How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new

Page: [1]

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 3:36:24 AM

LikesItRough101

Posts: 4
Joined: 9/30/2006
Status: offline

Soooo, i've met this ridiculously good slave, and while i've owned slaves before, she's looking to be trained. I've been meaning to find out for a while and now seems as good as time as any, so tips anyone? or suggestions?

Post #: 1

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 3:47:37 AM

mnottertail

Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline

well, how do you like your ass licked, how do you like to be dressed, washed, your coffee served, your table set, your house ordered, your effects readied, what do you need researched, what level of formality and etiquitte is required by your holiness, what level of visibility do you want in a slave, fawning, a serving ghost, a kink stupid acting geisha, what -------------

and so on, start organizing your yourself into chapters, maybe write something out ........start somewhere and add and subtract the protocol, whatever suits you, it's a living thing-----------

Ron

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30

(in reply to LikesItRough101)

Post #: 2

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 4:25:14 AM

iwearpanties

Posts: 509
Joined: 7/21/2005
Status: offline

i think you"ll get a few good responces here but i also think maybe you should think about what you want form your sub .

1. a dress code
2. is she a maid.
3. punishment for doinf things worng or being late too meeting you .

dose she have thinks she wants tootry and explore .
i think you could make a list and it could grow into many ideas and sessions

(in reply to mnottertail)

Post #: 3

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 4:47:47 AM

mnottertail

Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline

The opposite side of the coin is, what areas is she lacking, what areas does she excel in, how can this be made useful to you and the relationship, what is in her head? you gotta get in there and slosh around some and find out what is going on.

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30

(in reply to mnottertail)

Post #: 4

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 4:57:02 AM

LaTigresse

Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline

Youth, occasionally I envy it but mostly I am just damned glad I am past it.

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to mnottertail)

Post #: 5

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 5:02:51 AM

openmindedslave

Posts: 470
Joined: 2/27/2005
Status: offline

Interview them...for example what in their life have they wanted to do , but weren't committed enought to do it on their own. ex, weight lost, organizing their life ,etc.

Then discover what you want out of a slave..
You will find that a slave will be more likely to do something or change their though process on a subject if they can see a measured imporvement. Think of what it was like in elementary school...gold stars, corner time..staying in for recess ...little simple maybe , but it worked for most of us

(in reply to LaTigresse)

Post #: 6

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 5:12:57 AM

SaintAllie

Posts: 158
Joined: 3/23/2006
Status: offline

RUN!!..

hehehehhe...seriously if you get on fabulously..you'll be fine.. you don't need advice.. regards Allie xx

(in reply to LikesItRough101)

Post #: 7

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 5:14:58 AM

openmindedslave

Posts: 470
Joined: 2/27/2005
Status: offline

You know something Saint allie is right.. Dont stress over it ..the slave will let you know what they need or is missing in thier life..And you know what you want ..start from there

(in reply to SaintAllie)

Post #: 8

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 9:01:12 AM

thetammyjo

Posts: 6322
Joined: 9/8/2005
Status: offline

I think the best training comes from two places in terms of the dominant doing the training. Of course, I mean training here in the formal sense not in some "train me it turns me on" sense or scene sense.

A strong background and a lot of self-knowledge about what you expect.

A lot of time thinking about why you want things done this way so you can clearly explain it to the person you are training.

It is also very good to have both patience and firmness -- you'll need both.

The person being trained needs to be serious and committed to the program just as much as the trainer.

_____________________________

Love, Peace, Hugs, Kisses, Whips & Chains,

TammyJo

Check out my website at http://www.thetammyjo.com Or www.tammyjoeckhart.com

And my LJ where I post fiction in progress if you "friend" me at http://thetammyjo.livejournal.com/

(in reply to LikesItRough101)

Post #: 9

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 9:01:14 AM

TexasMaam

Posts: 1467
Joined: 6/22/2005
Status: offline

hey notty, based on the eloquence of the title on this post, I'm guessing etiquette is not going to be much of a priority for this one....

; )

TM

_____________________________

~ My opinions are not necessarily those of the management... ~

(in reply to mnottertail)

Post #: 10

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 11:32:33 AM

RaynaSub

Posts: 185
Joined: 9/3/2006
Status: offline

You will get 100s of answers to your question.
My Master's training was to train me to what he enjoys, what he expects
from me and ways to please him.
Training will utlimately be the manner in which you train your submissive to
please you.

