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SoquilisGirl -> What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 2:45:10 PM)
I am curious what service slaves get out of the arrangement if there is no sexual relationship with their Dom/me. Could anyone enlighten me? Soquili's Girl

lateralist1 -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 2:49:46 PM)
I never really understood it either BUT I am beginning to. Some people just like to be appreciated. Some people like being closely observed. Some people like to get told off. Some people like to be disciplined. I'm sure there are very many more reasons.

stef -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 2:53:07 PM)
Personal satisfaction. Knowing that you have helped make someone's day easier or better or happier. Sparing them the drudgery of a task you know they would rather not do. Service is it's own reward. ~stef

AquaticSub -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 3:02:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stef Personal satisfaction. Knowing that you have helped make someone's day easier or better or happier. Sparing them the drudgery of a task you know they would rather not do. Service is it's own reward. ~stef You know... I didn't used to get this. I hate chores. I really do. I dispise them and if we ever got to the point where we had money to toss around, I would definately beg to hire a maid. But not everything I do for him is sexual. In fact... most of the stuff I do for him isn't sexual. I don't get aroused by making him a sandwhich or getting him a glass of tea. I never really thought about it. I just get a "good girl" and a head scratch. It's more then enough. [:)]

LaMspeach -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 3:02:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SoquilisGirl I am curious what service slaves get out of the arrangement if there is no sexual relationship with their Dom/me. Could anyone enlighten me? Soquili's Girl For some it is simply the pleasure of serving, nothing more. Or it could be the praise they may get, the joy they see on the Doms face, a pat on the head, the pride they feel when they know they have complete task, the joy of helping others. There are many positive things that can come from simple serving .

chellekitty -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 3:20:01 PM)
for me its about having a purpose besides just taking up space and eating their food...they being the heads of my household...and while they don't expect me to do anything they do appreciate it...and it feels good...like aqua said, just getting them a glass of tea can be so satisfying...i am a horrible housekeeper...my cleanliness standards are much lower than most people (if its off the floor its good) but when i can be of service and get specific instructions on what to do, and do that thing that takes all the energy she has when it hardly takes any energy for me to do the same exact thing, it feels good... just me chelle House Infernus

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 3:50:20 PM)
In addition to Stef, I really enjoy being a homemaker- which was a shock to me to be sure. I enjoy making "our home" into a well running happy clean place to live and have company in. Very big sense of self satisfaction in that.

MadRabbit -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 3:57:06 PM)
Some might call it a spiritual thing...a heightened sense of gratification. There is a lot of bliss to be found in hard work that is appreciated with sincerity...especially when that appreciation comes from someone you deeply respect. It took me awhile to get it too. It took some abstract thought and then self awareness threw my own experiences with doing work for others. This is partly the reason why new dominants start off as servants to experienced dominants in accordance with Leather tradition. Its an experience that develops first hand understanding and most of all an appreciation for the people who will come and do hard chores for nothing. Of course, it only seems to be nothing on the surface. They are doing it for my sincere "Thank you". Without it, they wont receive that spiritual gratification that drove them to serve in the first place. Of course, I am speaking generally, but if someone were to come and serve me and I were to ignore all their hard work, I am pretty sure I would be out of a service slave sooner or later. The service oriented aspect of this lifestyle isnt a large focus on these forums as, in my experiences with the public scene at least, its mostly a "Leather thing". If you want to know more, you might look towards Archer and LadyHugs.

Politesub53 -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 4:18:37 PM)
There are plenty off male service slaves who like to dress in a maids outfit and spend time doing chores. Then maybe or maybe not getting punished for any unsatisfactory performances. The pleasure comes from the joy of being pleasing, which has its own rewards, or the freedom to dress up and play at being a maid. [;)]

MissyRane -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 4:27:21 PM)
quote: gement if there is no sexual relationship with their Dom/me. Could anyone enlighten me? quote: ORIGINAL: SoquilisGirl I am curious what service slaves get out of the arrangement if there is no sexual relationship with their Dom/me. Could anyone enlighten me? Soquili's Girl One word: Pleasure!

MasterFireMaam -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 4:54:52 PM)
Just what you get out of your involvement: fulfillment. The two of you just get it through different things. Master Fire

sublizzie -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 10:11:41 PM)
I like knowing that something that I do particularly well is useful to others. I challenge myself with some of the things that I do. I have dominants who give me challenges with some of the things they ask me to do. Knowing that I've done my best and given good service helps me a lot. I like the "good work!" and "I've never been willing to try this before but because you made it...." comments I get. I love the approval. I just love knowing I'm doing something that is truly helping someone else. Besides, people in this community get a caterer for the price of the food ingredients!!!

k8trix -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/4/2007 10:44:44 PM)
It could just be that they are totally fulfilled simply by pleasing someone else, by being useful and making someone elses life just a little easier.

