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angelic -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/2/2007 7:42:03 PM)

i echo slaveish... be freakin' careful!  Now my own mind is racing... if you go to meet her, meet her in a very public place.... the whole thing sorta stinks.  You are a very intelligent man.... use your brain (the one on top of your shoulders).




MzMia -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/2/2007 7:43:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

My dearest brothah Whip,

I take it that this is not a "face to face" kinda deal?  If it is not...I think you have alluded in the past with having some difficulties with these types of relationships.

I might be totally off base...But you seem like an intelligent, attractive guy ...and...You're Good enough, smart enough, and doggone it, people like you!!!

Perhaps it is time to abandon any type of relationship wherein the majority of your conversations are not done on a face to face basis.

DomiGuy, I'm getting prepared to take a little Road Trip soon to see face to face... at the very least, I'm gonna end up visiting my cousins and an Uncle on my trip, this way if I get stood up or blown off it's not a total waste!  Plan A with Plan B involved type of thing!  LOL..



{{{Whippy}}} first a big hug.
Thank you for sharing with us, I think many of us have talked to someone online we really connected
with, but life seemed to get in the way.
I am going to go against what many here say, and I think you should go see her.

If you can visit family then you really don't have much to lose.
It sounds like she has a lot of issues and baggage, but I think you want and should meet her real time.

I do agree that after meeting her if you feel a connection, you should step back and let
her get her personal life straight, while you keep in contact with her.
So, go stay with family and meet her in a nice restaurant and talk, talk, talk.
Personally, I like to get to know people as friends FIRST, step back from the M/s relationship a bit.
Good luck, and let us know how it turns out!




ownedgirlie -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/2/2007 7:46:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Geesh, and I was already to guess how many ping pong balls it takes to fill a condom.


LOL indeed!

I think....4?




becca333 -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/2/2007 7:48:47 PM)

27.  If you squash them.




ownedgirlie -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/2/2007 7:54:08 PM)

LOL!!  Hadn't thought of that!

I was sitting here with my index curved to thumb, trying to size up a ping pong ball....

Sorry Whiplash, couldn't resist [:D]




chellekitty -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/2/2007 8:25:52 PM)

27 is the perfect number....




taintedgypsy -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/2/2007 9:07:20 PM)

Look I do not want to take out a big stick and beat myself up here ... but my problems became a roller coaster from hell and He tried to stay right beside me and support and guide me ... now here we are over a year later with the relationship on the edge of no return, on seperate sides of the country with so much healing to be done on both sides, added guilt that I hurt him whether unintentional or not it still happened. Now I am getting the professional help I should have got yrs ago and we are trying to savalage the good and build anew.

Please be very cautious, a drowning person will not mean to fight you or drag you under but they still will, and rarely will they thankyou for knocking them out trying to save them. At the other extreem you have to live with the consequences if you get in too deep and have to really hurt her to get yourself out, self preservation can be extreemly powerful and instinctual.

Just my thoughts and wish you well.




eyesopened -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 3:17:45 AM)

-Fast Reply

This is a prime example why i never consider it a 'relationship' until i meet in person and have enough face-to-face time to form a relationship.  Electronic media cannot communicate as much as a simple touch.





Quivver -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 3:22:08 AM)

I'm feeling a need to explain why I tend to ping pong.
When life starts to roll too fast and everything seems semi out of control,
I feel a need to fix it myself.  That get your life in order thought is first and formost,
I dont ever want to have to feel I was saved.  So, sometimes rather then share all the
ugly details I clam up and go kind of reptilian until I get a hold of what ever it was that
was wrong.  In that, I'm sure it appears that I am back peddling.  Most problems that
stem from dollars take time to fix, and only dollars will fix them.  BUT... if a money
issue is shared many Dominants offer the cash rather then the tools as a quick fix. 
With that said, please do not offer money, offer tools. 
Just try to look at the big picture once you can in real time.  The clues will be there.




Rover -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 4:28:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

-Fast Reply

This is a prime example why i never consider it a 'relationship' until i meet in person and have enough face-to-face time to form a relationship.  Electronic media cannot communicate as much as a simple touch.


I certainly wouldn't dispute your view, but it's important to add that this kind of thing happens every day to people who have a real time, face to face relationship.  They may even live together. 
 
Proximity is no protection.
 
John




leatherette -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 5:45:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MzMia


Thank you for sharing with us, I think many of us have talked to someone online we really connected
with, but life seemed to get in the way.
I am going to go against what many here say, and I think you should go see her.

