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its all about ME - 6/30/2007 9:55:54 PM   
chains314


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Status: offline 		I have seen a lot of profials that the Mistress ses its all about me i think it is all about bouth Mistress and sub am i wrong
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RE: its all about ~greed~ - 6/30/2007 10:01:54 PM   
HarleyKitty69


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it's all about me me me me me me me me

OK  yes I suppose you have a point. it should be but it's not .... if it is not move on, that means you are not compatiable with the mistress.
Someone told me today  it's a number game.. you have to go thru so many wrong ones to find the right one....
Unless you like me ... I just gave up and quiet frankly .. I am quiet happy being single, able to play with whom I choose , and to tell off whom I don't wanna play with ..
but it is also my curse.... I am lonely at times

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RE: its all about ~greed~ - 6/30/2007 10:47:31 PM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		This is just my humble opinion:

Some Domme's have that on their profile because of the emails they get from HNG's who want certain things done to them, without regard to the Lady that is doing it to them, essentially seeing her as a sex object not as a human.  And there are Domme's who feel "Yeah! It is about me! What are you going to do about it?" Although some of it is just to scare away the HNG's (they don't seem to read that much, so in my book doesn't really work.) And others are just conceited. lol

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 12:09:57 AM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		People don't really understand this correctly because in fact it IS all about me. And I don't mean just in relationships I'm in, but every relationship that exists is really all about me. So all of you having relationships with others would do well to remember that those relationships are really all about me, not about you, another person, and the neighbor's peet. No, it's all about me.

It's amazing how people just don't understand that.


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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 1:20:51 AM   
BlindUnknown


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Let the infernalist step in with his opinion....

Yes, it -is- all about me, it's also all about you, and all about her, and her, and him, and it, and everyone else.

A relationship is about compromising, but what does compromising mean? It means you aren't willing to yield a point, and at the least, want a LITTLE bit of your way if you can't have the whole thing.

Admittedly as aforementioned there are the arrogant ones and those playing scare tactics.  However, i am sure most, if not all of us, have been in a one sided relationship before, and will not repeat the experience again.

my profile screams "it's all about me" (if you read between the lines), in that i want to dedicate my life to "the one" and make myself an extension of her will, and i want to engage in three hours of foreplay and i want to dote on her and i want to treat her like she's special, but i'm doing it because -I- want, not because she does.  And i'm not ashamed to admit i'm looking out for number one, because i think i am treating everyone with far more respect that way, rather than lying to you all.

Don't judge that single line as a person's persona.  Now, IF you find it coupled with "i demand these exact body proportions and need your credit card to talk to you", yes, definitely move along, you've likely hit a bad apple.  But if what she wants in her "all about me" rant is what you want as well, in my eyes that makes it even better since i KNOW we will be compatible in those mannerisms. 

In short....read context, for that phrase can be a warning, and a blessing.

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 1:23:56 AM   
Misstoyou


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Status: offline 		When I was actively looking on CM (years ago, happily), my profile said in part,

"Your sexual proclivities are immaterial. This is all about me."

I meant it.

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 2:50:29 AM   
FemBot68


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Status: offline 		What would be the point in me putting things in my profile about someone I don't know yet. I don't think a profile could be about anyone other than the author. That's why we use profiles, so we can put everything in about ourselves that we wish to share with a potential sub (or whatever we seek).

My profile is very much all about me! but it includes lots of info about the person/mindset/kinks I seek so as to filter out the ones who don't fit the criteria.

I've had my profile on here less than a week and have reworded it 4 times as the original got me bombarded with people entirely unsuitable.

I shall continue to update my profile to keep the correct subs contacting me, but it will always only ever be about ME.

Phoebe (aka FemBot68)

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 3:21:37 AM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Regardless of profiles. If a Mistress says its all about me, then if that what you are seeking fine, if not, move on. Even Mistress`s that state this would more accurately mean " it`s generally all about Me " as many will still be receptive to your wants and needs, but as secondary to Their own.

my own opinion here is that even then, its partly about the submissive, as if he decides it`s " All about Her " then his wish is fulfilled. The trick is finding a partner suitable to with the ideals and likes that you are looking for. Much the same as it is in a vanilla relationship.

i will always put a Mistress`s needs first, and hopefully mine wont get ignored.