Lewcifer -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/5/2007 12:14:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaMspeach For some it is simply the pleasure of serving, nothing more. Or it could be the praise they may get, the joy they see on the Doms face, a pat on the head, the pride they feel when they know they have complete task, the joy of helping others. There are many positive things that can come from simple serving . Bingo... that's the key... feedback. I make sure My slave wife receives plenty of feedback for the things she does for Me. That includes not only praise for a job well done (including making a "home" for Me), but also My taking the time to explain to her that I realize how much work these tasks are. I purposely make sure My reply is not always just "thanks" - and I often find that when I do offer to help, her wish is for Me to just sit back and relax while she takes care of household tasks for Me.

TheEvilBstardsMo -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/5/2007 5:43:09 AM)
The absolute joy of knowing that you have made someone else's day go a little easier and a little better. In my early days serving Master, i would clean His house on a Saturday evening while He was out. When He returned, He would have a clean smelling house with everything in order. He said it always made Him feel good when He opened the door. That was my reward. :-)

sublimelysensual -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/5/2007 5:43:57 AM)
As others have stated, I simply love to serve. And personally speaking, even non-sexual service can be a huge turn-on. Because it's the knowing that I'm being pleasing that gives a large part of the charge. That isn't to say that I get turned on doing the dishes, but things like giving a manicure or pedicure, polishing boots, well..those do it for me in no time. Looking up and seeing the enjoyment, or even just serenity on a Dom's face as I do His nails -shivers-. Nothing overtly sexual about it, but the satisfaction in the serving is just as high as it would be giving oral or anything else sexual. Just my two cents, as always... -a

meticulousgirl -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/5/2007 6:56:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stef Personal satisfaction. Knowing that you have helped make someone's day easier or better or happier. Sparing them the drudgery of a task you know they would rather not do. Service is it's own reward. ~stef Exactly but I just want to add that just because we enjoy being of service in the domestic sense doesn't mean that we dont like to engage in the physical side as well. When i serve domesticly it's more of the fact that i'm being used, i'm happy that i can be doing something to make someone elses life easier it's kind of gratification or both roles there if a slave or submissive really does enjoy being used and being seen as pleasing. ~meticulous~

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/5/2007 6:57:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lewcifer quote: ORIGINAL: LaMspeach For some it is simply the pleasure of serving, nothing more. Or it could be the praise they may get, the joy they see on the Doms face, a pat on the head, the pride they feel when they know they have complete task, the joy of helping others. There are many positive things that can come from simple serving . Bingo... that's the key... feedback. I make sure My slave wife receives plenty of feedback for the things she does for Me. That includes not only praise for a job well done (including making a "home" for Me), but also My taking the time to explain to her that I realize how much work these tasks are. I purposely make sure My reply is not always just "thanks" - and I often find that when I do offer to help, her wish is for Me to just sit back and relax while she takes care of household tasks for Me. I can honestly say that if I didn't get some sort of feedback or appreciation shown now and then, I would feel dejected and even taken for granted. Probably because that's how I've felt when I've gone to a lot of effort for others (work, family, friends) and they just enjoy the fruits of my labors without even acknowledging me. [&o]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/5/2007 7:32:57 AM)
A lot of people, specially females, have a hard time chirping up about themselves and getting recognition and attention. They often turn to indirect methods in order to get praise and approval. Service can actually be one of the most common ways for people to use in order to get their kudos and attention, without having to directly ask for it OR directly accept it (accepting praise and being the center of attention can also be an issue for many). But let's also not forget that service doesn't equate to submission and many fabulous vanillas and dominants find great internal fulfillment from providing service to the world.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: What do service slaves get out of it? (7/5/2007 8:06:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross A lot of people, specially females, have a hard time chirping up about themselves and getting recognition and attention. They often turn to indirect methods in order to get praise and approval. Service can actually be one of the most common ways for people to use in order to get their kudos and attention, without having to directly ask for it OR directly accept it (accepting praise and being the center of attention can also be an issue for many). This would be me. In some cases, I can graciously accept praise, but in others, I get downright embarassed..... especially if it leads to the second part of what you wrote above..... being the center of attention. I think some of my personal demons or "issues" are because I've seldom been given credit for having specific knowledge, skills, etc...., and instead have been treated with indifference. Sorry, didn't mean to hijack with my introspective moment. [&:]

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