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MsMorgana -> How to play with an online sub? (7/4/2007 5:56:36 PM)

Hi,

first let me appologise if this question has been answered before, I couldn't find anything on this subject in the other threads or even online though.

My boyfriend had to go away on work for a couple of months and the only way we have to play will be online, with a webcam. Yes, I'm still a bit inexperienced Domme but we seem to get along really well, but now I'm a bit worried as I have no idea how to conduct such a thing online. He's opened to try anything so that makes things much easier for me. But I've never done this and I'm totally clueless. Does anyone have any ideas or tips on what sort of things I can tell him to do since I'm not present?

I would welcome contact from other Mistresses in similar circumstances or that have done this before, to exchange ideas, learn and explore what possibilities are practical online.

I would also welcome contact from any subs to become more aware of their expectations and needs in this kind of situation.

Thank you so much in advance for your help.
MsMorgana




angelslave77 -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/4/2007 6:11:53 PM)

My Dom and I are long distance for most of the time and play via cam and with tasks that he sets for me.
I guess part of it depends on how willing your partner is to get their kit off on cam and inflict pain on themself (if of course pain is your thing), my Dom is fond pegs so that is something we use when playing via cam, and ice and various others toys and so forth but then I am a total exhibitionist and have no problem getting naked on cam.
And tasks can vary, things like you deciding on clothing, when the other person can and cant masturbate, all that kinda stuff that you would do together you can do long distance.
I also blog sometimes publicly and sometimes as private messages just for Master so he is aware of how I am feeling. I am sure others will have much more detailed advice, but thats the kind of thing we do



rob425 -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/5/2007 6:50:55 PM)

One toy that I bought for my mistress is a high joy internet controled dildo. It allows someone to control the toy via the internet. What my mistress has been doing when on her business trips is have me sit on the dildo and tie myself to a chair. She then controls the dildo. It's quite good for when she is away. next I am getting one for her so i can control it



EarthGoddess52 -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/5/2007 6:54:34 PM)

That's just not right....the slave controlling his Mistress' dildo??



EarthGoddess52 -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/5/2007 7:02:43 PM)

If you're interested in chastity and/or bondage, TimeLock is a fun bit of software you can utilize.  You can send an encrypted code to your submissive via email that will dictate when the padlock on his chastity device or ropes or chains, etc. can be opened.  You can choose duration and if he peeks too early, he can be penalized or You can hide the timer and he'll never know how much time is remaining.  It's well suited for long distance.  I play with people on the East Coast and the UK  (I'm in CA)



MsPleasure -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/5/2007 8:43:31 PM)

Where did you find that dildo?



MaamJay -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/6/2007 2:34:47 AM)

Use the time for some education for both of Y/you. Embark on a reading program (google BDSM plus words of interest such as subspace, subdrop, aftercare etc) and then set him some readings around a related theme. Have him email his responses and ideas ... great opportunity for you both to share thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it's easier in writing when you have time to reread and reconsider, than face to face. Both keep a journal (yes I know this is more usually a sub/slave thing but Dom/me journals can be great too!). Set tasks that he must do and provide photographic evidence that he has done them. I have vertigo so I once sent a sub up the tallest building in the southern hemisphere with a camera ... that way I got to enjoy the view too! And I sent him to masturbate in the toilet at Parliament House ... but he bottled out of that one as he got followed in by security LOL! I still got a picture of the toilet ... just no cumstain ;-) Be creative ... I've heard of a system involving the throw of a die and whether the date was odd/even to determine whether a sub was allowed to (a) masturbate at all (b) masturbate only to the edge and then be denied (c) masturbate once and cum (d) masturbate and cum more than once in the night (and dream up more options to suit)! It was a lot of fun ... and the comments including "gimme a 6! i want a 6 dammit! i NEED to throw a 6" LOL were oft-heard.

Good luck!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]



FlaPlaya561 -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/6/2007 2:39:16 AM)

I was on my webcam talking to a Mistress on here and then she asked for my number to call me And i did what i was told to do!



Lockit -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/6/2007 2:00:45 PM)

God I love this place! Saves me so much time!  Computer remote dildos... omg... {rushes to google} hehe  Dakota... look out sweetie... hehe... you are in for big surprises! hehe  I feel so evil... I love it!



Politesub53 -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/6/2007 5:21:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsPleasure

Where did you find that dildo?


Here You go Ma`am
http://www.vibereview.com/sex_toys/high_joy_internet_rabbit_vibrator



missfrillypants -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/6/2007 5:26:13 PM)

my immeadiate thought was "what happens when someone hacks the internet dildo?"
XD



LadyIce -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/6/2007 5:26:20 PM)

webcam



WyckedMystress -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/7/2007 7:18:23 AM)

lol missfrillypants - what a funny thought!!  I wonder if being hacked is the online word for being fisted??  



rob425 -> RE: How to play with an online sub? (7/7/2007 7:54:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: EarthGoddess52

That's just not right....the slave controlling his Mistress' dildo??
I ersonally don't get the point either. I rather put the money towards a different toy.
quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsPleasure

Where did you find that dildo?


Here You go Ma`am
http://www.vibereview.com/sex_toys/high_joy_internet_rabbit_vibrator

Yes there is a rabbit but it's more for girls...

The toy that I have is named 'Ballsy'
http://www.highjoyproducts.com/detail.aspx?ID=10




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