Edited for spelling.

< Message edited by Politesub53 -- 7/1/2007 3:23:44 AM >

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 5:57:45 AM   
ready4srvce4all


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chains314

I have seen a lot of profials that the Mistress ses its all about me i think it is all about bouth Mistress and sub am i wrong


You are not wrong, but there are others, such as myself, who do not see a problem with it either.  I want to serve Mistress needs in anyway possible, so it is all about Her, but by having someone so wonderful, loving, and caring to serve, I also benefit. 

I think you shouldn't be concerned about seeing that in a profile if it is someone you may want to approach.  If they are "the one" for you, trust me, your needs will be explored.  Good luck to you chains, and for the record, what a marvelous occupation you have!

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 6:42:58 AM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		Many of the submissives who write to me have been to professional Mistresses where they pay their money and dictate what they want done to them. I am doing this because I am enjoying it, and I am not here to read the role they have written for me in their fantasy script. What I am prepared to do is up to ME. If it coincides with what they want to do, great! If it doesn't, find another Mistress who's a better fit. Is it all about me? Not exactly, but if they don't care to find out about me before making their approach, it's not going to be met with success. I am not over come with joy just because they want me to use them as a toilet, or cut their balls off of whatever the flavour of the month is.
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LH

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 7:01:48 AM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		I got Toby Keith's "what about me?" stuck in my head now.  Damn good thing I like that song.

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 7:08:09 AM   
Ayanaev717


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Status: offline 		It is definitely generally, especially, specifically, significantly, and more importantly about Me.

And a little about the sub.

A

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 8:57:54 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		This isn't in my profile but I've said it enough online and in person.

When I own someone, it is about me first and foremost.

Notice there is no "only" in that sentence.

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 9:07:40 AM   
MistressRouge


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chains314

I have seen a lot of profials that the Mistress ses its all about me i think it is all about bouth Mistress and sub am i wrong


The me me me, I , I , I element is essential, to scare away the infidels lol

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 9:11:06 AM   
MistressRouge


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Status: offline 		Categorizing only on the basis of profile type and images is only a smidgen of what someone is projecting about themselves.

Real-time, real-life it is always a 50/50 exhange for a liberated, rewarding experience, in My personal opinion. That is why I do not cater for online Domination, too artificial and I am way too busy to chit chat about it, I would rather DO IT!



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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 12:35:53 PM   
Grlwithboy


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Status: offline 		It's all about me, definitely.  Which is why I  try to find people who think that what I'm about is really damn neat, otherwise there are going to be serious issues. I'm also a very eclectic, flexible, person with a big "about."


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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 2:33:45 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		Relationships are a two-way street, not one way then a dead end. Give and take on both sides, if its one sided then you have problems. Those who says its all about them, have issues, mostly an overinflated ego or a low self worth; otherwise they would have thier eyes open and see its about mutual fulfillment.

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 2:43:08 PM   
LiveToPamper


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Status: offline 		I dont see it as a problem that the mistress likes it all about her first. i like being under her.

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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 4:29:28 PM   
Politesub53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty

Relationships are a two-way street, not one way then a dead end. Give and take on both sides, if its one sided then you have problems. Those who says its all about them, have issues, mostly an overinflated ego or a low self worth; otherwise they would have thier eyes open and see its about mutual fulfillment.


i dont get this. Many submissives love to dote on their Dominant. How can you say a Dominant who says its all about me has issues. Its simply the way some people like it.
i can imagine the thoughts of some of the Mistress`s reading that they have low self esteem or over inflated egos !


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RE: its all about ME - 7/1/2007 5:52:29 PM   
MsDami


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Status: offline 		Phoebe, you took the words right out of my mouth and I couldn't have said it better.

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one that keeps changing either profile. I do change it based on how things have been changing for me since I first joined here and based on responses I get. ...And well just based on however the hell I feel that day. *s*

Damiana



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