If you can visit family then you really don't have much to lose.
It sounds like she has a lot of issues and baggage, but I think you want and should meet her real time.

I do agree that after meeting her if you feel a connection, you should step back and let
her get her personal life straight, while you keep in contact with her.
So, go stay with family and meet her in a nice restaurant and talk, talk, talk.
Personally, I like to get to know people as friends FIRST, step back from the M/s relationship a bit.


Thank you Mz Mia.  Succinct and fair minded. My respect...

Whip: I'll bet lots of girls would like to be with you. You don't have to settle. I admire your reasonable, thoughtful analysis on the situation. 
Good qualities in anyone, especially a dominant.

If she is a seriously troubled person, and there are signs (She goes "poof".  3 weeks ago she was physically abused by her ex . ?)
She does need to get herself together before developing any realtionship. You don't need to babysit.

another {{{hug}}}
leatherette




WhiplashSmile -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 6:46:47 AM)

Well so far, nearly every post made has been a passing thought of mine. A sweeping mixture of thoughts.  Think everybody has tossed out some great thoughts, perspectives and advice.

Dare I admit it, my Domly instincts want to reach out and save the day. However, my Domly instincts also tells me she needs more help than I alone can give her.  I'm also uneasy in thoughts of this perhaps being an elaborate scam, yet at the same time truth is stranger than fiction.  How many would go to such lengths to frabricate so much trouble.  Whenever something has happened she's avoided me for a couple of days.  Have had to corner and question about WTF is going on, and she's told me, with concern that I would be mad or what was going on was more than I could deal with.

I still have a gut instinct that she's holding something back from me still, it's not something I can put my finger on fully.  Just one of those things.

In terms of Manipulation, there is good and bad manipulation. LOL... Yes, even us Domly Dom guys enjoy a little bit of the thrill of the chase and in the power transfer games.  In a sense though, like I mentioned before I feel somewhat spoiled, perhaps not.  Perhaps if I was one of those that have somehow had the time and resources to have owned and trained 100 slaves, I'd be a complete expert at this stuff by now.

God, flogging a naked oiled body up is so much easier than this! LOL..

I have had my white knight moments in life, but I've never expected a damn thing in return.  However, when it comes to those close to me in my life.  I'll have this thing about wanting to go through Hell and back again, and I tend to work on them building up their own skillsets to better manage their own business.  But, some people are lost causes.  I have a half sister that falls into that category.  I listen to her on the phone and try to make her look at all sides of the coin. 

This seems to be my bitch right now, is that I''m tossing the coin around trying like hell to see things from all angles.

Face it, nobody likes to be played and it can be a painful blow to anybody's ego.

I have to go with what I know, she has a history of abuse of some form, she's either has a shit load of drama or is pulling a scam (more drama).

If she is scaming me, chances are she's scamed before and will again. These actions will only led to more Drama, criminal records and whatever in life.  If all this is really real going on, it's not good either.  She needs to somehow pull herself out of this hole of darkness.  Best I can do is spank a little ass and point her off in the right direction.  Perhaps make her stop and see whatever ugly is going on in life.

While I myself, can not 100% fix this girl.  I can at the very least give her some food for thought.  Perhaps a haunting that will carry with her for a few years as a reminder.

I need to accept the worst case senarios involved, go with the common themes of stories and things she's shared with me.  Who knows perhaps she's just another lost soul dieing for love and attention in this world. We all in a sense require something in our own lives.

I've already let her know I have seen more flags than a NFL football game. I'm being upfront in terms of me seeing Red Flags with her.  At the very least this keeps me honest with her and her aware of my trust issues.  This way she knows what she is dealing with.

I really did not set out to find more Drama than the shows on TNT, things just unfolded this way. 

To answer questions regarding physical punishment LD over the phone, I actually heard the Wacks Wacks on the body, along with breathing, whimpers and changes in voice.  Then again, perhaps this was all an elaborate act or not.   I myself am not used to this LD stuff, seem to be missing my copy of  "Reach out and Spank somebody" long distance Domiguide.

I can honesty see, and thank you, where submissives can play ping pong over personal issues in their own life.  It appears there's a few ping pong balls that have posted to this thread.   This backs up in part some of this girls actions.

I do know one thing, if the drama can not become stabilized, this will clearly be a major problem.   I do have another theory, regarding The Drama, that perhaps she testing me and is using Drama as a means to Push me away and perhaps move onto somebody else.  Perhaps it's just a tactic being deployed by an elaborate game player here.  LOL..  what better way to get rid of somebody then to simply overwhelm them with Drama. 

