disheartened personss are fairly high for both subs and dommes. It is never easy finding a partner, vanilla or otherwise.

I think MistressFire has offered some good suggestions to make your search easier. And getting involved in your local BDSM group is also a good thing to consider. Meeting folks in person, among other persons who know them, is a great way of eliminating a lot of BS.

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RE: A subs frustration - 6/13/2005 1:45:58 PM

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oh yes, i always have an opinion...my problem is it gets me in hot water..
but yes. i have felt this frustration.
and i am so happy to have a new Goddess.
thanks

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RE: A subs frustration - 6/13/2005 3:22:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: asissyforher

and i am so happy to have a new Goddess.
thanks

Congratulations, garylee! When do you move to your new Goddess? I wish you both much happiness!

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RE: A subs frustration - 6/13/2005 3:29:46 PM

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One thing that may help a lot is stop searching. Go out, make friends, chat, lear, but don't be doing it all for the sake of finding someone. Don't give up, but a lot time times things come when we least expect them.

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RE: A subs frustration - 6/13/2005 4:58:55 PM

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oh Goddess Dusty Gold!!
oh my. i am Honored by You m'Lady.

and hopefully sunday when i make my phone call per directions..She will say "come home"

thank You, m'Lady for asking.

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