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agirl -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 5:11:22 AM)
I don't even say that I'm owned on my profile. As far as I'm concerned, my profile was simply a passport to using the site. I don't feel any desire to advertise my relationship. I don't see why anyone on a web site would care a jot about my attachment to, what amounts to a name, beyond prurience. agirl

adoracat -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 5:35:50 AM)
fast answer... i DID have Sir's name (forum name) listed on another site as being my Sir. i had a lot of Drama due to another person he talks to on that site, one who disapproved of the type relationship that he and i have, who made little cutting remarks that hurt me. i ended up leaving that site, even though i have more friends there. it hurt too much, and i just couldnt put myself through it any longer. he doesnt list me on his profile, but i do state clearly that i'm owned and am not looking on mine. i'm very happy to be his little girl, and he knows that, and isnt that the important part anyway? kitten, who sometimes considers putting his name on her profile but then wonders why open herself up to drama again...

thetammyjo -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 7:21:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dogobedience Why do somepeople say they have a dom, but do not list there name on there profile. Privacy. Not everyone is comfortable being out. Some people are comfortable to only certain levels of being out. That's why I can talk about Fox all the time but I will never put his picture up here. Someone asked me if they could see a picture of him. They can meet him at GLLA 2007 at the end of August if they wish. In fact, I told him last night that I'm selling him at the poolside auction for charity and for that night's play party. I'm selling his topping abilities though, not bottoming or subbing, so they can even buy him and maybe he'll mummify them or do Japanese rope bondage with them if they ask nicely.

dogobedience -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 9:51:35 AM)
Interesting replies, giving light to why this is done. I use this site to search, and to hear from those in this lifestyle (24/7, parttime, fantasy role play, kinky sex bedroom BDSM, or cyber play). My view, and corroborated, though tainted, is the dom who continues to attempt to search. All the while gathering girls who are not cognizant of the other(s). They are everywhere, ripped off girls from liar men. That pollutes the pool for those who are upfront and honest about this lifestyle like myself. (no I am not perfect, but never do I lie). Those who understand, will, those who do not, will never ( perhaps I am one of those).

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 9:52:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dogobedience Why do somepeople say they have a dom, but do not list there name on there profile. Because he has not told me to do so yet. [:D]

AquaticSub -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 9:54:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dogobedience Interesting replies, giving light to why this is done. I use this site to search, and to hear from those in this lifestyle (24/7, parttime, fantasy role play, kinky sex bedroom BDSM, or cyber play). My view, and corroborated, though tainted, is the dom who continues to attempt to search. All the while gathering girls who are not cognizant of the other(s). They are everywhere, ripped off girls from liar men. That pollutes the pool for those who are upfront and honest about this lifestyle like myself. (no I am not perfect, but never do I lie). Those who understand, will, those who do not, will never ( perhaps I am one of those). Can't live your life in paranoia. For me, I know that Valyraen isn't out trying to get other women. It's hard enough to keep up with my sex drive.

dogobedience -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 9:58:13 AM)
I guess I will install a review mirror. :)

texancutie -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 11:03:06 AM)
Uhmm...you can't stop that just by listing each others names in profiles. If someone really wants to meet others without telling you, you honestly can not stop them. They can always create another profile, leave their pic off on that profile if they even have it on their normal one. Besides this is all about trust anyway. If someone is untrustworthy in that regard, its really up to the individual involved whether they want to stay. Also, as far as new submissives being duped, well, you live you learn. You also become wiser in time as well.

Aileen68 -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 11:13:22 AM)
Ohhhh...your motive is that of a savior and defender of the clueless. How sweet edited because I can't spell.

susie -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 11:32:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dogobedience Interesting replies, giving light to why this is done. I use this site to search, and to hear from those in this lifestyle (24/7, parttime, fantasy role play, kinky sex bedroom BDSM, or cyber play). My view, and corroborated, though tainted, is the dom who continues to attempt to search. All the while gathering girls who are not cognizant of the other(s). They are everywhere, ripped off girls from liar men. That pollutes the pool for those who are upfront and honest about this lifestyle like myself. (no I am not perfect, but never do I lie). Those who understand, will, those who do not, will never ( perhaps I am one of those). You use this site for your reasons. Others use it for theirs. Everyone is different. My Master does not have my name on his profile. In fact I do not think it even says he is attached on it. It certainly does not mean that he is out there "gathering" girls. I think I would pretty much notice if he gathered them around our house. So do you think becuase he makes no mention of me on his profile he is out there being dishonest and "polluting the pool"? That is a pretty wild assumption to make about someone you know absolutely nothing about.