I can't make an real judgement calls on this, other than it's simply full of Drama right now.   I know she is really a she though! LOL..  she has a beautiful voice!  Not a heavy chest sounding one... So she's not some Extremely Heavy Set Women in her 60's playing games with me.  LOL...  Her phone number area code and exchange matches where she lives as well.

There are somethings that I know are 100% real and other things that are questionable.  As much as the internet brings people together, at the same time it's easy to become Cynical because of the Distance and game players..

All her pictures she's sent me all look like the same person.  Have around 10-12 of them now.   So if she's a picture stealer at least she's hijacked a complete set of somebody.  It's a mixture of point in click shots, type you friends would take of you, along with a few proffesional style glamour shots.  If it was nothing but glamor shots alone I would be more suspecious about it.

I don't think I need to whip out my chemistry set and do a little more acid testing, this includes a road trip.  I think I have to be prepared for the worse case situation to happen.  Basically a no show with some sort of drama being the excuse. LOL.. i.e. my Ex came and burned my house down last night type of stuff..

My mind has been thinking of nearly anything and everything on this one, thoughts varied as the postings have been on here.




becca333 -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 7:15:26 AM)

You've done everything you can, but she seems to need more help than you can provide.  As you say, either it's a scam, or she's got a whole lot of problems.  She does seem to have a great deal of drama in her life right now.

I hope she finds a way to straighten things out.  And I'm glad you're not getting pulled into something shady.

And I hope you find a nice oiled body to flog.




MasterFireMaam -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 7:45:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: becca333

27.  If you squash them.


It's GOT to be higher than that. I've seen a condom stretch and put on someone's head (the one on their neck!), then blown up until it popped. It was at least the size of a decent sized helium balloon.

Master Fire - who is wishing she had an arsenal of ping pong balls at her disposal for an experiment.




becca333 -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 7:50:22 AM)

There is NO WAY I'm checking it out - I don't have nearly enough ping pong balls.

And why would a condom need to expand to that size, anyway?




WhiplashSmile -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 8:07:10 AM)

Ummm.. ping pong balls and condoms.   Sounds like a makeshift dildo of sorts.  Wonder if you can get them to line up just right.

If you're into object insertion.. wonder how many ping pong balls one could jam inside somebody.  If they can squeeze them out! A sort of Human Ping Pong Ball serving machine. LOL... 

Let's not forget the Paddles either..




becca333 -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 8:08:24 AM)

There's that scene in "Priscilla, Queen of the Desert" - ah the things one can do with a ping pong ball.




taintedgypsy -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 8:17:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

Ummm.. ping pong balls and condoms.   Sounds like a makeshift dildo of sorts.  Wonder if you can get them to line up just right.

If you're into object insertion.. wonder how many ping pong balls one could jam inside somebody.  If they can squeeze them out! A sort of Human Ping Pong Ball serving machine. LOL... 

Let's not forget the Paddles either..


OK the thoughts this provokes .... pretty please post the pictures [sm=banana.gif]




Wildfleurs -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 8:19:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

OK gang, here's a little more to the puzzle for you guys.  I finally heard from her and have spoken three times today over the phone.  There seems to be a lot cycles of Drama going on in her life.

She had been in an 8 year abusive M/s relationship, there are times when I question if she of her behaviors are conditioned because of this.  Difficult to properly guage at times.

He Ex recently had tracked her down and caused her phyical harm about 3 weeks ago.

She currently has some eating disorder that is going on, where she does not eat and in under weight.  A lot of this she contributed to her pervious relationship.

Anyways, she has migrane problems as well.  She has a food allergy as well.  Lactose intolerent this does not help trying to put on weight with heavy diets.

Anyways, he's the latest... her Ex has some problems with Tax evasion from the IRS.  Anyways, they ended up freezing her accounts for now.  She is at ends wits and is frustrated.  The IRS should not be freezing her accounts yet, it will take 3-4 weeks for them to unfreeze them.  She said she was avoiding me, because she wants to deal with this on her own, and that I have more than enough to worry about without worrying about her.

My mind is somewhat fried today....


.
That is way to much drama to get involved with.  A woman with an eating disorder just coming out of an abusive relationship and the migranes and now the IRS stuff.

As Maya Angelou says, "When people show you who they are, believe them."

C~




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Submissive ping pong balls (7/3/2007 8:46:01 AM)

I sense she's the type who only knows how to function in high drama situations.  It's going to take a lot of direct personal work to get her to see, understand and change her patterns of creating all of it.




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