(in reply to LikesItRough101)

Post #: 11

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 11:40:11 AM

LikesItRough101

Posts: 4
Joined: 9/30/2006
Status: offline

Just because I swear doesn't mean I don't do etiquette, in the same way even if i whip my slave all day, doesn't mean i'm not a nice person, but in general, cheers for all the replies :) I didn't think anyone would reply at all. Quality suggestions, thanks

(in reply to RaynaSub)

Post #: 12

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 12:31:07 PM

Grlwithboy

Posts: 655
Joined: 2/8/2005
Status: offline

How formal are you?
I'm very informal almost all of the time. For me training is mostly about "getting the head on right" talking about your mutual concepts of service and slavery and making sure your little ponygirl is pointed in the direction you want, which is a team effort. I don't really have a lot of ritual, but I find that if/when I want a specific task or position or disclosure, I'm likely to get what I want if the desire is there and the listening skills are there, rather than we've practised "how to iron my skirt for me" 900 times. But I probably have lower ironing standards than some people, too.

(in reply to LikesItRough101)

Post #: 13

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 3:20:17 PM

Samwhiplash

Posts: 191
Joined: 10/5/2005
Status: offline

You train them to do the things that you want them to do - exactly how you like it done.

Im currently training my sub to do nail art and nail painting... and also the finer points of how I like my scrambled eggs served for breakfast. You'd be amazed how many different ways it could be done unless he is trained to my particular style.

Oh I just LOVE subs :)

(in reply to Grlwithboy)

Post #: 14

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 8:55:20 PM

joyinslavery

Posts: 955
Joined: 6/21/2005
Status: offline

However the fuck you want.

_____________________________

"...we must learn, each one of us, that the world was not made for us, and that, however beautiful may be the things we crave, Fate may nevertheless forbid them."
-Bertrand Russell

Mainstream...The New Alternative

*Beware of dog*

(in reply to Samwhiplash)

Post #: 15

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/1/2007 11:11:38 PM

AZSweetie

Posts: 147
Joined: 1/6/2007
Status: offline

Well, exactly what Ron said above. You are molding this person to your liking. How do you want your home organized? How would you like your meals prepared? Will they run errands for you? Wake you in the mornings with fresh coffee? Give you pedicures? Do your laundry?

You will get so many responses on how to train this person, but ONLY YOU know what you want out of them. Have this person get to know everything about you. They will learn you and then know what makes you tick.

_____________________________

~ Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after.

(in reply to joyinslavery)

Post #: 16

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/2/2007 7:37:24 AM

LadyPact

Posts: 32566
Status: offline

I could bore you to death by writing pages and pages on how I train, but it really doesn't matter much. The way I train might not match what is right for you. The way you will want to train might not work for someone else, and so on and so on. The way you work with your submissive is going to be what is right for you. The things you want done, how you want them done, the way you want them done.

There is a side note here, however, that might be of interest, since it was mentioned. I was at a seminar recently and guess what classes are being required now for executives at many companies? If you guessed etiquette, you're right. Company sponsored classes in etiquette had the highest jump last year.

(in reply to AZSweetie)

Post #: 17

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/3/2007 11:00:27 AM

LikesItRough101

Posts: 4
Joined: 9/30/2006
Status: offline

No, never mind, she's after running off with another domme, cheers anyway

(in reply to LadyPact)

Post #: 18

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/3/2007 11:05:32 AM

Oumae

Posts: 911
Joined: 1/4/2005
Status: offline

Why not go to munches or real life events and maybe meeting other likeminded people for real would give you a network to turn to.

Try bdsmireland in Yahoo groups or www.nimhneach.ie

Oumae

_____________________________

Is cuma le fear na mbrog ca leagann se a chos.
( The man with the boots does not mind where he places his foot)

(in reply to LikesItRough101)

Post #: 19

RE: How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new - 7/3/2007 11:06:17 AM

MHOO314

Posts: 3628
Joined: 9/26/2004
Status: offline

You know what you liked in slaves before, or what they did or didn't do--that's a start---this is a blank slate, a very good place to start--rituals, protocols, baby steps, lots of comunication---LOTS.

_____________________________

SLUTS: Southern Ladies Under Tremendous Stress...

Mistress Hathor

(in reply to LikesItRough101)

Post #: 20

Page: [1]

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> How the fuck do you train someone? Yes, I am new

Page: [1]

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.094