darchChylde -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 11:40:15 AM)
because, like i'm sure someone already said; it's nobody's damned business who my Dominant is...also, it is not up to me to disclose who She is, as i have said a number of things about our private lives on this site... before She signed up and named me in Her profile, i always simply referred to Her as "Ma'am" (which is pretty much Her name, so far as i'm concerned) or by capitalized personal pronouns since She did claim me in Her profile, i took the opportunity to name Her in my signature as my owner; and i have had far fewer requests to Dom someone or demands to kneel at another's feet

velvetears -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 12:17:30 PM)
Reasons seem obvious enough - privacy being the main one. What's the point to putting a name up - if i had a dom and he was not on this site and i told you his name was Sam - what would that mean anyway, would you even remember? It would be pointless. If he was on the site it would make a little more sense, but maybe some don't want the hassle and drama some people like to create for happy couples - not everyone has good intentions and some people are envious and like to cause trouble. If a dom specifically asked me not to mention him on my profile or in posts by his screen name i might be suspicious. If he requested i mention him i would do so only if he extended me the same courtesty. But all in all you either trust someone or you don't and i would not have an "online dom only" anyway so online wouldn't make much of a difference to me.

meticulousgirl -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 1:01:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressNoName 1. They simply may not want to. 2. Their dom may not want them to. 3. Mentioning a dom by name may be completely irrelevant to them. Simply stating they are owned may be enough for them. I wonder why you ask this? MNN Exactly In my case it is 100% forbidden, out of respect and out of privacy for not only Him but myself as well. Not everyone on the planet needs to know who we all play with or are in a relationship with.

TIGERproperty -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 1:25:22 PM)
Did I strike a nerve?

ownedgirlie -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 1:27:36 PM)
~ Fast Reply ~ Huh. It's not something I really ever thought of before. Was never important to me. People who I've conversed with who wanted to contact him simply asked me. People he has conversed with who wanted to contact me asked him, and he decided if they could or not. Anyone he has talked to, to whom he would like to introduce me, has been given my first name and my Yahoo IM. I guess I just think of my association with him as a real time association and not connected with a website. I'm not saying that's what other people do, but since we don't do the forums together, and have different purposes for being here...CM is just something each of us does individually, like any other hobby.

AquaticSub -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 1:54:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TIGERproperty Did I strike a nerve? Knowing Susie, I doubt you did. It's just a foolish notion to assume that every dom who doesn't have their name on their sub's profile is off chasing tail. As it's been said, d/s couples aren't just connected by a website. This isn't like high school where you have to exchange class rings or you aren't really together.

MistressDoMe -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 2:17:35 PM)
I have no reason to specifically name partners I am involved with on the internet. Why would it be any of your business, anyway?

susie -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 2:19:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TIGERproperty Did I strike a nerve? YOU did not. If you mean the OP then no he did not either but then he appears to be very good at making assumptions about people he knows nothing about. Personally I find it amusing that so much store is put on something that is purely online. If I were to put on my profile that I am owned by MasterLordWhatNot exactly how would that benefit the OP or anyone else here? This is not real life. Some men have set up female profiles here, some people have both a Dom and a sub profile and some have multiple profiles. I tend to put more emphasis on what happens in my real life with my Master rather than what happens here.

OsideGirl -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 3:14:57 PM)
Well, for a number of reasons. 1) I got tired of the guys that try to tell me that they're better, richer, etc than Master. 2) I've always thought it childish. I'm more than able to hold my own with having to hide behind his name. I don't need him to "cyber beat-up" someone that offends me. 3) It's really none of your business. I'm collared and owned, that's all you need to know.

angelslave77 -> RE: Why do you not mention a dom by name? (7/4/2007 3:36:50 PM)
On another site the name is use is a combanation of mine and Masters name, but that is also the site where we met and predominately where I spend most of my online time because a lot of Masters r/t friends are there. Over here I dont really know anyone and so I dont see it as necessary, I state in my proflie I am collared, I mention him from time to time in my posts and he has mentioned me in his journal.

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